will you ever be happy with your body?

HayleySinclair83
HayleySinclair83 Posts: 4
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Hi, this is my 1st ever post. I am just curious if anyone is happy with their body? I am very close to my goal weight and I am being truthful when I say I don't think I will ever be happy with my body, I am a mum of two young children and have the stripes (stretch marks) to prove it. I'm not sure if getting to my goal will make me any happier with my body.

Is there anyone out there who is actually happy with their body or do we just focus on perfection? Xx
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  • Raynne413
    Raynne413 Posts: 1,527 Member
    I know I won't be. I always thought losing weight would make me happy, and it was always just 5 more pounds. Yet I wasn't happy even when I got down to a size 0. For me, it's not my weight I have to focus on, it's my mental state, and my need for control and stability.
  • redhead1910
    redhead1910 Posts: 304 Member
    My first goal was 150 pounds. I promised myself if I made it there I would be happy forever.But I wasn't. Same story for 140 and 130. I don't think I will personally ever find body love.
  • TravisBikes
    TravisBikes Posts: 674 Member
    No.

    Once I finally get to the point where I'm happy with my weight. I will want to gain more strength, and a more developed muscular body.

    I think I'm at the point that once I get close to any of my goals, I will already be thinking of the next.
  • iysys
    iysys Posts: 524
    i don't think being happy with your body really has anything to do with your body. i think it much more has to do with your mind. i never had any problems with my body at my high weight...and i doubt i will as i reach my goals. i really wish more people could feel the same way. it's sad.
  • HayleySinclair83
    HayleySinclair83 Posts: 4
    Thank you so much for your honest answer. I will get to my weight goal and stop there,as it is easy to keep moving the goal. Then when will it stop? Your reply has made me think, maybe the problem isnt my body or weight, I need to work on my confidence, thank you for replying. I wish you the best x
  • micheleld73
    micheleld73 Posts: 914 Member
    There always seems to be something that can be improved on. I'm working on those chicken wings, flapping thighs and belly flab. But even if that gets fixed, then it will be the cellulite dimples, the extra skin and the stretch marks. AGAIN....there is always something else to work on! LOL
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    Happiness is a choice we make. There are days I am quite happy with the changes in my body and other days I fixate on the few things that just won't be "perfect" and then I am unhappy. I generally focus on choosing happy and realizing that no matter WHAT I do, I will never be a 19 year old centerfold.....ever. So, for a 41 year old mom of two who can comfortably wear a bikini to the beach, wears a size6 and runs half marathons, I'm quite pleased with my body and what it can and does allow me to do!

    edit:typo
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    This is one of the things I'm actually worried about. I'm worried I'll never be satisfied. But as long as I'm healthy and happy overall, I'll keep enjoying myself working out and try not to fret it. =)
  • amann1976
    amann1976 Posts: 742 Member
    some of you may need to seek professional help
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    Sure. I'm happy with mine now. If I can improve on it, fine, but not a top priority.
  • footiechick82
    footiechick82 Posts: 1,203 Member
    I'm pretty happy where I am now, but I know I need to keep pushing to better myself :smile:

    I'm lucky I have no cellulite or spider vains or anything like that. I have a few stretch marks from growing as a kid you can barely see, but my skin is amazing... the one thing I hate, HAIR!!! I have a No-No and I will be taking care of that :bigsmile:
  • butterflyluv1218
    butterflyluv1218 Posts: 430
    I don't so. I mean I think you can not be disappointed with your body but most feel like they always need to improve on something. I will most likely be like that when I get to my "goal".
  • Harlequinndancer
    Harlequinndancer Posts: 86 Member
    I am nowhere near the weight I'd prefer to be at but I'm taking my small accomplishments and letting myself be proud of them. It seems to help me realize I'm actually strengthening myself even though there isn't much visibly changed. The fact I can do a few push-ups now for example. I don't know if I'll be happy per se with the body but I am going to be proud of the fact that I'd done what it took to get there!
  • rgrange
    rgrange Posts: 236 Member
    Nope, get ripped or die 'mirin
  • Fit_Mama84
    Fit_Mama84 Posts: 234 Member
    I don't think I ever will be, so my goal is to hate my body as little as possible. That seems more attainable.
  • SabrinaLC
    SabrinaLC Posts: 133 Member
    I don't think I will be, ever...
    I have hated my body since elementary school.
  • PoopieMonster
    PoopieMonster Posts: 295 Member
    YES. It's a work of art! :love:
  • Lawngirl296
    Lawngirl296 Posts: 46 Member
    Sadly I don't think we are ever "happy" with our bodies but hopefully we get to a place where are content and happy with where we are and what we have done!
  • ProTFitness
    ProTFitness Posts: 1,379 Member
    I think we all have hang ups with our bodies some more then others. Me I have always struggled with my body image. I just had my second baby 8 weeks ago via c section. Before I got pregnant I was pretty happy with my body now I am struggling with the weight that wont go away quick enough. My daughter will be 15 and it took me a long time to learn how to feed my body healthy whole foods and exercise properly and to quit mistreating my body with poison and toxins mentally and physically
  • domgirl85
    domgirl85 Posts: 295 Member
    I think a lot of people need to focus on loving themselves BEFORE getting to their goal weight. If you don't already, you'll just continue to be critical of yourself. I didn't like my weight but I didn't hate my body either.

