30th time I have caught my husband stealing my pain meds!

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I think I'm divorcing him.

I think you'll stay. If the 29th time didn't do it for you, I think the 30th won't either. Don't talk about it. Be about it.

I don't know you personally but anytime you need to chat/vent im here. We need to be there for each other in ALL THINGS.
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I gave my drug addicted husband 2 chances to quit while he was living at home with me and the kids. I finally kicked him out and said I would give him a year to figure it out but had to want it for himself. After 6 months I gave him an at home drug test (PDT 90, it is a hair test). It came back positive for several drugs...most concerning and alarming was HEROIN! Thank GOD we weren't not living together anymore when I found that out. We had 3 children and I have not seen him since 1999. I have awesome kids that are functioning parts of society. Two already graduated from high school and on to college and working. One is still in high school. He is something we never talked about or looked back to say "what if" because we are a tight happy family. There would have been no happiness with him in our lives. My kids have never asked to see him and he has never come looking for us.

Had I let him stay...chances are he would have brought down me and my children. He now has multiple children with multiple women. I never got child support and still do not. I have never received government or state assistance either, I did it on my own. My children have and always will be my life. I brought them into this world so they are my responsibility...not some grown man that makes bad choices. Let him go make bad decisions on his own and embrace your children. Children should ALWAYS come first and my kids know they are mine ♥ Stay strong and I hope your back gets better!

"I gave my drug addicted husband 2 chances to quit while he was living at home with me and the kids. I finally kicked him out and said I would give him a year to figure it out but had to want it for himself. After 6 months I gave him an at home drug test (PDT 90, it is a hair test). It came back positive for several drugs...most concerning and alarming was HEROIN! Thank GOD we weren't not living together anymore when I found that out. We had 3 children and I have not seen him since 1999. I have the most kids that are functioning parts of society. Two already graduated from high school and on to college and working. One left in high school. He is something we never talked about or looked back to say "what if" because we are a tight happy family. There would have been no happiness with him in our lives. My kids have never asked to see him and he has never come looking for us.

Had I let him stay...chances are he would have brought down me and my children. He now has multiple children with multiple women. I never got child support and still do not. I have never received government or state assistance either, I did it on my own. My children have and always will be my life. I brought them into this world so they are my responsibility...not some grown man that makes bad choices. Let him go make bad decisions on his own and embrace your children. Children should ALWAYS come first and my kids know they are mine ♥ "

This is more eloquently what I wanted to say.

BreeNJesse has deactivated their account.

Are you terribly surprised after some of the mean, rude and downright judgmental replies she got. People please remember just cause you can't see someones face doesn't mean you aren't talking to a real person with real feelings.

You're new here I'm guessing.

Not at all I have been here nearly a year. The OP has also been on here a year with 150 posts. Not a troll. I am quite often disgusted by the replies some people put on here because they are safe behind their computer screens.

Then you must be absolutely mortified when you step outside into the real world.

Btw, longevity of account does not correlate to whether or not someone is a troll. And judging from your post count, yes, you *are* new to the forums.

I don't know what world you live in but in mine people aren't so jaded. And just because it happens here doesn't make it alright. This was not a joke post but someone in pain. And maybe they weren't really but you don't know that so maybe it would be best to put the snarky comments on another post.

The troll deactivated Peeps.

I know this but still think this point needs to be made. This is a quit cold turkey situation for both parties. Husband is clearly an addict stealing from a sick wife 30 times.

Wife (OP's) pain clearly isn't managed if it took her so long to catch on that she was refilling too frequently, furthermore, her Dr. or pharmacy should have caught on. Too much looking the other way, too little actual problem solving. She needs a real solution, possibly surgery. Hubby needs a 12 step. Only bothering to say after deactivation in case anyone else ever finds themselves in these murky waters during a pain medicated injury. IF it's murky and confusing, it's probably time to get some clarity. Fast!

In defense of the OP, she said that was taking the pain meds on "really bad days". If taking the meds sporadically because the pain is being managed for the most part, it would be understandable to overlook the frequency in which the meds are being refilled.

....I don't know what world you live in but in mine people aren't so jaded. And just because it happens here doesn't make it alright. This was not a joke post but someone in pain. And maybe they weren't really but you don't know that so maybe it would be best to put the snarky comments on another post.

