"Stop losing weight!" Uggggh.

Ha! I'm 5'5" as well and I started getting the "you're getting too skinny" around 150 ish (which puts me at a size 8 as well). I think you're right on the fact that they're used to seeing you a certain way, so it takes adjusting. Also, not sure about you but certain parts of me get pretty boney ( my chest, collarbones and face) while others stay a bit more "padded" so I appear a bit more gaunt than I am. I would try to take what they say as genuine love and concern... give them a hug and keep on with your journey. If they say it again, assure them you're healthy and happy and not to worry
Best of luck!

My opinion and mine only.
a person in my family would say to me "Your too skinny gain weight"... and then if i gain weight its "when are you going back to the gym". Never happy.. and if I was really skinny that was like hell on earth because then I was skinnier then what she was at my age. Can't please everyone.. but pleasing yourself can sometimes feel way better then making sure everyone around you is happy.
That is really weird that your sister would say that being smaller.... any jealousy?
But best advice is do what you want.
I think you can totally do the 15-20lbs more that you want to lose.
But obviously the healthy way.
I don't think I would worry about what your sister says and have a talk with your mom.
Hope that helps.

I completely relate to this, grrrrrrrr.

I went to my fiance's parents house this weekend and had to endure an awkward conversation with his parents about 'not taing it too far' and how I don't look like me anymore and how my face is 'too thin'. It was embarrassing and I didn't know how to respond at all...

But what I really, really, really wanted to say to his family was this: "You are too fat. You are obese. Perhaps even morbidly obese. You wouldn't have the back problems, high blood pressure and other health complaints which you constantly winge about if you didn't eat so damn much. Lose some weight. You don't look like you anymore. You look like a fat pig."

I hate how people think they have the right to comment on other people's weight loss, body image and goals.

I had someone tell me to eat a cheeseburger the other week. I looked at them and point blank said, "I am still over 200 pounds!"

It's so funny that you bring this up, because I just was talking about this very thing this past weekend. It's like you go through a stage of everyone telling you how awesome you look. The next phase is about a pounds later everyone starts asking you, "Sooo how much more weight are you going to lose?" and comments about being anorexic and too slim start. It's like people are only comfortable with another person losing so much weight and then their perception of you starts to shift or something.

I think there are common stages of weight loss we all go through.

The amount of weight lost may vary from person to person,
but each phase is characterized by friends/family's reactions:

1. INITIATION - 10% (mine)
You have lost weight but no one notices, no one comments.
Your clothes are somewhat looser.
You pout, you have been trying so hard!
For me this was 20lbs.

2. NOTICABLE CHANGE in BODY VOLUME - 18.6 % (mine)
You have lost a significant amount of weight and are starting to look much better, much healthier.
You have dropped several clothing sizes.
Your face has thinned out.
You can see your feet again! Your stomach is no longer blocking the view of your feet while you stand.
Bones that have been encased in flesh are resurfacing.
Why, hello knees! Hello, anklebones! Hiya, hipbones! Wristbones, you are looking sleek!
Everyone starts to make positive comments on how good you look.
However, you still have a significant amount of of weight to lose.
35 lb mark for me
(9 lbs before I get out of the obese category, still have 34 to go to be in healthy BMI).

3. CLOSE to HEALTHY BMI - 38.5% (mine)
People around you start worrying that you are anorexic, that you have an eating disorder.
People who have not seen you since you were at your highest weight
are afraid to bring up your weight loss
because they think you have lost all that weight due to CANCER.
(This happened to my husband after he lost 50 lbs).
Your family thinks you will blow away in a stiff wind
and start telling you to stop losing weight, to start eating "normally" again.

They love you but secretly fear you will end up dying of anorexia like Karen Carpenter.
(Google her, all you young 'uns!)

My mom told me when I got to 117 at age 20, not to lose anymore because:
"You are getting too skinny now, you won't have any figure left."

"Gee, thanks, Mom!"

