Exclusionary clothing stores.
PepperWorm
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I went to Rue 21 fairly recently. The highest their tops go are XL and I can squeeze into them, thankfully.
I was looking for a bandeau once to go under an open-backed dress. One of the employees was there sorting them. I told her I just wanted a nice plain one and we went searching together, but I could neither find one like that nor one in my size. She made an offhand comment that they came 'kind of small anyway' when she looked me up and down. Kind of hurtful, but okay. I was embarrassed and defeated. Walked out empty handed.
One of my goals when I lose half the weight is to Pretty Woman the **** out of the store...or my version anyway. I love Rue 21 and I want to fit into the clothes!!!
Anyone ever have a similar experience at a clothing store?
I was looking for a bandeau once to go under an open-backed dress. One of the employees was there sorting them. I told her I just wanted a nice plain one and we went searching together, but I could neither find one like that nor one in my size. She made an offhand comment that they came 'kind of small anyway' when she looked me up and down. Kind of hurtful, but okay. I was embarrassed and defeated. Walked out empty handed.
One of my goals when I lose half the weight is to Pretty Woman the **** out of the store...or my version anyway. I love Rue 21 and I want to fit into the clothes!!!
Anyone ever have a similar experience at a clothing store?
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I can't wear things from there or 5*7*9 or Abercrombie. Also Victoria's Secret doesn't make a bra size big enough for me cup wise.
But I rock at finding cute clothes elsewhere, so that's no big.0 -
Many years ago, when I was considerably thinner, I walked into a little boutique. The shop assistant looked me up and down and said "There is no point coming in here - we don't cater for fat people".
I was mortified. In a burst of pure evil, I was ecstatic when they went bust a couple of months later...0 -
Yeah... I experience that every time I look at a price tag at Nordstrom.... All stores are exclusionary to some extent. Hell, there is no such thing as "petite" or "short" at Target...0
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Generally not a fan of clothes shopping to begin with, I tended to lean towards t-shirts for summer and sweatshirts for winter, even when I was thinner when I did shop. As such, I never encountered such a rude employee, but if I had, my response would've been significantly nastier. No one deserves to be talked to like that. Also, I wouldn't shop Abercrombie even if I could fit into their clothes. Go google their CEO and his comments.0
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It's simple all you have to say is they dont get your money. Obviously they dont need money and money is not that important to the company.
I wish Lane Bryant had a smaller size sister company because I'd shop there at goal just on principal, but they dont.
Not sure which company I would find worthy enough to have my money when I get to goal? I'll have to research. 0 -
I love Ann Taylor Loft, it is by far my favorite store. I actually worked there for about 3 years ago. For the last 3 years I have not been able to shop there due to my size. They only carry up to a 14 in pants and XL in tops and only up to a 12P in the petite section. I went shopping there over the holiday weekend and to my surprise I can now shop there once again. The 14 pants fit perfectly and I was able to wear a size large in tops. I was beyond excited
My next goal is to be able to get down to a 12P which is like a 10 in regular sizes that way I can buy pants in the petite section as I am only 5 feet tall. 0 -
I can't wear things from there or 5*7*9 or Abercrombie. Also Victoria's Secret doesn't make a bra size big enough for me cup wise.
But I rock at finding cute clothes elsewhere, so that's no big.
I wont even go into a Victoria's Secret because Im positive they dont have anything in my size! I could be wrong but Im a doubtin' it lol0 -
Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.0
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Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.
Honestly, I can't think of a thing that tops this, so I'll just quote it0 -
Many years ago, when I was considerably thinner, I walked into a little boutique. The shop assistant looked me up and down and said "There is no point coming in here - we don't cater for fat people".
I was mortified. In a burst of pure evil, I was ecstatic when they went bust a couple of months later...
^^this might be grounds for a Pretty Woman momentShe made an offhand comment that they came 'kind of small anyway' when she looked me up and down.
^^This is sadly lacking in tact on her part, but could also be the way you took it. Stating that their clothes run "kind of small" isn't a judgment on YOU. It's a fact.0 -
Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.
I dont see the similarities. She went into a store that sales XL tops. She wears an XL I assume at other stores without issue. The company cuts the sizes so small she couldnt wear what she normally wears. How is that good business and a way to make money?0 -
Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.
I dont see the similarities. She went into a store that sales XL tops. She wears an XL I assume at other stores without issue. The company cuts the sizes so small she couldnt wear what she normally wears. How is that good business and a way to make money?
Different stores, different sizing. I'm different sizes in different stores. Her post title is also "exclusionary" clothing stores so that made me think that the issue is stores that cater to different sizes.
Also, she said she can "squeeze" into an XL....
