I am afraid to even post this...

Hey! I know there are a million comments here about all sorts of things, but I just quickly wanted to say that while goals are great and really important, it's even more important to be happy with whatever your outcome is, and not be discouraged if you don't hit the goal you were aiming for. We're all here hitting and missing our goals every day. The point is to keep coming back day after day and just keep going. If you make a bad choice at some point in your day, just let it go and move forward. No sense stressing about something that cannot be undone. Just keep going and doing your best, and you WILL get there.

You said that you don't stick to anything for more than a month, so I challenge you to lean on your friends when it's getting to that point, and we'll be here pushing (and pulling) you along until you look back this coming Christmas and see all the progress you've made.

To Tom, and anyone else that needs motivation or just another friend, feel free to add me. We're all in this for the best and the rest of our lives, so why not have another friendly helping hand?

First off and welcome. I'm glad to hear you're wanting to change your life. Here's some of the tings I've learned:

Forget diets makes changes you can live with the rest of your life

You CAN EAT what you want just in moderation

It didn't take you a few weeks to gain weight and it won't take just a few weeks to take it off. This is a journey, enjoy it! Losing weight can be fun and a way to get some really great friends.

HI Feel free to add me if you want another little helper. we all need encouragement and support.. and maybe sometimes a kick in the butt. Forget the crazy diets and pressure to do it like everyone else. Make a lifestyle change, let your friends help find a way that works for you because we are all different. I promise you that if you stick to it, don't give in and really embrace life and the will to change 100%, then you can do this. but you have to give it 100%.

Best of luck, you wont regret it :flowerforyou:

Reaching out is the hardest step to admit there is a problem. Good for you for being brave. There is hope! Think about the next hour, and not the end result. What can you do now to change your life, and extend it. Take a short walk? Drink some water? You deserve whatever you choose to do. There is a whole community here all over the world who are in the same boat, ready to cheer you on.

Hello Tom: I understand losing the weight is so much more difficult than gaining. I have been every weight possible through my lifetime from very thin to where i am now..Life sure can throw us some curves. But i think you have made a positive step where you are driven to succeed now and losing weight can take a long time ( lose it slowly and steady to keep it off).. But you are right, support is one of the keys, and discipline is another...What keeps me going is the drive to succeed and knowing that if i just keep plugging away i will win the battle. I learned also that this board is a great place to be if you want advice, or support.. Feel free to add me as a friend if you wish..and Good Luck we are rooting for you...Stay focused and stay strong you will achieve your goal!!!:happy:

Welcome to MFP Tom. You can do this and can't wait to read your post at Christmas when you reach your goal!!!

You can do it! Just know that everyday is a day to make a change, don't give up and you will loose the weight.

Sending a request Good luck, you can do this!

HI Tom,
It's a brave thing, stepping out and admitting you need help. That's the first step. As at least one has already said, diets don't work. It's baby steps. Change one thing at a time. Start with what you can. Don't feel you have to deprive yourself of your favorite foods, just realize that it may be wiser not to indulge too often. For me, one of the first things I did was start walking. It was five, maybe ten minutes at the most and I went from there. And I all but gave up drinking my sweet tea. I drink water more than anything else now, although admittedly still not enough most days. Log everything you eat. Some days it may seem frustrating, especially when you see the calories adding up, but it can show patterns and sometimes it can make you rethink a snack. Eat when you are hungry. Don't feel you have to starve yourself. If you stumble, and we all have and do, don't give up. I sent you a friend request. Surround yourself with supportive friends and they will encourage you, and you will find yourself cheering them on as well. One step at a time, you can do this. Good luck!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndVjwkaLGDk

You can start by walking at home with the Lesley Sansome video, and then expand.