Someone in pain .. and out of painkillers ..

The troll deactivated Peeps.

I know this but still think this point needs to be made. This is a quit cold turkey situation for both parties. Husband is clearly an addict stealing from a sick wife 30 times.

Wife (OP's) pain clearly isn't managed if it took her so long to catch on that she was refilling too frequently, furthermore, her Dr. or pharmacy should have caught on. Too much looking the other way, too little actual problem solving. She needs a real solution, possibly surgery. Hubby needs a 12 step. Only bothering to say after deactivation in case anyone else ever finds themselves in these murky waters during a pain medicated injury. IF it's murky and confusing, it's probably time to get some clarity. Fast!

In defense of the OP, she said that was taking the pain meds on "really bad days". If taking the meds sporadically because the pain is being managed for the most part, it would be understandable to overlook the frequency in which the meds are being refilled.

No, actually I think this means she would have some lucid, non drug-hazed days to get her bearings and would be MORE likely to notice them missing. Her condition sounded painful and like it required lots of medicine. Still though, if she weren't in a position to notice, the Dr. or pharmacy should have noticed something after 30 times, if they were being responsible and keeping accurate records, agreed?

ETA: I also wish you had not used the word "defense" of the OP because that implies I was attacking her, when I was actually defending her too. I didn't really feel I was attacking anyone, even the addict. IMO based on the little info provided before deactivation he has a problem, addiction. She has a problem, unmanaged untreated pain. Both problems need solutions that are not to be found in the bottles they are refilling ad infinitum. Pain killers have their use, and have overstayed their welcome in their home apparently, is all I'm saying.

She might not have deleted because of thin skin. She may have had anxiety about sharing personal info online.

You think OP would have thought about that before sharing this personal info online.

Sure, but sometimes people are impulsive, make mistakes, and rethink things later.

Especially people who are 1) upset 2) confused 3) on mind altering substances OR 4) distracted by mind numbing pain.

I hope OP finds the time to read this later and gets the help she and her husband need. Sersly.

30th time? And you never thought about doing anything the second time or the third? He needs rehab and you need to stop enabling him.

And lying about it! I started counting my pills because I was running out of them quicker than I could get them prescribed and honestly thought it was me. I am at the end of my rope with the lying and stealing. Who does that? There is no trust! I know this is supposed to be all happy cheery crap all the time but I'm having a WAY heavy day. I think I'm divorcing him.

You married him .... u r supposed to be with him in his gud and bad .... so y leave ?? get him help and help him urself .... almost every person has the potential to become better .... for me i believe marriages are supposed to be for lifetime .... so should make the right decision in the first time .... help him for the time when u made the decision of marrying him because u loved him

Why are so many people responding to a post in which the poster deactivated their account four pages ago....

Is this a test to see if people actually read the forum before posting there own drivel.....

If it is .... I got a few fails to report. Just sayin.

She might not have deleted because of thin skin. She may have had anxiety about sharing personal info online.

You think OP would have thought about that before sharing this personal info online.

Sure, but sometimes people are impulsive, make mistakes, and rethink things later.

Especially people who are 1) upset 2) confused 3) on mind altering substances OR 4) distracted by mind numbing pain.

I hope OP finds the time to read this later and gets the help she and her husband need. Sersly.

Exactly! I actually just came back here to say that. Anyone that has ever experienced severe pain and then had serious emotional decisions to make should be able to understand how the mind begins to have trouble coping and certainly has no time to keep up with internet people going off on tangents.

To clear up no I'm not a drug addict, I have 4 herniated discs in my neck and I am severe chronic pain with chronic migraine. So yes, I do have pain meds to help me through my really bad days, but an addict no!

if she is counting her own pills, thats a good sign she has her own substance abuse issues. Its easy to blame someone else, its also easy to blame "pain", not as easy to admit you have a problem yourself. I wish her luck.

That doesn't make any sense. I count my vitamins to see how many I have left. People count pills, so they know when to refill it. And to make sure she isn't overtaking them.

And just to clarify, I've never taken prescription pain meds. I took them on one occasion after getting my wisdom teeth out and it was such an awful experience that I always choose pain over that.