PERSONAL TRAINER THAT'S NOT SO PERSONAL
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Ahmee2034
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OK, so, I hired a personal trainer. I'm about 60 pounds from my goal weight. I want to do this right this time! Anyway, I TOTALLY get the "kick my *kitten* Jillian Michaels" concept. I actually need that sometimes, we all do. But, my question is, my personal trainer seems to be intentionally trying to make it harder on me than it should be. I mean, I've checked with a few people, one of whom has actually run in the Boston Marathon and is a FREAK of a health nut, and she said that there is no way I should be hurting to the point of tears after over a week since my session. Then, I went to my last session, in pain and hardly able to move, hoping that she would help me with exercises that would help me work through the pain, stretching, yoga, etc. Anything to give me guidance. Well, she went off on me because I hadn't called her earlier to cancel my session, which I WASN'T there to cancel my session anyway, I was there to workout. She went into this tirade telling me that another person had cancelled their session for later that evening and that she doesn't understand my mindset that I would show up to workout hurting!!! People in the gym were staring at us! Then she says, "this is a professional relationship. I don't know WHAT is in your mind!" What should I do? I am still working out, running, etc. I'm STILL in pain OVER a week later...Where did I go wrong?
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Find a new trainer.
To be fair, after my first sessions with my trainer, I was sore for a long time. But there is a difference between soreness and pain. I'd find a trainer who I felt I could communicate better. I'd definitely not stick with someone who yells at me.0 -
You pay money for someone to help you get to where you need to be; not belittle you or hurt you. If I were you, I would fire her and find someone with someone else. You do not want to go through everyday with her having it be like that. FInd someone else.0
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Tell her politely but firmly hat you'd like to terminate said professional relationship and get a refund for any sessions paid in advance.
If she's less than forthcoming with the funds, continue to explain that, while you're aware that certain level of ache and discomfort is normal, you believe you may have sustained an injury under her guidance.
Be polite, respectful but be assertive. Then go get a trainer who suits you.0 -
Tell her politely but firmly hat you'd like to terminate said professional relationship and get a refund for any sessions paid in advance.
If she's less than forthcoming with the funds, continue to explain that, while you're aware that certain level of ache and discomfort is normal, you believe you may have sustained an injury under her guidance.
Be polite, respectful but be assertive. Then go get a trainer who suits you.
^^^ agree0 -
Nobody has any right to speak to you this way!!
Absolutely find a new trainer!0 -
Talk to the club manger and see if you can start over witha different trainer, without getting charged0
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She is so fired.
On to the next.0 -
First, fire her. Second go to club manager. Muscle soreness is fine for a few days. If you are in this much pain you may have hurt yourself. Did you see a doctor? Be your own advocate here and tell the trainer to go pound sand. She sucks.0
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punch her in the throat and find another trainer.0
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Tell her to beat it... Trainers are there to help you and motivate you , not hurt you. They should push you to do a little more then you want but not to the point where it hurts a week later.0
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LOL @JXNSMMA.... oh man I was thinking the same thing!0
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Shes right it is a professional relationship and if she is unable to treat you with respect and dignity (i.e belittling you in a gym full of people) then you should definitely find a new trainer. She sounds like a nut. Maybe speak with the gym manager about your situation and see if they can match you up with someone who is more understanding and less of an a-hole.0
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punch her in the throat and find another trainer.
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punch her in the throat and find another trainer.
ahahahah this made me giggle i agree hahha xx0 -
I think after biggest loser, there is often confusion on what is acceptable behavior between the trainer and trainee and the lines often get blurry. Obviously you are not motivated by her behavior so I would terminate this relationship but in the future, I would recommend discussing acceptable limits with your new trainer - just so everyone is on the same page. Regarding your pain, is it simply muscle soreness or is it more? You need to gauge if you should visit the Dr. - don't hesitate if you think you should. Things could get worse.0
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punch her in the throat and find another trainer.
I 2nd this0 -
punch her in the throat and find another trainer.
^^^^^ this is my favorite answer
I work out with a trainer. I get sore and sometimes will hurt for a few days, but (1) never to the point where I'm in tears and (2) if I am that sore he adjusts my workout accordingly.0 -
Find another trainer!0
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Get another trainer. She should be for you not against you. And it should be about holistic wellness not just to kick your *kitten* in the gym. Sounds bad. I'm let her go.0
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Find a new trainer.
Amen. Agree with her and say, "You're right...this IS a professional relationship," continue with..."Sadly, YOU are not".0
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