Feeling LESS sexy the closer I get to goal...

Have you talked to your husband?
Chances are he thinks you're looking fit and FABULOUS!

Regardless of how we look we all will have some kind of hangup, you need to learn to be super proud of yourself and love what you have and accept what you can't change (if that's the problem).

Go You!

Thank you for letting me know it's possible to go from 220 to 147. :flowerforyou:

How old is your baby? Hormone levels can go pretty wacky after childbirth and can take a while to straighten out. Rapid weight loss can contribute to hormone imbalance as well. Plus if you are extra tired taking care of the baby, and just the transition to being a mom. All this can mess with your emotions and feelings.

ETA, I see your last post that it has been 2 yrs. You just may be tired from training for the marathon and taking care of a young child. Don't be so hard on yourself, and just enjoy being with your husband. You won't always be on fire, but a comfortable intimacy is fine, and long lasting.

I have lost and gained significant amounts weight many times in my short life so far... but I have definitely noticed what you're talking about. Not every time, but it has definitely happened before.

I often find that I am more critical of my own body when I start to pay more attention to it. I find that I also have much higher body image standards when I'm losing weight - and there are times when I think I look really fat etc. when in fact I am SO much slimmer than before... but when I was bigger, I was always trying to convince myself that I was fine... so I would see myself as slimmer than I actually was (does that make sense?) I.e. when I'm fat, I spend my time trying to tell myself I'm slim and fine, and when I'm slim, I see all my flaws and am convinced that I'm still fat. So I think some of these mind games come into the whole self-confidence and therefore keenness for intimacy etc. I often just have to really try hard to remind myself of how far I've come - and be realistic about things ("You are 50 pounds lighter than you used to be and that is a big difference in your appearance!")

However, the other consideration to make is that you may in fact be becoming a little bit depressed. Feeling unable to be excited about things that previously excited you (e.g. your weight loss), and losing interest in intimacy can be symptoms of depression.
Of course, they can also just be symptoms of being busy and tired!

Finally, I think it is normal to feel surprised by your own lack of excitement when a big long-anticipated goal is right around the corner - when we have been visualising and planning for a big milestone or event for a long time, we can often feel unexpectedly deflated and disappointed when they actually eventuate. I think this occurs because we've built them up so much in our mind, and reality is inevitably slightly less shiny and fantastic than what our imaginations can create... I often find that with all sorts of things - big holidays, achieving work/study goals, birthdays/parties, buying nice things etc... sometimes the real thing isn't as exciting as I imagined it would be! But I think that is a normal psychological response to having anticipated something for ages, and then not knowing what to do with oneself when the thing finally happens!

...I am less interested in being intimate with my husband. I feel aweful because I have NEVER had that kind of problem before. I don't know if this is because of the weightloss (seems like it to me) or if it is because I am just getting older.. (18 when we started dating and now I am 24)

Thoughts?

I'm almost 40 and have been married for 12 years and I still very much enjoy my husband. It's not an age thing - especially since you're only 24! As far as I can tell, that 7-year itch thing is a total myth. Don't feel bad about it, but DO think about seeing your doctor to check your hormones. It's probably just an imbalance that can be easily treated. It's important to get treated so you don't develop emotional hangups. :flowerforyou:

Is anyone else having this problem? This is a bit embarrassing but I'm mostly posting to see if this is common. I started at 220 after having a baby. Then at 187 which was pretty much my pre baby weight, I joined mfp. Now I am 142 and my goal is right around the cornor! I should be excited right?? But the close I get to my goal... the more I am less interested in being intimate with my husband. I feel aweful because I have NEVER had that kind of problem before. I don't know if this is because of the weightloss (seems like it to me) or if it is because I am just getting older.. (18 when we started dating and now I am 24)

Thoughts?

The thought in our culture is "thinner is better". Only YOU know what you feel MOST comfortable with. you can be 150 lbs and be healthier than a 120 lb person with the same dimensions as you. if YOU feel better about the person staring back at you at a heavier weight, there is no reason to gow lower just to reach some arbitrary number on a scale...just make sure to be the healthiest at the weight you choose to be. I have better health than my doctor does and she is 100 lbs lighter than me. I have better health than my counselor who is 10 lbs lighter than me. My bf has better health than I do and he is 10 lbs heavier than I am. If what is staring back at you in the mirror isn't what YOU like, then change it to how YOU like it and forget about that number in the scale. HAPPINESS is much better than any one number on that scale!

THIS 100%.

Being thinner, or smaller doesn't mean you're going to automatically feel great about yourself. I'm 50 pounds overweight, and am very happy with how I look, but am getting concerned with my "health" and not so much my weight. It's really about just feeling good about where you are, and being healthy, at least imo. Maybe try heavy lifting, or getting more fitness goals instead of a number goal. Did you want to lose weight to fit into a certain pair of shorts? To just be that number, or to be healthier? Maybe you just need a reminder of where you wanted to end up and why.

Some times losing weight can affect your sex drive...It is like your body has to catch up with the loss...I feel the same way I was at 360 and I am now at 230...I feel gross...lol skin every where but I have decided to just love me and it will get better!!

Being a wife/mommy is a huge deal. I have 2 boys, and my libido has been a roller coaster. I didn't want to make love during either first trimester because I felt so sick, and I didn't want to make love during either third trimester because I felt huge, clumsy, and unsexy. With my first, I was on fire during the second trimester. Not so much with my second. With my first, I was so busy caring for baby I didn't want sex for a while after. After my second though, I couldn't get sex out of my mind! It's nuts!

As others have said ...hormones...I read an interesting success story yday where the person found that after losing weight her hormone levels (after testing) were skewed particularly cortisol. One of the symptoms was a lack of interest in intimacy among others which have been mentioned. Might be worth a trip to Docs.