    If you're aware that you don't love your body (Regardless of size), stop and focus on that for a while. Your mental healthy is way more important than a number on a scale.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    I'm not happy with the fact that I've let my health get out of my control, but I will always love my body... it's the only one I get, and it's strong and resilient.


    The idea of "being happy with your body" can be almost completely mental, and have absolutely nothing to do with the actual shape you're in (which I think is much more likely to be true if you're near your goals.) If you are getting close to reaching your goal weight and you've hit all of your fitness goals, and you're still not happy, you're going to need to get right in your head about your self image.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I'm mostly happy now which is why it's been so hard to be motivated by the little remaining vanity tweaks I want.
  • No_Finish_Line
    No_Finish_Line Posts: 3,661 Member
    I am happy! and i was probably at this weight for many months before i realized that i was just about where i wanted to be. I used to look at other guys in the gym and think i would want to trade bodies with them. I still see guys that have this or that better on them then on me, but I wouldn't trade my body for anyone of those.

    i woke up one day and realized, i'd rather have the body i'm in then a Ferrari!

    And i'm far from perfect! I'm far from where i thought i wanted to be when i started!

    I've got stripes too, so what, makes me a tiger, GRRRRRR!
  • die2fat4love
    die2fat4love Posts: 149 Member
    I have been heavy my whole life and I really thought that once I hit my goal weight the universe would somehow be totally different and the birds would sign to me as I walked by, flowers would sprout where I walked, and life would magically be better. Now, I am not quite at my goal weight but as I far as I know the only thing that has changed is I have smaller boobs, a saggy tummy, lose skin everywhere, and my face looks older because the skin is not as firm as it was. I know that I am healthier and can do more things then I could before (my kiddo appreciates that) but I feel less attractive then I did 350+. Not 100% the outcome I was hoping for...stupid birds don’t sing for me 
  • Runhard13
    Runhard13 Posts: 138 Member
    Im happy now..of course it could always be better but its toned so im more of in maintence mode than weight loss mode
  • sleepingtodream
    sleepingtodream Posts: 304 Member
    I'm trying to encourage myself to be happy with what my body can do (at my goal weight: run, walk, swim, chase after my kids) so I don't push the envelope and try to set another weight goal. I am less than 1 lb from my 2nd goal weight right now and I don't think I need to lose more pounds after this. I would like to gain muscle and lose body fat but I really just want to create lifelong health eating habits and make exercise a priority so I don't all of a sudden Iook in the mirror and wonder were those 25 lbs came from.

    I need to work on feeling confident with my body and not so worried that I'm going to gain weight again, but I really believe for a lot of people it's more mental than physical.. Honestly more often than not I am happy with my body but sometime I can really get myself down if I think too much about my imperfections.
  • HoneyDaggers
    HoneyDaggers Posts: 91 Member
    Happy is a state of mind, not a dress size or a number on the scale. I'm happy about my body and I just want to do more and longer.
  • Duck_Puddle
    Duck_Puddle Posts: 3,237 Member
    My body will never be perfect and that's not my expectation. I'm happy with my body now, I was happy with it before. That doesn't mean I don't want to strive to have it be the best it can be. But I'm happy with it. I'm happy it's here, and that it carries me through all the tasks I ask it to do, and that it's starting to look pretty good in clothes. I look at it like my salary. I'm happy with my salary now, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't want a raise. And at what point would my salary be high enough that I'd never want more? I'm perfectly content with my body as is. But I'd also be content with some improvements. But I don't strive for perfection.
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
    Happy? Maybe.

    Satisfied and finished or ready to maintain? Nope.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Seriously? Look at dat *kitten*! Of course I'm happy!



    :tongue:

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