"You're so lucky to be so thin"

Thank you, OP for starting this topic...there are so many good points everyone has made and comebacks to remember for the next snooty comment I hear.
I am by no means perfect in my diet or exercise routine, but I have lost 10 lbs this year (with just basic calorie watching and some limited trips to the gym). However, around the holidays last year my mom commented to several people standing around the buffet table that my husband and I are health nuts :huh: Then later on she told me I was lucky I don't have a weight problem :huh: folks, I was at least 30 lbs over (which may not be a weight problem to some), but I didn't like the direction my lifestyle habits were taking me. This may sound like an excuse to some, but it's hard for me to have the energy to get up and do because I am still fighting cancer. I am tired all the time, but I swear if I can get my butt off the couch and do any type of exercise - than anybody can do it. Even if you can't workout, most people can practice portion control. My mom has told me she was jealous of me for other things, guess this is part of it too, but her feelings are hers to deal with - in other words, people with mean things to say are the ones with the problem, not us.

I am sorry to the chronically thin people who have posted on this thread...I do hope you reach your goals as well - I honestly, cannot imagine the frustration of trying to gain weight, as gaining seems to be easy for most people. I would get sick/tired of others making comments about me being skinny/thin too.

Im down this road for a second time after gaining 70 lbs with my pregnancy. I lost 105 lbs the first time. I couldn't STAND when people said that to me. They just assume I don't do squat to be that thin. Or when im at a bbq and don't pig out on junk food...people say, Oh your so think why are you so worried about eating, eat something! UGH...That's why I was 230 lbs in the first place...because I ate junk. If I start that again ill blow up in no time! People...I think they are just jealous.

I have to admit, before I started dieting I would look at a lot of people and think that, "They're so lucky, they're skinny and here I am, fat".
But then I got up and started working my *kitten* off, and now I really do realize that a lot of people who are thin weren't born that way, and for all I know, they're doing exactly what I do now.

Exactly. That's been my motivation lately. I saw this really attractive girl at my work the other day in workout gear and she was super thin - then I thought she does the same thing I'm doing!

I don't understand why "you're so lucky to be so thin" is a rude comment? I think it's likely that person trying to compliment you without being awkward...? If I heard that and I have, I say thank you because I assume its them complimenting me and then I tell them I run everyday and eat good and that helps. Because I don't see it as them assuming I just burn a billion calories by existing. I see it as "wow, you've got it together, lucky. that's awesome." Maybe I am naive, but I am not offended when someone takes notice. I work hard and I turn down treats a lot. but in my mind, they dont need to know that. for me, I don't mind at all that they think it's effortless! I'm not working hard for them so I am not looking for any sort of acknowledgment on that...but sure, I will take a compliment on the end result!

I've never said that to anyone, however I have to say it makes me sick to see a thin person that eats garbage all the time and never gains a pound. I however can tell the difference with a naturally thin person that is not healthy, and a person that works hard to maintain a healthy weight and body.

Wow, what a condescending thing to say. Did you totally miss the point of the post?

When I was a young teenager, I could not gain weight, no matter what I tried. I was VERY thin. But healthy and active. Some people were so rude, constantly made ignorant comments, alluded to eating disorders. I would eat anything and everything I could, all the time, including "garbage", just to try to get some curves. I was so self conscious and insecure, I HATED my body. I would have done anything to put on 5 lbs. And it was the judgemental people in the background saying "it makes me sick to see how thin you are" that made me feel even worse.

Ugh. That comment just took me right back to 7th grade.

this is the thing i STILL get to this day.

So unbelievably rude. No one's allowed to say "Wow, you got fat" without being considered rude, but they're allowed to comment unsolicited on anyone who's thin. A woman at work told me to "Go eat a candy bar" and I was so shocked I didn't know what to do. It really hurt my feelings and made me very insecure. To have your body judged and commented on by anyone that feels like dropping a comment isn't fun for anyone, regardless of weight. Everyone has their own issues.

To have your body judged and commented on by anyone that feels like dropping a comment isn't fun for anyone, regardless of weight. Everyone has their own issues.

True. It's not nice to make comments about other people's bodies. Period. As women, we are subject to it and judged by our bodies all the time. It's not healthy.

I've never said that to anyone, however I have to say it makes me sick to see a thin person that eats garbage all the time and never gains a pound. I however can tell the difference with a naturally thin person that is not healthy, and a person that works hard to maintain a healthy weight and body.

Wow, what a condescending thing to say. Did you totally miss the point of the post?

When I was a young teenager, I could not gain weight, no matter what I tried. I was VERY thin. But healthy and active. Some people were so rude, constantly made ignorant comments, alluded to eating disorders. I would eat anything and everything I could, all the time, including "garbage", just to try to get some curves. I was so self conscious and insecure, I HATED my body. I would have done anything to put on 5 lbs. And it was the judgemental people in the background saying "it makes me sick to see how thin you are" that made me feel even worse.