ETA: The OP wants to go all "pretty woman" on the store because she couldn't find her size (which, hello, happens to everyone. sometimes stores run out of sizes!) and because an employee made an offhand comment that wasn't very tactful even though she probably didn't think before she said it and didn't intend to be hurtful.0 -
Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.
I dont see the similarities. She went into a store that sales XL tops. She wears an XL I assume at other stores without issue. The company cuts the sizes so small she couldnt wear what she normally wears. How is that good business and a way to make money?
TONS of companies do this. It's Rue 21. They cater to junior sizes. Walk in ANY department store and go to the junior section. Pick up an XL and it's going to fit like a Medium women's size, maybe a large if you're lucky. Doesn't mean they are at fault or doing anything wrong. It's the store she picked and now she's mad they don't cater to her. Sorry, I love Rue21 but I know I'm 1) too fat and 2) too old to wear their stuff, so guess what? I don't shop there.0 -
My only issue is with the exclusionary sales staff. It's fine if you don't sell my size, just don't judge me because of it.0
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Anyone ever have a similar experience at a clothing store?
I keep hearing how Victoria's Secret has the cutest and softest pjs but I went in there and they didn't have a thing I could wear. I finally got the attention of one of the clerks and asked her "Where's the section with clothes for me?". She just looked at me and said "We only sell clothes to women here." Pffft!
I'm so tired of being excluded because of my gender. Didn't we settle all this sexist exclusionary stuff years ago? Apparently not. Just to show her she wasn't the boss of me I grabbed a black thong and when she rung up the sale I quietly told her "I'm wearing this tonight." Ha ha! Who's laughing now lady?0 -
Anyone ever have a similar experience at a clothing store?
I keep hearing how Victoria's Secret has the cutest and softest pjs but I went in there and they didn't have a thing I could wear. I finally got the attention of one of the clerks and asked her "Where's the section with clothes for me?". She just looked at me and said "We only sell clothes to women here." Pffft!
I'm so tired of being excluded because of my gender. Didn't we settle all this sexist exclusionary stuff years ago? Apparently not. Just to show her she wasn't the boss of me I grabbed a black thong and when she rung up the sale I quietly told her "I'm wearing this tonight." Ha ha! Who's laughing now lady?
All of us? :laugh: :flowerforyou:0 -
My only issue is with the exclusionary sales staff. It's fine if you don't sell my size, just don't judge me because of it.
This. There's been a zillions of times I haven't found something that fit properly, whether it was because they didn't have my size or the cut was wrong. I have a HELL of a time finding shoes that fit, because I have a popular sized foot and it sells out fast.
Plus, I think there's a certain Murphy's Law in place. Whatever it is you're looking for will always be the hardest to find. When I wore a bra in a 32-34A, I could never find them small enough. Now that I wear a 36B, I have a hard time finding THAT size, and notice tons of smaller sized bras. And bigger sized bras. Because human beings are fickle and tend to remember bad experiences more vividly. Everyone can talk about a time they didn't find what they wanted, but you rarely see anyone exclaim, "I went shopping and everything I tried on fit perfectly in the exact color and style I wanted!" :laugh:
But rude sales staff? If I said what I wanted to say about them, I'd get a strike. :devil:0 -
yes. So most stores in the shopping malls are trendy and for teens obviously. I barely squeeze into the size 9 jeans and knowing that I am not the fatest person in the planet told the cashier that they should really order larger sizes as the size 9 jeans barely fit me and I know I fit into a size 9. He told me "you shouldn't say things like that out loud". I couldn't believe it!0
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What I hate about shopping is that the clothes is either expensive or blouses are like Florida outdated sofa prints.Catherine's is the worst,the clothes is so ugly and expensive. Lane bryant has cute clothes but alot of the blouses are ridiculously short and shrink after the first wash.Avenue is in the middle for me as I prefer their clothes and is a bit less expensive.Forget about clothing at the mall,it's non-existant for us big girls which is freaking depressing. I shop at Target sometimes,good thing I'm a little on the taller side at 5'7" because their pants run long...My poor mom wears capri's as pants from there lol I've heard of some online stores but it's a little tricky trying to figure out an accurate size so I don't even bother. It's a miserable feeling for sure.0
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This statement confuses me.I wish Lane Bryant had a smaller size sister company because I'd shop there at goal just on principal,0 -
I went to Rue 21 fairly recently. The highest their tops go are XL and I can squeeze into them, thankfully.
I was looking for a bandeau once to go under an open-backed dress. One of the employees was there sorting them. I told her I just wanted a nice plain one and we went searching together, but I could neither find one like that nor one in my size. She made an offhand comment that they came 'kind of small anyway' when she looked me up and down. Kind of hurtful, but okay. I was embarrassed and defeated. Walked out empty handed.