( I actually looked great from weight of 90 to 125 which is a healthy BMI for my height, 5'. )

People are not comfortable with change and a lot of people don't know what a normal, healthy body looks like anymore.

A larger percentage of people world-wide are overweight/obese than ever before. It's become an unhealthy "norm".

My daughter was looking at my high school and college yearbooks and made the comment that everyone was "skinny".

Most teens/college students/young adults in the 60s and 70s were within healthy normal BMI.

Thin, healthy people are no longer the "norm".

I hear ya. My neighbor was telling me at that weight I looked sick, unhappy and too thin. The veins in my neck were sicking out (??). I gained a few and I'm working now to lose it and a few more. But her comments now tell me I'm obsessed, shouldn't lose more and that it's not healthy. She herself is trying to lose weight, but tells me she will NOT eat like me...and then is confused why she can't lose.

I think everyone has their own ideas, and stubbornly share them. I try hard to block it out and do what I think is best, and check in on here to make sure. I just end up not responding to her and she moves on.

It's weird because almost everyone who tells me to stop losing weight is either overweight or obese. Anyone else notice this?

Yes!! I try hard to take it with a grain of salt..... I think they want company in their weight

It's weird because almost everyone who tells me to stop losing weight is either overweight or obese. Anyone else notice this?

Yup!
My ex sister-in-law is more than twice my size now and absolutely hated that I lost weight and always jumps at an oppportunity to talk smack. Must be a confidence thing or something....

It's really hard. The first time I got these comments ( from overweight family members) I gained it all back again.

Now I am older. I told them once that it was very unhelpful. I still get remarks but I am very good at disregarding them now:) I just know that it's ok to understand that their unhelpful comments are only negatively sabataging something that is important to me now. It is ok to put me first in this regard:)

I hear you on this! I'm 5' 3 and 158 pounds. I wear an 8 or 10 and still have a large stomach and thighs. I still have 28 pounds to lose but everyone is always shocked. I've come this far already, and won't stop until I'm happy. Not going to bust my butt losing all this weight to still not like how I look.

P.S. saw you are from Buffalo. I'm from Rochester.

Yes, I am the smallest person in my family. Even though I am at my goal weight now, they talk to me as if i am still losing weight and I'm not. I think if you want too loose a few more pounds and it isn't going to make you too skinny, then ignore them and take care of you. Good luck!!

This is me to the T. I'm so sorry you don't have a good support system but don't let that bring you back to your bad habits like it did for me. This is not the first time I've looked this good since being a little overweight and having my family there telling me I need to eat more and stop losing weight is really hard. I'm 5'4, tiniest legs you've ever seen and a lot of fat storage around my upper body. It's sort of a Hispanic trait. I've been trying so hard to even out my body but as soon as I am noticeably different my family complains and looks at me weird, gives me negative feedback constantly, teases me, talks about it in front of my other family members, and it's so embarrassing. I've lost about 20 lbs and I'm so happy for myself. However, my goal weight is 125, I'm 135 now so I'm far from there and it's getting harder and harder to get this last back roll and belly pudge. My family is already on my case about how I am now and I'm worried I won't be able to be at the normal and healthy weight I've always dreamed of. Don't let it stop you!

My MIL recently had this exact same talk with me, she told me that I'm too obsessed with my body and doesn't understand why I'm still eating clean, working out and counting calories. I explained I'd never quit doing that, it's a lifestyle change, she said "I thought you were at your goal weight?" I said "I am at my first ultimate goal weight but wouldn't mind seeing 115 or even 110 on my scale (I'm 5'1.5 and at 117 lbs now.)" She says "Well you're going over board, working out like you do and obsessing over what you eat, that's not healthy, you're going to be a sack of bones." I told her that working out isn't going to make me a sack of bones and eating healthy isn't going to make me a sack of bones, but I refuse to go back to 250 lbs. I kindly asked her to butt out and if I was to really get unhealthy, my husband (Her son) would say something but he see's me naked and knows I still have fat on my bones.