I want to cry and scream and..

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  • JenCatwalk
    JenCatwalk Posts: 285 Member
    To Pu_239,

    While you're right that noones making her starve and lock herself up, he definitely isn't all that concerned about it or her. Relationships take 2 to work and if 1 person is dragging the relationship by themself then its only healthy to get out of that situation, if all else can't be done to help it.
    Are you saying whatever decisions you have made in whatever relationships you have been in never upset your boyfriend?

    I know when i have been with a girl i have done things that upset her, she has also done things that upset me... It's how the cookie crumbles.

    Oh damn I piss my boyfriend off all the time lol. He pisses me off probably even more. But it's stupid little things. If my boyfriend was popping pills and letting his best friend make fun of me, making plans with me then canceling them to hang with the bestie, well that's a whole other picture. And my opinion just plain unhealthy to be around.
  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    Well.. As sad as it is.. All this bickering is now cheering me up :)
    Thank you guys.
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    *not going to quote because it's too long*

    A healthy person decides what their own boundaries are. I don't know any of you in real life, and I don't consider the internet to be my social sphere. I also don't consider this to be "intimate" or "exquisitely personal." It's what happened, and I'm not ashamed. If I wanted to keep arguing about whether or not my sharing of my experiences is appropriate, I might question whether you have some intimacy issues, because you're uncomfortable with even someone else sharing their experiences, let alone yourself, but I'm pretty done with this. I have no issue with you, I don't even know you, and I'm a little confused as to why you've decided you have an issue with me, but again, it doesn't matter- this is not real life, this is a weight-loss forum. Calm down and try contributing something positive :) it's much more helpful! We have enough trolls already :)

    Amen. You really shouldn't have to defend yourself for sharing a personal story, of all things, dear lord.
  • JenCatwalk
    JenCatwalk Posts: 285 Member
    You're welcome. :)
  • Paganrosemama
    Paganrosemama Posts: 86 Member
    You know what the problem is; the so-called boyfriend. Not the friend, not the pills, not even the landlord.

    You know how to fix this. Get rid of him or leave. But you don't want to do this for whatever reason you have. So it seems apparent that you somehow are being 'fulfilled' by this relationship.

    It's your choice. You locked yourself in the room, not your boyfriend. You're enabling his behavior by what you're doing. Get out of there; go for a drive or a walk, get some healthy food, meet other people.

    Tough love, girl. I'd give my sister the same advice I'm giving you. <3

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    This guy, who you said, doesn't support your goals, breaks promises, chooses drugs, and shady friends over your relationship. It's obvious where his priorities are currently...

    You need to figure out what you want out of this relationship, and weather or not it can be worked out...

    Is locking yourself in a room and starving yourself really worth it? Be an Adult- get out of your room, get something to snack on, take a walk, gather your thoughts, and confront your boyfriend and have a conversation like an adult...
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
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    ^not to OP
  • marygee1951
    marygee1951 Posts: 148 Member
    :sad:

    Pathetic. Really pathetic.

    I have sympathy for most people.........There's help available when you're ready for it. Until then....... your choice.
  • BluePHX
    BluePHX Posts: 184 Member
    *not going to quote because it's too long*

    A healthy person decides what their own boundaries are. I don't know any of you in real life, and I don't consider the internet to be my social sphere. I also don't consider this to be "intimate" or "exquisitely personal." It's what happened, and I'm not ashamed. If I wanted to keep arguing about whether or not my sharing of my experiences is appropriate, I might question whether you have some intimacy issues, because you're uncomfortable with even someone else sharing their experiences, let alone yourself, but I'm pretty done with this. I have no issue with you, I don't even know you, and I'm a little confused as to why you've decided you have an issue with me, but again, it doesn't matter- this is not real life, this is a weight-loss forum. Calm down and try contributing something positive :) it's much more helpful! We have enough trolls already :)

    Amen. You really shouldn't have to defend yourself for sharing a personal story, of all things, dear lord.

    LOL. Okay. I really shouldn't have to tell you that sharing a story involving a man you were involved with committing a felony, sex-based offense with a 14 year old boy is wildly inappropriate, but I can see that this is falling on deaf ears. Good for you for finding happiness, and may you only find more in the future. I'm gonna check out other threads now. Tschau.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    To Pu_239,

    While you're right that noones making her starve and lock herself up, he definitely isn't all that concerned about it or her. Relationships take 2 to work and if 1 person is dragging the relationship by themself then its only healthy to get out of that situation, if all else can't be done to help it.
    Are you saying whatever decisions you have made in whatever relationships you have been in never upset your boyfriend?