Ugh. That comment just took me right back to 7th grade.

Time to grow up then! You were unhealthy, as I said, eating garbage to put on weight is not healthy.

I do feel there are people who have a genetic predisposition to gain weight, and I grew up being bitter that I was one those people. I do have things that I am lucky to have, though. I am lucky to have a Mom who got me into fitness and working out. I might not have gotten into working out if I was naturally thin, and working out makes me so much healthier and happier. Sure, sometimes it's annoying that I have to work really hard to be thin, and it just comes naturally to some people, but I'm often healthier and stronger than those people. My parents work hard to be healthy and fit, and I'm glad that I had them as an example. They look really good for their age, and people tell me I look younger than I am, so I really shouldn't be complaining about my genetics.

I used to be one of those people that would look at someone and say "you are so lucky to be thin and skinny. Must be nice to not have to wear xl". :grumble: At one point I was ready to throw in the towel and continue letting my myself get bigger but that changed with my son.

But now:
I can't wait for someone to say it to me, because then I can whip out my engagement photo and say "you see this? That was me at 243, and with watching what I eat and exercising I'm now this and I beat some odds." And then just watch the jaws drop.:bigsmile:

Side note though: when I went into the doctor for an eye infection last week, she asked me if I had done weight watcher's or anything of the sort and the expression was priceless when I told her "nope. Those diets in my opinion don't work. I watch my calories, portion size, and exercise." :laugh:

Wat.

I hate when people say this to me. I somewhat understand in the cases people that eat McDonald's every day and never go to the gym but I hate when people assume I'm one of those "naturally skinny" people. Most of the people that say this to me are fat and too lazy to do anything about it so they make excuses for themselves by thinking that everyone that's skinny is naturally that way.

I put a lot of time and effort to see these results. I fast all day, train fasted, then eat one meal that I meticulously plan to fit my macros within at least 3% and I always come in under my calorie goal (except for structured refeed every few months). I'm not complaining because I love doing it and I'm more than happy with my progress but I feel like people don't understand that this has taken a lot of time and thought. It's almost insulting to hear that I'm "lucky" when really I'm just hard working and dedicated.
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Anyone else experience this?

Sometimes, people are lucky to be thin. My brother doesn't work out. He eats what he wants and stays rail thin. He has to work to gain weight. He's been that way all our lives while I'vee always been one to look at a doughnut and gain weight. The difference is in the way our bodies are shaped and built. My brother is built like my mom's family, tall and thin. I'm built like my dad's family, round. If I want to be thinner, I have to work at it. I don't think it is fair, but who said life was fair and I value things that I work for more than I value things that I can do easily. But for some people, they won the genetic lottery and don't have to work at it at all. (This would be my brother.)

Obviously, you fall into a category of having to work for your body and you should be proud of it. You should definitely tell the people who say you're lucky about your accomplishments.

Often the thin comment is said in a disparaging or dismissive way.

I have never felt that anybody ever said this to me as a put down. It's always been more along the lines of 'I wish I could be like you'.

I get if it there's a discussion on fitness or food or anything. Totally stonewalled because "You're lucky you're thin" kind of attitude. I need to hang out with your kind of people!

I've never said that to anyone, however I have to say it makes me sick to see a thin person that eats garbage all the time and never gains a pound. I however can tell the difference with a naturally thin person that is not healthy, and a person that works hard to maintain a healthy weight and body.

Wow, what a condescending thing to say. Did you totally miss the point of the post?

When I was a young teenager, I could not gain weight, no matter what I tried. I was VERY thin. But healthy and active. Some people were so rude, constantly made ignorant comments, alluded to eating disorders. I would eat anything and everything I could, all the time, including "garbage", just to try to get some curves. I was so self conscious and insecure, I HATED my body. I would have done anything to put on 5 lbs. And it was the judgemental people in the background saying "it makes me sick to see how thin you are" that made me feel even worse.

Ugh. That comment just took me right back to 7th grade.

I felt the same way about losing 20 lbs. I did not think I could lose weight and felt very self conscious and insecure. I hated my body and stayed at home most of the time because of it. People in this thread should not judge heavy people. They have their own issues. People can be very disciplined in nearly every area but lack in this one. Some people are not addicted to drugs, to alcohol, TV, sex or anything similar but just have problems controlling their food intake. They may even be active. You can't really judge a person. People are holistic beings. They may be healthier in other areas but just suck at keeping their calories in check.

Rndomgirl.

Thanks, fascinating. Im going to give it a try. My father-in-law fasts once a week for 24 hours and has been doing this for 50 or so years to decrease the effects of ankylosibg spondylitis, a severe arthritis of the spine. At almost 80 he still runs 5 miles a day, so it must be working. Thanks for the info.