Comments that get made on MFP about others...

Then I will get this off my chest...I see alot of women post BEFORE pics when they are 9 months pregnant and their after pics where they are holding a 2 year old child. I think it's great that they've lost weight after having the child, however if they are counting their highest weight at 9 months pregnant, that's not really the truth because they probably lost 20 the moment they gave birth when the baby and the fluid burst out of them. LOL! I kinda think maybe they should weigh just after having the baby and that's THEIR weight (not plus baby and fluid), and take that as their starting weight. Just an observation though. I guess that could also go for people who get the skin surgery and they take off 20 pounds of skin. Did they really lose it? :sick:

I know right?

Getting fat from being lazy and eating lots of bad food deserves more praise for losing weight than someone who loses weight after 9 months of eating for two, uncontrollable food cravings and inevitable physical body changes.

Uh oh, you did it now. In for all the people who tell you you're not supposed to be eating for two anyway.

Ha! I was just thinking the same thing :laugh:

As a mommy of 2, I can't help but put in my 2cents...

Eating for 2? No. When a woman gets pregnant, she is supposed to start eating a mere 300 more calories a day than she did before. That's it! Just 300!!

Secondly, the weight gained during pregnancy is the most difficult type of weight to lose. Ask any doctor or trainer. The hormones associated with that type of weight-gain is mind-boggling, and you're not fully recovered from a pregnancy until your baby is one year-old (physically recovered, hormonally, emotionally, all of it).

Thirdly, after having a baby, you look about 6 months pregnant until you're about 2-4 weeks postpartum. With baby, placenta, fluids, blood, etc etc gone, it would be fantastic if you gave birth and instantly lost 20lbs.

It doesn't work that way.

After having a baby, and after the 2-4 week postpartum mark, you generally lose about 5-10lbs from the weight you were the day before having your baby. That's it.

That being said, any one who has never had a child, or been with a woman who had a child, does not know what they're talking about when it comes to said issue...and if after reading this you still don't have respect/are impressed by a woman who lost a lot of weight after baby then you, my friend, are just ignorant. When you hear "pregnancy wrecked my body"-it's NO joke and NO exaggeration.

My neice who is 4'11" went from 165 back down to 95 pounds in a month and a half after having her baby. I was very impressed and after her second and doing the same thing told me that people who say it's hard to lose the baby weight are merely using it as an excuse. My mother did the same thing after having 4 kids (after each kid). I haven't had a baby so no, I don't know how hard it is to lose baby weight, but I can only go by what those 2 tell me.

My point was, using the pic and weight/measurements just before you are about to give birth to compare it to someone who is not even pregant is not comparing apples to apples. Of course you will weigh more and your stomach will be huge, there is a human inside of you! Kudos to those who can lose all that weight after having kids and to ones who haven't had kids. It's hard either way.

Then I will get this off my chest...I see alot of women post BEFORE pics when they are 9 months pregnant and their after pics where they are holding a 2 year old child. I think it's great that they've lost weight after having the child, however if they are counting their highest weight at 9 months pregnant, that's not really the truth because they probably lost 20 the moment they gave birth when the baby and the fluid burst out of them. LOL! I kinda think maybe they should weigh just after having the baby and that's THEIR weight (not plus baby and fluid), and take that as their starting weight. Just an observation though. I guess that could also go for people who get the skin surgery and they take off 20 pounds of skin. Did they really lose it? :sick:

I know right?

Getting fat from being lazy and eating lots of bad food deserves more praise for losing weight than someone who loses weight after 9 months of eating for two, uncontrollable food cravings and inevitable physical body changes.

Uh oh, you did it now. In for all the people who tell you you're not supposed to be eating for two anyway.

Ha! I was just thinking the same thing :laugh:

As a mommy of 2, I can't help but put in my 2cents...

Eating for 2? No. When a woman gets pregnant, she is supposed to start eating a mere 300 more calories a day than she did before. That's it! Just 300!!

Secondly, the weight gained during pregnancy is the most difficult type of weight to lose. Ask any doctor or trainer. The hormones associated with that type of weight-gain is mind-boggling, and you're not fully recovered from a pregnancy until your baby is one year-old (physically recovered, hormonally, emotionally, all of it).

Thirdly, after having a baby, you look about 6 months pregnant until you're about 2-4 weeks postpartum. With baby, placenta, fluids, blood, etc etc gone, it would be fantastic if you gave birth and instantly lost 20lbs.

It doesn't work that way.

After having a baby, and after the 2-4 week postpartum mark, you generally lose about 5-10lbs from the weight you were the day before having your baby. That's it.

That being said, any one who has never had a child, or been with a woman who had a child, does not know what they're talking about when it comes to said issue...and if after reading this you still don't have respect/are impressed by a woman who lost a lot of weight after baby then you, my friend, are just ignorant. When you hear "pregnancy wrecked my body"-it's NO joke and NO exaggeration.

My neice who is 4'11" went from 165 back down to 95 pounds in a month and a half after having her baby. I was very impressed and after her second and doing the same thing told me that people who say it's hard to lose the baby weight are merely using it as an excuse. My mother did the same thing after having 4 kids (after each kid). I haven't had a baby so no, I don't know how hard it is to lose baby weight, but I can only go by what those 2 tell me.

My point was, using the pic and weight/measurements just before you are about to give birth to compare it to someone who is not even pregant is not comparing apples to apples. Of course you will weigh more and your stomach will be huge, there is a human inside of you! Kudos to those who can lose all that weight after having kids and to ones who haven't had kids. It's hard either way.

Oh hell yeah. Any weight-loss is to be celebrated, and I was more talking to the guy under you and agreeing with the girl above me. I hate when people make the eating for 2 comment lol. And his being lazy comment, well, same thing goes for prego ladies. Most of us are lazy when pregnant!

Hello everyone!:flowerforyou:

Yup, it's me - Yo. Hope all is well?:happy:

I have read each comment with major anguish, I must admit.

Although by now you'd expect I'd be accustomed to the feedback on MFP (funny to think the site is called 'my fitness pal' lol)- judging from our previous threads that received a wave of resistance and littered with insults, I still find myself wondering... Matt and I never claimed to be the best at anything or be the ultimate physical ideal for anyone, we just came here hoping to share with you our hopes and dreams and invite you along the journey, if you wish to do so.

I don't have the most perfect anything, just in the process of self-discovery. I may have a quircky personality, an imperfect smile or change my mind about my haircolor too often, but aren't we all?... I'm fulfilling a lifelong dream at the age of 32 with a wonderful man that sticks up for me and with me through the thick and thin. I never thought I could be this happy.

As someone who works in psychiatry I am accustomed to offensive language and behaviours that often leave to desire. I can deal with that, just as I learn to deal with facing the world through my transformation while further prepping with Matt for competitions.

Some will love it, some will hate it and we can appreciate that.

So THANK YOU for your feedback, as Matt said it is definetly food for thought.


To the dozens of positive comments we receive daily, we THANK YOU wholeheartedly! It brings a massive smile on our faces knowing we have touched you in some way. We greatly appreciate your feedback and often find ourselves with tears in our eyes reading touching messages. You motivate and inspire us to work harder.

So THANK YOU once again and look forward to hearing from you.:flowerforyou: