Do you like CATCALLS??
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I'm also raising my daughters to speak up when they don't like something. My loyalty is to my daughters, not to defending sleaze ball losers.
But, again to clarify. What the OP said was nice and a compliment and I would appreciate that. I'm talking about the vulgar stuff.0 -
It appears I am in the minority here, but no -- I don't like catcalls. They don't make me smile, they don't make me feel good about myself --- they make me wonder what on Earth possessed a complete stranger to think it's ok to make any sort of statement on my appearance by acting like a drunk frat boy, and then think I am rude because I am not flattered.
I'm with you. It's creepy and it's harassment. I love how guys feel entitled to make comments about our bodies. Oh wait - no, I don't.
I agree with this. It's never happened to me, but I can't imagine that I'd like it.0 -
dont mind since im now 50 years and still get them at times. i'm size14,166lbs.0
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Do I need to state the obvious here.....?
It depends on if the guy is hot or not - - hello!
So True!
Doesn't matter if the guy is hot or not!! If you don't know me, shut the hell up and leave me alone.0 -
I've been groped in my lifetime, too. Don't like that either. Even though the men who did it obviously found me attractive. What makes it okay to yell at or grab women based upon their appearance? It's not a complement. You are being treated as an object.0
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HELL YES they are a compliment. As long as they aren't disgusting or excessively profane, I love them! Pushing 30 years old, with a baby, I'm happy to know I still "got it".0
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I often get comments from dudes walking by that are like: "daaamn girl, I like the way your thighs giggle"
That actually happened. To date it is still the best thing anyone has ever said to me. Ever.
Your thighs giggle? What are you giving them? :huh:0 -
Hate them. I moved to a somewhat sketchy neighborhood last year, and I get honked at (or yelled or whistled or whatever) almost daily going to/from the bus stop. First of all, the extreme release of compressed air is usually right in my f***ing ear, SO NO, I'M NOT HAPPY!!! YOU'VE JUST MADE ME TEMPORARILY DEAF IN ONE EAR!!!!! That's a pretty fast way to piss me off!
Secondly, as I said, the neighborhood is somewhat sketchy, so it makes me feel less safe when it happens - esp. the couple times that the vehicle would actually slow down as I passed. One time a guy was pretty much idling in the street as I passed.....at 5:30am.....in the dark.......with few other cars around......CREEPER!! ><
Yes, I have XX chromosomes, boobs, and all the rest of the package. No, that does not entitle you to be disrespectful! It's not flattering, it's creepy.0 -
i didnt think....just from what you described...that that was a catcall...i would take it as a compliment and be happy.:noway:0
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But if someone was just randomly driving by yelling "Mmmmm....Mmmmm, I know it's Jelly cuz Jam don't shake like THAT", I might find it a little more offensive.
Getting a compliment is nice. Feeling like a piece of meat, not so much.
Wouldn't that be more like a piece of toast...0 -
I like a polite compliment. Please keep anything vulgar to yourself. And I HATE guys who honk as they drive by.
Right. "I honked, yelled something vulgar out the window at a runner and ended up getting laid" said no one ever.
Bob oh boy... You are definitely not from Alabama.0 -
Hate them. I moved to a somewhat sketchy neighborhood last year, and I get honked at (or yelled or whistled or whatever) almost daily going to/from the bus stop. First of all, the extreme release of compressed air is usually right in my f***ing ear, SO NO, I'M NOT HAPPY!!! YOU'VE JUST MADE ME TEMPORARILY DEAF IN ONE EAR!!!!! That's a pretty fast way to piss me off!
Secondly, as I said, the neighborhood is somewhat sketchy, so it makes me feel less safe when it happens - esp. the couple times that the vehicle would actually slow down as I passed. One time a guy was pretty much idling in the street as I passed.....at 5:30am.....in the dark.......with few other cars around......CREEPER!! ><
Yes, I have XX chromosomes, boobs, and all the rest of the package. No, that does not entitle you to be disrespectful! It's not flattering, it's creepy.
I know what you mean. I sometimes have to walk down the road where the prostitutes work to get to one of the art theatres. I try not to make eye contact with all the looking guys. Sometimes they even stop their car and wait for me to walk by (probably they do that to all the women/girls) on that road. I just keep walking right on by. Other guys on the road know that I'm just walking by and they laugh about the whole situation.
We also sometimes rent dance studio space that involves walking down a sketchy alleyway in the evening and I have to ring the doorbell, and wait for someone to let me in. Not gonna lie. I get creeped out sometimes, especially when there is a guy peeing.0 -
I yell "HEY!.....I'm not just a piece of meat! I have a really great personality too!"
Then I slap myself high five, and almost topple over because my head gets really heavy when its that big.0 -
I am glad someone posted this.
As a man... In today's age of political correctness, some of don't feel like it's a positive thing to do that. But, after reading this, it seems as though some women still find it as a compliment. I'm not, by nature, a real forward guy anyway and I am always leary that my compliments might be seen as a line. I love to give sincere compliments and think people in general should do it more.
So, don't be surprised if you ladies receive some. I do believe in giving them.
Thanks for a good topic.0 -
I take it as a compliment because that's what it is.
This is not an area where one need read between the lines.0 -
Curious. Does it matter to women what the guy looks like if it is offensive or not?
Which would be less offensive?
This guys saying "Looking good!" ..or
This guy saying "Looking good!"
Answer honestly.0 -
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I wouldn't know. The only times I've ever been catcalled, it was teenage boys doing it as a joke and usually followed up with something along the lines of "GO EAT A BURRITO!" I even got spit on once as someone drove by.
As such, if anyone was ever serious, I would probably still think it was meant to be insulting.0 -
Although I'm not happy with the idea that men feel they can appraise women who are complete strangers I'm human enough to admit that at my age if someone pays me a compliment I'm not offended and sometimes pleased. No one wants to feel invisible. I usually just smile and walk on. Of course, the comments I get now generally are not lewd and harassing, but fairly polite. More often than not they come from older men who probably don't have much going on in their lives and I feel sort of sorry for them.0
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Always a compliment. I don't care what was said, nor what the person saying it looked like. Make me feel like a piece of meat and I'm yours! (hypothetically speaking...)0
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Love them. Wish they would throw money at me too--that would be a win/win.
Less clothes and a pole always helps :laugh:
Wednesday is ladies amateur night at Big Jim's Booberama.
May have to test out this theory. Note to self: watch Elizabeth Berkley in Showgirls for pole tips.0 -
I am glad someone posted this.
As a man... In today's age of political correctness, some of don't feel like it's a positive thing to do that. But, after reading this, it seems as though some women still find it as a compliment. I'm not, by nature, a real forward guy anyway and I am always leary that my compliments might be seen as a line. I love to give sincere compliments and think people in general should do it more.
So, don't be surprised if you ladies receive some. I do believe in giving them.
Thanks for a good topic.
You have to be careful, because it still can easily come off as an assessment of a woman's sexual attractiveness. It's especially weird because it's coming from a stranger and it's almost always women who are the object of the attention. Women are out on the street living their own lives and going about their own business, they're not presenting themselves for the judgment of any guy who happens to think they're cute. I find that I have to be careful about even looking at men in the street because if you look for more than a second they think you're interested in them.
I have two or three times in my life given a compliment to a strange man (I think they had amazing hair), but they were much younger and I was sure they wouldn't misconstrue the comment. And such great hair had to be celebrated.0 -
Always a compliment. I don't care what was said, nor what the person saying it looked like. Make me feel like a piece of meat and I'm yours! (hypothetically speaking...)
Sometimes it's an attempt to put women in their place: I won't ever know you, but I'm going to pass judgment on you, even if I'm a slobby construction worker with a beer gut.
If young men had the experience of walking down the street and having women and men assess their physical appearance and call out their judgments they wouldn't regard this so casually. Fortunately, the problem of street harassment is getting more attention these days.0 -
I get a lot of attention from men flirting and trying to pick me up. I am flattered. But, I feel bad because they usually end up feeling rejected. But, it's because I'm married and I can't lead men on. I'm friendly as much as I can. I smile and stuff. I'm polite. But, I don't flirt back. And when they ask me out, I find a way to say no and tell them that I'm married. If it's just a little flirting at the coffee shop check out, that's usually fine.
And I always appreciate it when men or women give me compliments while I am out and about. It brightens up my day. When they walk up to me and talk to me. When they shout at me, I don't know how to respond (I'm shy). A sweet comment like the OP mentioned would cause me to just smile.0 -
Curious. Does it matter to women what the guy looks like if it is offensive or not?
Which would be less offensive?
This guys saying "Looking good!" ..or
This guy saying "Looking good!"
Answer honestly.
If all they said was 'lookin' good' it wouldn't bother me if it came from Quasimodo. However, anything vulgar, insulting, vaguely threatening, from either one, would be taken the exact same way: an entitled a$$h0le just shouted at me.0 -
That sounds like a compliment.
To me, catcalls are flirty in an obnoxious way. Or, downright lewd. (One would think they'd be embarrassed, but nope.)0 -
There are different classes of comments. Some are from people who are truly feeling good and also want you to feel good. But others are intended to make you feel worse about yourself. Some people can't tell the two types of comments apart, but most can, I think.
For example, if you're jogging past a fellow runner on a bright sunny day and he says, "awesome form" or "great shirt" or "nice arms", that is a sincere compliment.
But if you are an absolute hot mess in the city on a certain dark, drab night, and a guy nearly trips you on the stairs in a public place, or puts his hands to his chest, or says, "Booka-booka", "boobies!" or "F****** Sl*t" Then he is unfortunately mal-intentioned.
Of course, these are just the two extreme cases, and there is a lot of gray in the middle.0 -
No, I hate them. They make me want to hide and wear a garbage bag.0
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I'd rather have a guy just lift a brow and smile. You know the look. Cat calls are trashy and ignorant.0
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As classy women... we're supposed to be offended at catcalls.
I must not be that classy, because whenever a guy catcalls me it makes me feel AWESOME! :happy:0
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