Is being a jealous woman something wrong?

Celebi03
Celebi03 Posts: 310 Member
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Like, I am. Even though I try to hide it because it makes me feel inferior. How about you people?

Sorry for not being specific. Jealousy in general, could be about your partner, family, friends, teacher, goals, etc.
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  • nikkimarie330
    nikkimarie330 Posts: 98
    Being jealous is completely normal.

    How you deal with your jealousy is what can make it a bad thing.
  • Celebi03
    Celebi03 Posts: 310 Member
    True - I don't even say a word. I mean, unless I actually SEE something going on.
  • EleneSaM
    EleneSaM Posts: 45
    It depends on how jealous you are, in what situations and what kind of damages your jealousy causes to both you and others.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    Are you talking about in general....or your man and other women?
  • melindasuefritz
    melindasuefritz Posts: 3,509 Member
    Being jealous is completely normal.

    How you deal with your jealousy is what can make it a bad thing.
  • khall86790
    khall86790 Posts: 1,100 Member
    I think it's normal, but it's all about how you then act on the jealousy. Which is 9 times out of 10 to do with your own issues and state of mind.
  • M______
    M______ Posts: 288 Member
    All's fine as long as you aren't a paranoid nutcase then :)
  • Lifting_Knitter
    Lifting_Knitter Posts: 1,025
    Depends on the situation.....
  • PeanutButterLuver
    PeanutButterLuver Posts: 910
    Be more specific. Jealous of what?
  • berriboobear
    berriboobear Posts: 524 Member
    I think it depends on WHY you're jealous, and also HOW you deal with it.

    It's normal to be jealous, also good to talk about it with your significant other.
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    I'm a horrifically jealous person! To be honest, I think I will always be jealous of someone, so I'm working on loving myself, and trying to believe my boyfriend when he says I'm beautiful and have a great body. Some days I believe him, most I don't. But I'm working on it. :)
  • KevDaniel
    KevDaniel Posts: 449 Member
    It happens, it depends on the severity. If your man(or woman) is running up to the store and you wonder what he is doing then yeah that may not be OK. However, if he(or she) is constantly making you feel jealous you have to think about some things. My whole philosophy is I don't do anything I wouldn't be OK with my wife doing. If I want to go hang out with some single girls (which I don't) then I better be ok with her hanging out with a group of single guys.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Context, please.
  • Excuse_less
    Excuse_less Posts: 874 Member
    If you have no concrete reason to be jealous and don't mind pushing him away.............there's nothing wrong with it at all :)

    Talk to him about whatever is bothering you so you can both work on repairing it
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Jealousy is weakness.
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    Jealous of other women, jealous of what others have or jealous within a relationship? What specifically?
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    Its instincts cant be helped lol :) Its how you deal with it that matters like me if I see a girl eyeing my hubby ( and they do A LOT) I just hug him a little tighter and stare at them til they look away lol. My poor oblivious hubby is none the wiser
  • nicolecassandra
    nicolecassandra Posts: 109
    Jealousy is normal, but it also depends on the situation.
  • nikkimarie330
    nikkimarie330 Posts: 98
    If you have no concrete reason to be jealous and don't mind pushing him away.............there's nothing wrong with it at all :)

    Talk to him about whatever is bothering you so you can both work on repairing it

    So true! My girlfriends have ruined MANY relationships by not communicating.
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    Jealousy is weakness.

    That or its called giving a ****
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
    Jealousy...it can certainly suck the fun out of life. If you feel it, you feel it, though.
  • Aviflora
    Aviflora Posts: 85 Member
    Personally, I have a good relationship with jealousy. I only become jealous when something goes terribly wrong in my relationship. I've only been jealous once, and it didn't lie to me. My relationship didn't last much longer than that!
  • KevDaniel
    KevDaniel Posts: 449 Member
    Jealousy is weakness.

    That or its called giving a ****

    So true, plus once you have been cheated on more than once you are kind of gun shy (talking from experience)
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    people confuse jealousy and envy and insecurity all the time.

    I envy Mirey Gal's abs. I wish I had abs like Mirey Gal.
    I am not jealous of Mirey Gal. I have no negative feelins about Mirey Gal.

    I am insecure about my softish belly because there is so much pressure in our culture for women to be thin.
    I am not jealous of thin women with abs, I do not have negative feelings about thin women with abs. My negative feelings about my own body is something I need to work on.

    Jealousy is the fear of someone taking something from you and it is a negative feeling directed at a specific threat. A classic example is your boyfriend spends time with another woman and you fear that he will leave you for the other woman. You become jealous of that woman. Maybe you envy her body. Maybe you are insecure about your body. But your feelings towards her are negative because you are jealous and perceive her as a threat. This is not healthy, not ok, and something that you need to work on in one way or another as it is destructive to carry those feelings around. Either your jealousy is unfounded, or your relationship needs work.

    Capiche?
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    If this question is specifically directed about being within a relationship, then nothing is wrong with slight jealousy if communicated within a healthy way. When it gets batsh#t crazy then you should get out quickly and run.

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  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    people confuse jealousy and envy and insecurity all the time.

    I envy Mirey Gal's abs. I wish I had abs like Mirey Gal.
    I am not jealous of Mirey Gal. I have no negative feelins about Mirey Gal.

    I am insecure about my softish belly because there is so much pressure in our culture for women to be thin.
    I am not jealous of thin women with abs, I do not have negative feelings about thin women with abs. My negative feelings about my own body is something I need to work on.

    Jealousy is the fear of someone taking something from you and it is a negative feeling directed at a specific threat. A classic example is your boyfriend spends time with another woman and you fear that he will leave you for the other woman. You become jealous of that woman. Maybe you envy her body. Maybe you are insecure about your body. But your feelings towards her are negative because you are jealous and perceive her as a threat. This is not healthy, not ok, and something that you need to work on in one way or another as it is destructive to carry those feelings around. Either your jealousy is unfounded, or your relationship needs work.

    Capiche?

    will you marry me?










    just dont tell odusgolp.
  • Chris99mu
    Chris99mu Posts: 352 Member
    Jealous of other women, jealous of what others have or jealous within a relationship? What specifically?

    Much of my day is taken up by being totes jel jel of JustAmyDawn.
  • Celebi03
    Celebi03 Posts: 310 Member
    people confuse jealousy and envy and insecurity all the time.

    I envy Mirey Gal's abs. I wish I had abs like Mirey Gal.
    I am not jealous of Mirey Gal. I have no negative feelins about Mirey Gal.

    I am insecure about my softish belly because there is so much pressure in our culture for women to be thin.
    I am not jealous of thin women with abs, I do not have negative feelings about thin women with abs. My negative feelings about my own body is something I need to work on.

    Jealousy is the fear of someone taking something from you and it is a negative feeling directed at a specific threat. A classic example is your boyfriend spends time with another woman and you fear that he will leave you for the other woman. You become jealous of that woman. Maybe you envy her body. Maybe you are insecure about your body. But your feelings towards her are negative because you are jealous and perceive her as a threat. This is not healthy, not ok, and something that you need to work on in one way or another as it is destructive to carry those feelings around. Either your jealousy is unfounded, or your relationship needs work.

    Capiche?

    will you marry me?










    just dont tell odusgolp.


    Love it.
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
    Jealous of what?
  • LauraRose03
    LauraRose03 Posts: 140
    True - I don't even say a word. I mean, unless I actually SEE something going on.

    Same here^^!!!! It's a good practice to get into. I used to get jealous over everything, like you said, friends, parents, teachers, bosses', etc. It's very normal. I am aware of it and I practice to not be that way, and it's gotten a LOT better! :)

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