Some people can be super negative when replying to posts...
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Are anyone's breasts shrinking as they lose weight?
You gain weight during TOM?
I know there isn't a magic pill and that you can't spot reduce Bbbbuuutttttt...is there a magic pill and how can I spot reduce.
Oh and....you are disagreeing with me so that means you all are meanies!!!!0 -
Are anyone's breasts shrinking as they lose weight?
You gain weight during TOM?
I know there isn't a magic pill and that you can't spot reduce Bbbbuuutttttt...is there a magic pill and how can I spot reduce.
Oh and....you are disagreeing with me so that means you all are meanies!!!!
I am burning 800 calories during my working outs and eating no more than 1,000 calories a day -- why haven't I lost any weight?0 -
Take for example the person who just called people lazy because they write in the forum for help instead of looking for help in old forum topics. So now we need to research before writing in our own forum?
So we should all take the time to answer you because you don't feel like taking the time to look it up for yourself. :huh:
And let's just ignore the fact that research leads to new information and go by the old information that comes up in searches.
Yeah but there are a lot of things that are universal like "should I eat below 1,200" or "why I am not losing weight, I net 800 calories a day"? If OP was really curious to know if she was the only person who finds the forums to be super negative, a search of the forums will tell her that she is definitely not alone. There is not new info to add here. I am not saying OP is like the worst or anything -- she's new. But you are only new for so long. I am not being negative here AT ALL. Just saying that there actually ARE forum rules and they can be helpful if you want to avoid jerks.
And somebody really hit the nail on the head -- a lot of the negativity are friends joking.
You definitely have a point here. I think a lot of people want individualized attention, and that is why they don't search. But there's really nothing new to add to the weekly "MFP people are so mean!" thread, although not all of them contain instructions on how to ignore bothersome users. I quickly noticed there were 3 or 4 screen names who NEVER had anything helpful to say and am so grateful I don't have to see their snotty remarks any more.0 -
It's just a fact of life on internet forums. I've lurked here for a while and wouldn't say this one is any worse than most. It's much better than some. Anonymity plus an audience brings out the worst in a certain sort of person. The lack of the usual consequences for treating people poorly in real life (such as getting punched in the face or fired) also doesn't help.
Only way to deal with it is to ignore it and carry on. Definitely do not let it discourage you from asking for help, engaging with people, seeking encouragement, and making friends. It's also generally good to read a little before you post and observe good forum etiquette.0 -
I am burning 800 calories during my working outs and eating no more than 1,000 calories a day -- why haven't I lost any weight?
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Ya,well,that one is really annoying.0 -
I am burning 800 calories during my working outs and eating no more than 1,000 calories a day -- why haven't I lost any weight?
Ya,well,that one is really annoying.
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I've lost count of how many times per day we get that one.0 -
On the other hand the majority of people are super supportive when replying to posts. They give an incredible amount of useful information, advice and encouragement to everyone. Some people are super inspirational in what they have achieved , some people are just super funny and make us all laugh, some people are just plain super and they are all on my friends list.
The internet is like real life in as much as you will meet all kinds of people. So you have to be able to deal with all kinds of people.
I myself have a very sarcastic sense of humour some people find me funny some think I am being "mean" we are all different. I don't get butt hurt very easily other people do.
But if you can't see past the negative and take away all the positive things then there is no point being here.0 -
I guess I'm lucky.. MFPs (that reply to my posts) are always nice. I try to always be supportive no matter what anyone posts. There's enough negativity out there, why bring it in here? feel free to add me! :flowerforyou:0
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Its definately not as bad as it used to be....
I find most people when you friend them now are super supportive, but yes on the forums you get the smartasses... they cant help themselves.
They bully and make you feel bad because they obviously have nothing better to do.
Dont stress!!!!
You arent doing anything wrong by asking questions, and you get that nastiness everywhere on the web coz its safe to hide bhind the computer0 -
Are anyone's breasts shrinking as they lose weight?
