Seriously don't know what to do anymore

it is overwhelming to try to grasp it all at once. I hear you. I have been there, not even wanting to go to fun social events because I was worried about people I know would think about how I looked. the thing is, our weight didn't come on all at once, and it won't come off all at once. but I think it's the little victories that will get you back on track.

start small. grab your baby, put her in a stroller and walk around the block. getting air will do you good. notice how beautiful it is this spring! any movement you can do will help your mood. drink water!! lots of it. and remember that you have a whole community here who have been in the same boat and are here to help. you can do it!!

I came on today looking for motivation, but I saw your post and wanted to reach out.

My best advice is to speak with a dietitian. After learning what I should have learned in high school, I can begin applying it to how I eat. It's saved me tons of wondering if I was following the right 'plan'. And truthfully, I don't have the cash to spend on a 'plan'.

Don't beat yourself up. Be patient. As a working mother of three, you'll find your rhythm. Smile a bit. And join in!

Be okay with slow change. Take your daughter for more walks. Use her as motivation. YOU CAN DO THIS. Imagine how proud you were the first time around.... you need to want that more than anything! I know you do, now PROVE IT! You've got this.

First off, don't talk negatively about yourself (it's a lesson I'm still learning to this very day :grumble: ).

I have a 16 month old, and with going back to college in August, its going to be more difficult, and also once my job at the newspaper starts back up again, it just adds to it. But I suffer from mild post partum depression, along with situational depression with anxiety. I went to therapy, and they said "just give it time."

I started running when I was 6 weeks post partum, and ran my 7th 5k this past Saturday and placed 3rd in my age division (20-24 year old female) and honestly never thought that would happen. When I became a mom, I thought I would never be able to balance this, but somehow, once I started running, it became a lot more clear. I see that little boy of mine and let him be the motivation I need. I want for him to have a mommy when he is 20 (my mom died when I was 20, my mother in law passed when he was 21). Now I dance (I'm actually minoring in Dance, which is surprising that I can still do it at 24, majoring in Journalism), I run, and added Insanity into my work out regiment (before anyone says anything, I was weight lifting but was starting to lose interest and felt that it would be overkill to do weight lifting and Insanity at the same time).

It starts with simple changes and small steps. You can't conquer it all in a day, and reassess from time to time and go from there. You can do this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also if anyone tells you that you can't do this (and trust me that little demon in your head will tell you that), tell them to stick it :bigsmile:

It's great that you are seeing a therapist. I hope that you start feeling better soon. I am currently fighting the same urge to lay on the couch instead of getting up and moving. I do find that getting my kids involved helps to motivate me. I push the baby around the park in the stroller, or bribe my teenagers to walk with me. You can do this. Just set small achievable goals. Feel free to add me. I can use all the support I can get, and would be happy to share my support with you. Good luck.

Quit looking at the big picture and start small.

Start just tracking your food.
Then start trying to keep it under 2000 calories.
When you can do that lower it to 1800.
Then start going on walks...

Doesn't sound like much, but it works in the long run.

+1000

perfect advise