One of my goals when I lose half the weight is to Pretty Woman the **** out of the store...or my version anyway. I love Rue 21 and I want to fit into the clothes!!!
Anyone ever have a similar experience at a clothing store?
So they come kind of small (which you are not)..why be hurt by that?0 -
I've always wanted to go shopping dressed as a hooker too! So glad I'm not alone.0
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Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.
Honestly, I can't think of a thing that tops this, so I'll just quote it
And I will double quote it because it was perfect.0 -
This statement confuses me.I wish Lane Bryant had a smaller size sister company because I'd shop there at goal just on principal,
Lane Bryant does not sale small size clothing, so at a certain point you can get to small for their clothing. However, based on the fact they clothed me and provided sizes for me when I was at my heaviest I would still want to patronize them and give them my money. It would be nice if they had a branch in small size clothing. I'm very loyal to a good brand.0 -
Many years ago, when I was considerably thinner, I walked into a little boutique. The shop assistant looked me up and down and said "There is no point coming in here - we don't cater for fat people".
I was mortified. In a burst of pure evil, I was ecstatic when they went bust a couple of months later...
Two years ago, when I was near my peak height, but had lost 10 pounds, I had fallen in love with peacoats. I saved up enough money to buy a very, very nice one. I went into the store, practically prancing. When I dug through the racks and found the only large, I put it on super enthusiastically. As I was buttoning it up, a sales lady rushed over and gave me the "Oh honey, no. Take that off. You'll stretch it out!" I was mortified and left the store in tears.0 -
What I hate about shopping is that the clothes is either expensive or blouses are like Florida outdated sofa prints.Catherine's is the worst,the clothes is so ugly and expensive. Lane bryant has cute clothes but alot of the blouses are ridiculously short and shrink after the first wash.Avenue is in the middle for me as I prefer their clothes and is a bit less expensive.Forget about clothing at the mall,it's non-existant for us big girls which is freaking depressing. I shop at Target sometimes,good thing I'm a little on the taller side at 5'7" because their pants run long...My poor mom wears capri's as pants from there lol I've heard of some online stores but it's a little tricky trying to figure out an accurate size so I don't even bother. It's a miserable feeling for sure.
Have you heard of Torrid? When I was heavier I was right on the borderline of plus/regular size. I actually considered going up a size just so I could shop there. They have the cutest clothes ever! Luckily I came to my senses, but I still dream about the outfits there.0 -
Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.
I dont see the similarities. She went into a store that sales XL tops. She wears an XL I assume at other stores without issue. The company cuts the sizes so small she couldnt wear what she normally wears. How is that good business and a way to make money?
TONS of companies do this. It's Rue 21. They cater to junior sizes. Walk in ANY department store and go to the junior section. Pick up an XL and it's going to fit like a Medium women's size, maybe a large if you're lucky. Doesn't mean they are at fault or doing anything wrong. It's the store she picked and now she's mad they don't cater to her. Sorry, I love Rue21 but I know I'm 1) too fat and 2) too old to wear their stuff, so guess what? I don't shop there.
And to add to this...I can go to Kohls shopping and different BRANDs even run differently.0 -
Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.
^^^ ALL of this.
I'll also say don't go looking for ways to get your feelings hurt. Focus on being a better you and getting what you want out of life. Not everyone on this planet is going to like you, cater to you, or even give a flying ***** about you. It's just the way life works.0 -
I have that problem in EVERY STORE. not because of my weight but because of my height.
I cant find a pair of pants long enough. YES some stores do carry tall but a lot of them arent tall enough or dont come in the pants that i actually want....
and i'm not upset about it. It's just that most stores do not cater to tall women.
So i just wear skirts 90% of the time.....0 -
Different stores cater to different clientele. That's how they make their money. You don't see stores like Lane Bryant carrying my size and I'm not going to complain about that. That'd be like being pissed that a Mexican restaurant doesn't have Chinese food on their menu.
I dont see the similarities. She went into a store that sales XL tops. She wears an XL I assume at other stores without issue. The company cuts the sizes so small she couldnt wear what she normally wears. How is that good business and a way to make money?
Different stores, different sizing. I'm different sizes in different stores. Her post title is also "exclusionary" clothing stores so that made me think that the issue is stores that cater to different sizes.
Also, she said she can "squeeze" into an XL....
ETA: The OP wants to go all "pretty woman" on the store because she couldn't find her size (which, hello, happens to everyone. sometimes stores run out of sizes!) and because an employee made an offhand comment that wasn't very tactful even though she probably didn't think before she said it and didn't intend to be hurtful.
Well I find the sizing of women's clothing sexist and confusing, but that's a different post. I wasnt aware it was a junior store.0
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