Because I really need to talk!

Everybody here has already told you what to do, and I hope you're ready and strong enough to do it. But I want to tell you something that others did not say: there MIGHT NOT be a man out there for you. We all need to learn to live with ourselves first, and then if the right guy comes along, great; but if he doesn't, we need to build our own happy lives. I have been single for 15 years and I've never been happier in my life. I don't date, because the situation where I live severely limits chances for a woman of my age, but I'm okay with that because I have an income, a good life, and I am happy. You can be too, and I hope you soon will be.

Are you serious!? You are beautiful! Funny thing is..........I feel the same way you feel about yourself is how I feel about myself. Sometimes we can not see our own beauty.....

Just remember--we have nothing to gain by lying to you on here, so believe us when we say he is so self centered that he can't see how beautiful you are. It sounds to me like he is trying to bring you down to feel like he may feel.

You have to take care of YOU. Emotionally and physically! Dumping this guy will be the best thing for you. It's better to do it sooner than later when things get more complicated and he shoots you down so much more that you feel you can't leave your relationship. It's never going to get easier than it will be today. Show him that not only are you beautiful, you're brave and strong enough to walk out on someone who could treat you that way.

Good luck!

The guy is a jerk. This has nothing to do with you. He's a jerk and he's manipulating you and using you.

Dump him. Plain & simple.

Yep.

Furthermore stop relying on men to dictate how pretty/fat/thin/ugly you are.

Have confidence and yourself.

Hi!

I've been using myfitnesspal for a while now, and sometimes I come here and read some posts to get useful info or motivation although I never post (I don't know I didn't feel I have something useful to say). But today I really really need to talk here's the situation:
I feel depress and so ugly, even when I'm trying to eat healthy and exercise I feel is just not enough. I'm in a "relationship" right now and I think is driving me crazy (I'm going to the psychologist next week, so you can imagine how I feel) because according to him, he loves me and wants to be with me but he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship. But I've seeing him writing to some girls (really beautiful girls) asking her out and telling her stuff like he is looking for a real relationship. And I've come to the conclusion that he don't want to be in a relationship with me because I'm ugly, he even sometimes tell me that 'I'm fat' or that 'I look kind of ugly'.
I know how stupid this sound, but I feel horrible this is broken me badly. And lately I'm thinking he's right, guys aren't that interested on me and the few guys who are I don't like him back.
And this feel is affecting my work life, my social life, everything. I just have this feeling that I would ended up alone because I'm not skinny enough!!! and I hate it, I truly hate it.

If your profile pic is of you you have no problems in the looks department I assure you. And I honestly am not one of those people who go around saying nice things to make people feel better. I'm usually terribly sarcastic by nature.

I know plenty of 'ugly and fat' people inside and out who have no problem with getting guys. So that problem does not have to relate to looks. Once you see some terrible people with partners, those thoughts should leave you lol.

My heart goes out to you. I've been called ugly my whole life. I was beat up for it when I was a kid and I have scars on my face to prove it. I found a bf that made me think differently...life went on and eventually I was with someone for 2 years and it was the same situation. After those 2 long years of feeling completely unattractive he told me I was a beautiful person that he cared about and wanted the best for me but he wasn't sexually attracted to me. It cut me, deep. I really loved his family as well so that was also hard. I found pictures of girls (including ex's) in lingerie on his computer. I'm pretty sure he was cheating on me near the end with his current gf which is a long story. It's definitely left a war wound and confirmed what I thought my whole life. And I can't say I've found anyone since that made me feel attractive. I half blame that on me. It's hard to come off as sexy when you don't feel it, and that's half the game.

My advice is leave him, feel terrible. Eventually feel better because flirting with guys can be fun and therapeutic

um you're very pretty and he's a loser. never let a man tell you you aren't attractive.

^^this! If your man doesnt think you're the sexiest thing he can put his arms around, then kick him outta your life! You WILL find someone who adores you.

I have freckles, stretch marks, flab and a flat butt, but my hubby lets me know he adores me, flat butt n all. Dont put up with it, if he treats you bad now, he will never treat you better once you're 'skinny'..

You are far from ugly, you are beautiful and if he can't see that it's his own fault. Seriously it's probably good to see someone and tell them how you feel so the decision to see a phychologist is brilliant!
This man who sounds like an immature boy, is using you and controlling you, he wants you to feel like rubbish so that you feel you can't have someone else when the reality is he's probably the ugly one. If he wants relationships with other girls I can honestly say I doubt any of them will last and he will upset them just like you, you should just get rid of him ensure him that you can do better than a low life like him! Always here for a chat, feel free to add!

You arent ugly. He's using emotional backmail on you. Get rid of him.

Your confidence is shattered because of him. Talk to your friends. Get some support from them. Re-build your confidence and I guarantee you that the right person will come along.

The reason they havent at the moment is purely because they can feel how you are feeling about yourself. Dont make the mistake that many people fall into. Dont love just for the sake of loving.

You have to love yourself before anyone can love you properly. The loser you are with is preventing that from happening!!

You are beautiful and do not deserve to be treated like this. Get out of this "relationship" stat. This is toxic for you.

Not that i want to encourage putting a lot of stock in what other ppl think/say, but...

...for every 1 time that you hear something critical about yourself (e.g. you are 'fat', 'ugly', whatev) there MUST BE AT LEAST *10* other times when someone has THOUGHT something complimentary you and either didn't or couldn't say it directly to you. Unless you live on a farm you must be passing by a number of perfect strangers throughout the day--there's got to be other ppl out there noticing your megawatt smile...