    I know when i have been with a girl i have done things that upset her, she has also done things that upset me... It's how the cookie crumbles.

    When were you ever with a girl?
    In for answer.
  • JenCatwalk
    JenCatwalk Posts: 285 Member
    To Pu_239,

    While you're right that noones making her starve and lock herself up, he definitely isn't all that concerned about it or her. Relationships take 2 to work and if 1 person is dragging the relationship by themself then its only healthy to get out of that situation, if all else can't be done to help it.
    Are you saying whatever decisions you have made in whatever relationships you have been in never upset your boyfriend?

    I know when i have been with a girl i have done things that upset her, she has also done things that upset me... It's how the cookie crumbles.

    Oh damn I piss my boyfriend off all the time lol. He pisses me off probably even more. But it's stupid little things. If my boyfriend was popping pills and letting his best friend make fun of me, well that's a whole other picture.

    I didn't see any part where she said the friend was making fun of her. That's not cool. The pill popping, I don't agree with. My best friend uses. I wouldn't doubt you know some users too. In a relationship, I wouldn't be with someone who smoke weeds, pops pills, or does any other type of drugs. There are many people that allow it. For all we know the OP can be a pill popper herself.

    She does say that the friend makes fun of her.
    1 - just because your an adult, you are aloud to cry.
    2 - it sounds like you are a prisoner...why can you not leave your room?

    Because I dont want to deal with his friends wise cracks focused at me. Can be anything from my attitiude.. My weight (especially my weight) what im wearing. It dont matter. He picks anything. Worst part is.. My bf doesnt even care. He laughs along with james. No care. Not even when im crying from the hurtful things he says.

    Doesn't sound healthy to me. But hey some people can tolerate it better then others!
  • upgetupgetup
    upgetupgetup Posts: 749 Member
    this thread is a train wreck.

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    This thread is 3 train wrecks...

    OP: since you're not leaving the room tonight, I guess, try to distract yourself from their bull and your stress about it, and relax. Put some headphones on if you have any and watch a movie or some standup online.

    I hope you figure things out. If work's not happening in this town, & you have family in a bigger city, maybe a move is worth thinking about, when you feel a bit calmer. Good luck.
  • JenCatwalk
    JenCatwalk Posts: 285 Member
    Boys... calm down.. I'm sure you both are badass in your own way . Now cool it. Lol.
  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    Thinking people missed the post bout me going out and getting food.. Oh well.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    *not going to quote because it's too long*

    A healthy person decides what their own boundaries are. I don't know any of you in real life, and I don't consider the internet to be my social sphere. I also don't consider this to be "intimate" or "exquisitely personal." It's what happened, and I'm not ashamed. If I wanted to keep arguing about whether or not my sharing of my experiences is appropriate, I might question whether you have some intimacy issues, because you're uncomfortable with even someone else sharing their experiences, let alone yourself, but I'm pretty done with this. I have no issue with you, I don't even know you, and I'm a little confused as to why you've decided you have an issue with me, but again, it doesn't matter- this is not real life, this is a weight-loss forum. Calm down and try contributing something positive :) it's much more helpful! We have enough trolls already :)

    Amen. You really shouldn't have to defend yourself for sharing a personal story, of all things, dear lord.

    I agree! You were just sharing something that could potentially help the OP (and maybe other people reading). I don't see why someone thought it was unhealthy for you to do that. It's ok to be honest, speak out, and be unashamed!
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  • upgetupgetup
    upgetupgetup Posts: 749 Member
    Thinking people missed the post bout me going out and getting food.. Oh well.

    I know you got food, that's great! Just guessing you're probably not going to hang out with them in the living room, and thinking a movie might be more entertaining than listening to them and fuming.

    Although, it's not like there's a lack of entertainment right here, that's true.
  • Textmessage
    Textmessage Posts: 387 Member
    Well.. As sad as it is.. All this bickering is now cheering me up :)
    Thank you guys.

    OP makes dramatic post. Admits to enjoying other peoples' drama.

    Weird....
  • Lleldiranne
    Lleldiranne Posts: 5,516 Member
    Well.. As sad as it is.. All this bickering is now cheering me up :)
    Thank you guys.