Yes, thanks to the raspberry ketones.0 -
OP, don't worry about not using the search function. You didn't do anything wrong.
"Please note that this is NOT a guideline against inadvertently posting a question another member has asked before. We explicitly allow members to post questions that have been asked previously by other members. If you see a member post a topic that you think has been asked before by another member, please respond politely or simply move on. However, the same member cannot ask the same question or post the same topic more than once."
If no one posted repeat questions, the forums would cease to exist. You aren't asking for help on your biology paper, you are engaging in a discussion. No reason not to ask what other people think about it. No one is obligated to respond, so complaints about being expected or obligated to help are moot.0 -
On the other hand the majority of people are super supportive when replying to posts. They give an incredible amount of useful information, advice and encouragement to everyone. Some people are super inspirational in what they have achieved , some people are just super funny and make us all laugh, some people are just plain super and they are all on my friends list.
OMG, cannot resist.......
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The fact that negativity comes up as a weekly topic should go to show that some people are horse's patooties.0
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The fact that negativity comes up as a weekly topic should go to show that some people are horse's patooties.
OR it could be that people don't realize that when you post in a public forum online you open yourself up to thousands of different personalities, backgrounds, attitudes, education levels, personal experiences. OR it could mean that people often interpret written text based on these differences as well as the mood they are in. OR it could mean that many people post about eating 1200 calories a day and exercising 400-500 calories and wondering why they don't lose weight and when people come in and tell them to eat more they get righteously indignant and the only reason they posted was to get "support" and not to be told what they are doing is wrong.0 -
I just joined, and I'm liking it so far. But it seems quite a few people are really negative or even mean when replying to other peoples posts. I mean, if someone is asking a question it does no good to reply with a sarcastic comment that insults their intelligence... Just because something is easy for one person doesn't mean it is for another. Right? People ask questions to find answers, not to be ridiculed or insulted. Anyone noticed this???
I believe a lot of people wouldn't be subjecting themselves to such negative posts if they only took the time to research and read posts similar to the one they're posting.
Having to answer the same question again and again tries the patience of many. Especially when the same stupid topics keep coming up after they've been beaten to death in the forums.0 -
The fact that negativity comes up as a weekly topic should go to show that some people are horse's patooties.
OR it could be that people don't realize that when you post in a public forum online you open yourself up to thousands of different personalities, backgrounds, attitudes, education levels, personal experiences. OR it could mean that people often interpret written text based on these differences as well as the mood they are in. OR it could mean that many people post about eating 1200 calories a day and exercising 400-500 calories and wondering why they don't lose weight and when people come in and tell them to eat more they get righteously indignant and the only reason they posted was to get "support" and not to be told what they are doing is wrong.
I'm fine with differing opinions and views. I also understand written words can be taken out of context, because you can't "hear" their tone. However, I have seen some posts that are just nasty and that goes to responses to the OP and to how OP's react. I honestly was just surprised.0 -
Will stretching give me long and lean muscles, like a dancer?
When you hear the same questions over and over, answers can get a little shorter and more blunt. Also keep in mind that many people post responses not just to benefit the OP, but also for the people who are lurking and reading the threads. There are a lot of misconceptions about weight loss and fitness floating around, many of them counterproductive or even dangerous.0 -
I am new here also and if I get rude replies then I will only use the calorie counter and diet and exercise journal. Losing weight is hard enough with out rude people. I am 55 and do not need some one being a smart mouth thinking they are being "cute". Good luck on your journey here.0
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Sorry, but when women post pics of themselves wearing almost nothing and asking anonymous people to rate them, or "tell me honestly, do I look fat?", and then get MAD when others say "You could drop a few pounds", they deserve a good deal of snark for that.
