30th time I have caught my husband stealing my pain meds!

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  • ReadyToShine
    ReadyToShine Posts: 13
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    BreeNJesse has deactivated their account.

    Just an FYI
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
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    Who does that?

    a drug addict
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
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    And if your husband can steal them, your kids can too. You need therapy and parenting classes.
  • CristinaL1983
    CristinaL1983 Posts: 1,119 Member
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    I think most importantly, why are you asking strangers in an online weight loss forum what you should do with your husband/marriage? Seriously?!

    This^^

    I had a couple ankle surgeries and have prescriptions for pain medications. After my second ankle surgery I got a bottle of 90 percosets (sp?). I didn't take them because I could deal with the pain with just advil but one day my pain level was very high and I went to take one of them and they were all gone (in less than a week). I asked my husband about it and he said that he had taken "a few." TBH, that was just the tip of the iceberg. All of my prescription pain killers would disappear, one day I found him extremely drunk when he was supposed to be taking care of our infant daughter (while I was at work), and then I had to bail him out of jail for drug charges. I offered to send him through rehab, he declined. I left.
  • greentart
    greentart Posts: 411 Member
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    I think most importantly, why are you asking strangers in an online weight loss forum what you should do with your husband/marriage? Seriously?!

    Because sometimes a person needs a non-biased point of view. Responding to someone's search for help like an a*hole is not helpful.

    To the OP: Do you love your husband? You say you believe in Karma, but if so, would you really kick him to the curb because he's addicted/making mistakes? Have you talked to him about it? As most others, I would put the pills under lock & combination (not key, and not a number he would know/identify easily). Get him help. Get the two of you help.
    If this is the 30th time you've caught him, why haven't you addressed it until now?

    If you love him, help him. If he refuses to be helped, then you can make the tough decisions from there. Good luck.
  • Capt_Inzane
    Capt_Inzane Posts: 733 Member
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    150 post and deactivated before page 2

    Wow thin skin
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
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  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
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    Shouldn't you have caught on after the first, oh, 29 times at least?

    No that would take her being sober to pull that off.
  • sweetNsassy2584
    sweetNsassy2584 Posts: 515 Member
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    OMFG! Really?!? You both need help. Get off the damn pills!
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
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    Assuming you aren't trolling...

    Your husband has an addiction issue, not a lying/stealing issue. Stop being a whining brat and try to get him some help ffs.


    This is why I lose faith in humanity. People can't seem to deal with real life issues.
    This! My husband is a pill addict and he knows it. At first it was just an admission to himself and me. Than he realized it was a problem. Than he decided to get clean. It has been 3 years since he last used and it was and is a hard road but for better or worse not till I am tired of it. It took family therapy as well as drug counseling. This is a hard road but one that needs to be taken together.
  • alliemarie77
    alliemarie77 Posts: 378 Member
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    Hey, maybe try putting them where only you know where they are, and try talking to your husband about it.
    If it is really an issue maybe give him an ultimatum.

    I believe in karma also. I also believe in marriage, and if we have a problem we are going to sit and talk until we work **** out. If it still can't be worked out then Atleast I know I tried.

    Good luck!
  • Ramberta
    Ramberta Posts: 1,312 Member
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    Like others have said, he does need help.

    But why did it take 30 times for you to be this frustrated and such?
    After you realized it the first time, you should have done something about it then.
    Not let it keep happening.

    When you live with an addict-- especially one out of rehab and at extreme risk for relapsing-- you get to a point in the road of recovery where you can see a habit forming, or an imminent relapse, but you don't really have concrete proof. You don't want to make unfounded accusations, especially to your loved one. So you wait, and you collect patterns and proof, and then you finally come to a point where they can't deny it any longer and the truth has to come out. People will lie through anything, but eventually all addicts feel guilty enough to come clean and admit their behaviors-- but sometimes only months or years after lying through their teeth.
  • jgollnick
    jgollnick Posts: 73 Member
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    Assuming you aren't trolling...

    Your husband has an addiction issue, not a lying/stealing issue. Stop being a whining brat and try to get him some help ffs.


    This is why I lose faith in humanity. People can't seem to deal with real life issues.

    best response yet.
  • asamuels85
    asamuels85 Posts: 170 Member
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    Keep them locked up!

    He needs help! But remember, just because you married him does NOT mean you have to be the one to save him.

    i disagree, you MAY be tired of the lying and stealing BUT, you PROMISED to see him through his darkest days (or something to that effect) in front of God and everyone on your wedding day.. if you ask me, he REALLY needs you to make that promise a reality and soon. It wont be easy for either of you, but you must have married him for a reason, do not give up on him, help him be the man you met, fell for and had 2 babies with!

    unless things get unsafe for you and kids of course, then, run fast.

    Very sorry to hear your struggles, and i see many folks around here getting on those pills and falling completely apart. you arent alone in your frustrations, support may help you help him. its out there. but do what you feel is right, i wish you all the very best!
  • Valera0466
    Valera0466 Posts: 319 Member
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    I imagine that the type of pills you have are some sort of opiate like oxy contin or oxy codone. I am very serious about this subject because I have 2 siblings and a son that are addicted to pain pills. They are highly addictive. They are a very difficult to break the habit. The addiction can completely change your personality. Your husband needs professional help. That should be your area of focus, not divorcing because of his lies and stealing. Although I do understand your anger, know that he is not in control of what he is doing. This is your life partner we are talking about. If you love him you should help him, not shun him.

    ^^^this^^^ At the same time your help can only go so far. If he isn't willing to get help you may need to consider leaving.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
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    A manager lost his wife due to overdose. She struggled for years with her addiction before it finally killed her. I suggest anyone having to deal with this take it very seriously and get help.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,771 Member
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    For all the people that said "kick him to the curb" or "just because you married him doesn't mean you have to be the one to save him", you made my heart hurt. This is not her boyfriend it's the person she chose to spend the rest of her life with. I got the notion that the people that said that have never dealt with addiction and probably aren't married. If you are married it shocks me that you would end a life long relationship over the something that probably can be fixed.

    You make it sound as if recovery from addiction is as easy as fixing a leaking toilet. Well, it ain't that easy, and "probably can be fixed" is probably being optimistic. This from a recovered alcoholic married to a recovered alcoholic.
  • craigmandu
    craigmandu Posts: 976 Member
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    150 post and deactivated before page 2

    Wow thin skin

    People that have to "look" at themselves as part of a problem in life tend to have thin skins!
  • IamBlackMamba
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    The troll deactivated Peeps.
  • lheaton
    lheaton Posts: 51 Member
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    Divorce is not the answer. Get counseling and work through it. That's what committing your life to someone else means - good and bad, better or worse, in sickness and health...
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