    Here's something more to cheer you up, I hope :grin:

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    And please, think about what you are allowing. Decide where you will draw the line. You deserve to be treated with respect. But right now, while you're emotional (and probably still hungry, even though you did get some food), may not be the best time to decide. Protect yourself, too. :flowerforyou:
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  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    Thinking people missed the post bout me going out and getting food.. Oh well.

    I know you got food, that's great! Just guessing you're probably not going to hang out with them in the living room, and thinking a movie might be more entertaining than listening to them and fuming.

    Although, it's not like there's a lack of entertainment right here, that's true.

    Most entertainment I have had all week. Gonna owe $10 for going over my data limit lol
  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    Well.. As sad as it is.. All this bickering is now cheering me up :)
    Thank you guys.

    OP makes dramatic post. Admits to enjoying other peoples' drama.

    Weird....

    I am enjoying the bickering between BeachIron and PU_239.
    My post was to get these thoughts out of my head. Now that I am feeling better and thinking straight.. I can enjoy some stuff.
  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    And please, think about what you are allowing. Decide where you will draw the line. You deserve to be treated with respect. But right now, while you're emotional (and probably still hungry, even though you did get some food), may not be the best time to decide. Protect yourself, too. :flowerforyou:

    Thank you. Im going to straighten this out tomorrow. Loved the gifs.
  • TakinSexyBack
    TakinSexyBack Posts: 300 Member
    Go out there. Totally ignore the idiots and get you something to eat girl!!! Or, take the alternative and climb out a window and go get you something!!!! :-D I feel for you hun. Ive been going thru some **** with my worse half too. Too bad we would go to jail if we strangle them!! Hang in there!
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    @ internet warrior guy,

    Aren't you a bartender???

    Me? I have 2 graduate professional degrees. Should I post your PM this evening about hacking me or your pro ninja skilz?

    Just because you have degree's doesn't mean you work in that field. Bartender is a specific job.

    You send me threatening PMs and then want to do this publicly? Didn't you fail out of freshman biology?
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    LMAO! Well that was fun.
  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    Go out there. Totally ignore the idiots and get you something to eat girl!!! Or, take the alternative and climb out a window and go get you something!!!! :-D I feel for you hun. Ive been going thru some **** with my worse half too. Too bad we would go to jail if we strangle them!! Hang in there!

    No kidding lol.
  • megleo818
    megleo818 Posts: 595 Member
    He is awesome when he isnt around this so caled 'friend'. But this 'friend' is an awful influence (i.e... The pills)

    if you are blaming the 'friend', you are making a HUGE mistake.

    don't blame the 'friend'.

    :-)

    Totally. It's you or the friend. Don't settle. Boyfriend loses the friend, or he loses you. End of story.

    Editing to point out that you're LOCKED IN YOUR FREAKING BEDROOM WITH NO FOOD and your so-called boyfriend doesn't give a damn. Really????
  • upgetupgetup
    upgetupgetup Posts: 749 Member
    Thinking people missed the post bout me going out and getting food.. Oh well.

    I know you got food, that's great! Just guessing you're probably not going to hang out with them in the living room, and thinking a movie might be more entertaining than listening to them and fuming.

    Although, it's not like there's a lack of entertainment right here, that's true.

    Most entertainment I have had all week. Gonna owe $10 for going over my data limit lol

    :)

    I kind of want to hear the chemistry joke...
  • RepsnSets
    RepsnSets Posts: 805 Member
    and here I thought this was a thread about not losing any weight when I read the title :/
  • Parimositabloo
    Parimositabloo Posts: 13 Member
    You are emotional because both of these people are putting your health and life in danger. Here you are on a calorie counting/ workout website. Not far off there are people that are putting OTC or illegal drugs in their body. Do not be unequally yoked. Kick him to the curve. How would you feel if you got pulled over and some loose pills were in the car? You can say it is your boyfriends all you want all the way to jail. That would be horrible. Praying you make the right decision.

    Thats alittle extreme. HE doesnt do pills by himself. He only does them when his friend is over and he brings them. He took 1 pill. (not excusing it.. I hate it). He hasnt done this in about a year. It ISNT a common thing. Im not making excuses.. I hate this but i wish you guys would quit saying stuff like this. And considering I dont drive.. Its kinda hard to get pulled over...

    Honey, if you don't want people writing about it, don't post about it! People are focusing on the bf crap, bcz that is the most troublesome thing in your post. You are in an abusive relationship. I know, I was in one for three years. So really, don't be upset for the comment if you opened the door to them. :/

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