1) we shouldn't be posting half naked pictures of ourselves and asking others to rate them, because that's trashy
2) we shouldn't get mad when we ASK for opinions or advice, then either get mad OR defensive when others give the "wrong" answer
That would stop a lot of unnecessary negativity if only everybody followed the above rules.0 -
You are so right!! I hate to see smart *kitten* answers from people!! Everyone is on here for the same reasons, to learn, get support & help...not to be bashed! Thanks for posting this..I have even seen people post a long comment going on & on about how many people ask the same question (bashing them) but never use that energy to answer the dang question..I just joined, and I'm liking it so far. But it seems quite a few people are really negative or even mean when replying to other peoples posts. I mean, if someone is asking a question it does no good to reply with a sarcastic comment that insults their intelligence... Just because something is easy for one person doesn't mean it is for another. Right? People ask questions to find answers, not to be ridiculed or insulted. Anyone noticed this???0 -
I Think the majority of ppl here are trying to help, motivate, encourage each other. You'll get some negative comments from ppl no matter what message board you post on, it is the interweb, it happens..Keep focused surround yourself with positive ppl and you'll meet your goals..Cheers (add me if you want)0
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Another question then, to all you regular users...a big complaint seems to be that you guys hate answering the same questions, and repetitiveness. So, keeping that in mind, did all of you read the replies to my post before you replied? Because there seems to be quite a bit of repeptitive info. And if I'm not supposed to be allowed to ask a dumb question in the "introduce yourself" forum that has been beaten to death, why do some of you not go through and read allll the pages on this post so you don't repeat what someone else has already said? Or notice that 2 pages back I said I was sorry and now understood everything alot better? Seems like the same thing to me, but obviously I'm not the brightest crayon in the box or I wouldn't have been the OP. (Just figured out what that meant! See, never been on a forum, sorry for not knowing everything like all you glorious posters.) I do though, appreciate everyones input and comments. It's been entertaining as well as informative.
(was this too god aweful long and filled with terrible spelling erros? That I do know, is yes. :P) 0 -
Is it honest or super negative?... Any post could be read either way.... The mood you are in determines what mood the post will be read.
Good Luck!0 -
You are so right!! I hate to see smart *kitten* answers from people!! Everyone is on here for the same reasons, to learn, get support & help...not to be bashed! Thanks for posting this..I have even seen people post a long comment going on & on about how many people ask the same question (bashing them) but never use that energy to answer the dang question..I just joined, and I'm liking it so far. But it seems quite a few people are really negative or even mean when replying to other peoples posts. I mean, if someone is asking a question it does no good to reply with a sarcastic comment that insults their intelligence... Just because something is easy for one person doesn't mean it is for another. Right? People ask questions to find answers, not to be ridiculed or insulted. Anyone noticed this???
I think taking 5 seconds to research a topic oneself and actually reading a few great suggestions is NOT A BIG DEAL. I believe in using the tools at our fingertips first, then, if the answer can't be found through a forum search, ask folks.
People need to be a little more resourceful and proactive. Otherwise, it is laziness, in my opinion.0 -
I understand what you are saying but if people are tired of answering the same questions then move on and dont answer...it`s plenty of people willing to answer that are not tired of it. If someone is new and havent quite figured out the message board then they havent seen previous posts & threads yet..I did the same thing when I first started. Im glad to inform people of the 1200 calorie question that comes up all the time...if im tired then I dont answer & go to bed.I just joined, and I'm liking it so far. But it seems quite a few people are really negative or even mean when replying to other peoples posts. I mean, if someone is asking a question it does no good to reply with a sarcastic comment that insults their intelligence... Just because something is easy for one person doesn't mean it is for another. Right? People ask questions to find answers, not to be ridiculed or insulted. Anyone noticed this???
I believe a lot of people wouldn't be subjecting themselves to such negative posts if they only took the time to research and read posts similar to the one they're posting.
Having to answer the same question again and again tries the patience of many. Especially when the same stupid topics keep coming up after they've been beaten to death in the forums.0 -
Sure you can research it but sometimes it is a little more helpful from people who have been there & done it. That is just how I feel..everyone is different.
You are so right!! I hate to see smart *kitten* answers from people!! Everyone is on here for the same reasons, to learn, get support & help...not to be bashed! Thanks for posting this..I have even seen people post a long comment going on & on about how many people ask the same question (bashing them) but never use that energy to answer the dang question..I just joined, and I'm liking it so far. But it seems quite a few people are really negative or even mean when replying to other peoples posts. I mean, if someone is asking a question it does no good to reply with a sarcastic comment that insults their intelligence... Just because something is easy for one person doesn't mean it is for another. Right? People ask questions to find answers, not to be ridiculed or insulted. Anyone noticed this???
I think taking 5 seconds to research a topic oneself and actually reading a few great suggestions is NOT A BIG DEAL. I believe in using the tools at our fingertips first, then, if the answer can't be found through a forum search, ask folks.
People need to be a little more resourceful and proactive. Otherwise, it is laziness, in my opinion.0 -
The thing that bothers me is that some people are geniunely looking for advice because they are new to weight loss and fitness and whatnot, and some people will reply with something completely ignorant. I admit, I do get tired of all the "I can't lose weight even though I am only eating 400 calories a day", however, I also know that in the past, I have eaten like this many, many times, but I now know better. I was in their shoes at one point, most of us probably were.
One time I asked a question regarding eating and swallowing difficulties, and if anyone has had experience with this. Not looking for a diagnosis, just making conversation, and of course a bunch of people reply with snotty comments telling me to go to my doctor, etc etc. Not once did I say I needed medical advice, just asking if anyone else had experienced this. Its super irritating sometimes, but then, there are some pretty remarkable posts that can deserve a snotty reply. Some are pretty hilarious and entertaining too.0 -
Also, who gives a crap if a topic is posted repeatedly. Don't read it if the topic looks like something that gets posted all the time. It really shouldn't bother people so much. There are millions of members on this site.0
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I think you should all repost the same topic everyday over and over so I can go in like a pro and tell you every answer you seek only being into my 3rd week. :laugh:
Last time I checked I never respond to a post That is repetitive I look for new ones or ones that want opinions. I am very good at giving opinions. I am sure if you go to my profile and read every single thread I have participated in you will probably think I am the biggest A hole on the site. Does that stop me? No Just a little FYI I happen to know what I am talking about atleast HALF the time :laugh:
Most importantly.........DONT post stupid POSTS!!!! If you do then be ready to be called stupid. If you dont know how to ask a question about a subject to get the answer you are seeking and it implies something totally different have an adult help you post. and last but not least........if you dont know for 100% what you are fixin' to throw out there like the wackadoo in the milk convo DONT SAY ANYTHING, that time could be better spent with you researching to make sure you arent talking out of your backside.0 -
Another question then, to all you regular users...a big complaint seems to be that you guys hate answering the same questions, and repetitiveness. So, keeping that in mind, did all of you read the replies to my post before you replied? Because there seems to be quite a bit of repeptitive info. And if I'm not supposed to be allowed to ask a dumb question in the "introduce yourself" forum that has been beaten to death, why do some of you not go through and read allll the pages on this post so you don't repeat what someone else has already said? Or notice that 2 pages back I said I was sorry and now understood everything alot better? Seems like the same thing to me, but obviously I'm not the brightest crayon in the box or I wouldn't have been the OP. (Just figured out what that meant! See, never been on a forum, sorry for not knowing everything like all you glorious posters.) I do though, appreciate everyones input and comments. It's been entertaining as well as informative. (was this too god aweful long and filled with terrible spelling erros? That I do know, is yes. :P)
Sometimes when I browse with my phone, I can only access the first page. That said -- forums tend to happen quickly -- you will sometimes see that lots of people are posting at the same time. Other people just don't read all the responses, say what they want to avoid getting sucked into drama or because lazy.
Thing is, it's not that you can't ask -- I don't think anyone here is being mean to you or negative -- just giving info that will probably be helpful to you at some point. Once you post something, you basically lose ownership of it. I saw you post about getting it now a while back, I continued to talk to others about the topic because essentially what you have done is opened a particular dialog and invited people to talk about your topic. If you want it to be more focused, seriously, check out the groups.0
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