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PERSONAL TRAINER THAT'S NOT SO PERSONAL
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You pay money for someone to help you get to where you need to be; not belittle you or hurt you. If I were you, I would fire her and find someone with someone else. You do not want to go through everyday with her having it be like that. FInd someone else.
Agreed! You are paying for her to HELP you, not yell at you and make you feel stupid. Good for you for showing up to your workout even though you're sore, that shows dedication! She should have nutured that drive and seen it as a teaching opportunity for healing techniques.0 -
I am sorry to hear you had to go through that OP. Find another trainer, one that wants to help you and is professional rather than one that is trying to be like one of the trainers on The Biggest Loser programmes.
Secondly, soreness and lactic acid buildup is one thing, but if part of you really is in pain and it is a sharp sort of pain, get that sorted, you may have hurt yourself.0 -
First, fire her. Second go to club manager. Muscle soreness is fine for a few days. If you are in this much pain you may have hurt yourself. Did you see a doctor? Be your own advocate here and tell the trainer to go pound sand. She sucks.0
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Clearly she has lost the "professional" part in your professional relationship.
She obviously has some issues in her life that she's taking out on you. And probably
others, since they are cancelling sessions.
Find someone else. You deserve to have someone push you to be your best; not BULLY you.
That's what she's doing.0 -
Yep - it is a professional relationship, you WILL be sore after a really good workout with a trainer but it's perfectly clear that your personalities are not working well together. If the work was too much for you, she needed to be able to listen to your concerns and work with you on making it right. Find a new trainer.0
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Sorry that you're dealing with this trainer... My response would be, yes, it IS a professional relationship - maybe you should start acting more professional. Although you were not in the wrong to show up without canceling (where's the logic in that anyways?), but she should have never demeaned you like that...esp in front of others.
I agree with other commenters - find a new trainer! Good luck and don't let her put you down. Don't let anyone in life put you down.
About the soreness, there may be no shame in taking it easy for another week. Is your whole body sore? Can you work out other problem areas that aren't affected right now? Just remember, you will rip your muscles, but they need time to heal too.
Good luck!0 -
She's correct, it's a professional relationship. You are not satisfied with the job performance that you're paying for, so she should be fired.0
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I've always been a slow to recover person (a good leg workout can have me sore and walking funny for a week). So, don't get too wrapped up in that. The trainer should have been open to listen to your concerns and help you assess whether you need to lower the intensity of sessions or mix in more active rest between sessions. I've found that eating more spinach, kale and berries and taking multivitamins helps reduce my recovery time.
Since you're not her only client, I would have a talk to with the club management. Tell them you don't think the PT you have is a good match and you'd like their help finding another one. This allows the club management to get in the middle and they should support you in getting transitioned to a new trainer (and getting back any prepaid sessions).0 -
I have been lifting for 47 years. I never found it necessary to get an attitude on anyone I taught how to lift weights. Find a PT with better communication skills.
To quote a trainer I had on an 8 Man Crew team, "If I wanted to get yelled at again, I would call my parents for free."0 -
Fire that hooker!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!0
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OK, so, I hired a personal trainer. I'm about 60 pounds from my goal weight. I want to do this right this time! Anyway, I TOTALLY get the "kick my *kitten* Jillian Michaels" concept. I actually need that sometimes, we all do. But, my question is, my personal trainer seems to be intentionally trying to make it harder on me than it should be. I mean, I've checked with a few people, one of whom has actually run in the Boston Marathon and is a FREAK of a health nut, and she said that there is no way I should be hurting to the point of tears after over a week since my session. Then, I went to my last session, in pain and hardly able to move, hoping that she would help me with exercises that would help me work through the pain, stretching, yoga, etc. Anything to give me guidance. Well, she went off on me because I hadn't called her earlier to cancel my session, which I WASN'T there to cancel my session anyway, I was there to workout. She went into this tirade telling me that another person had cancelled their session for later that evening and that she doesn't understand my mindset that I would show up to workout hurting!!! People in the gym were staring at us! Then she says, "this is a professional relationship. I don't know WHAT is in your mind!" What should I do? I am still working out, running, etc. I'm STILL in pain OVER a week later...Where did I go wrong?
First of all, she doesn't sound like a very good trainer. A trainer is supposed to be on your side. A trainer should encourage you, should recommend aiming for OVERALL health (weight loss/gain, body fat %, endurance, strength, eating good food, and drinking lots of water) not solely kicking your butt in the gym, and should push you, but not to the point of a possible injury. You trainer doesn't sound like she's doing a good job at those things. She also just doesn't seem like a nice person. I wouldn't want to pay to work with someone like that. Always remember, YOU'RE PAYING for her services!
Second, there's a difference between soreness and pain. After your first session with your trainer, were you just really, really sore? Or was it actual pain from pulling or straining a muscle or something like that? Soreness is normal and good actually! It means you got a good workout for some muscles that don't normally get much use. But pain is not good. Your trainer should NOT be pushing you to the point of an injury.
All of this is REALLY making me appreciate my trainer all the more! :laugh:0 -
What the hell did she have you do to be hurting a week later?0
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I train with a trainer a couple of times a week. I have NEVER had my trainer speak to me that way. You pay this person to help you reach your fitness goals. Everyone has to start somewhere and the trainer needs to adjust to make sure not to cause you injury. I would complain to management and look for another trainer. There are so many good trainers out there that are in it to see you reach your level of success, there is no point in paying to be miserable. Good luck!!! You will get that 60 lbs just remember to concentrate on overall health and not just moving that scale.0
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"this is a professional relationship. I don't know WHAT is in your mind!"
Is this the part where you two kiss?0 -
punch her in the throat and find another trainer.
Last year I took a fitness boot camp that met in the hills of Griffith Park at 6am 3x/week. I didn't go everyday (getting up early is really tough for me), but I went at least once a week. Our trainer kicked my *kitten*, but was completely supportive doing so, saying how much improvement he had seen in me, even though I didn't go every day. And, though my *kitten* was kicked each time I went, my soreness only lasted a couple of days at most. And I am not a super fit person.
If a fitness boot camp didn't leave me in pain for a week, a personal training session shouldn't leave you on the verge of tears a week later.0 -
What the hell did she have you do to be hurting a week later?
Most personal trainers at he gym don't know what they're doing. SAorry to be so general butthe things I see trainers making people do is nuts.
I saw one having a mid 40's rather out of shape woman use one of thoe half ball things to to burpies.
years ago when I first joined a gym I got one 'free training session' and had seriously never worked out in my life.
Dude had me jumping on steps and didn't explain a damn thing.
Trainers are supposed to TRAIN you. If a trainer can't even see what each different person needs they are a crap trainer.
It's like hair stylists. Every one's hair is different. SO is every one's fitless knowledge level.
Grrrr I hate stylists that don't know how to cut my hair too! Insta-fired.0 -
punch her in the throat and find another trainer.
Come on this is a gym, not a street in the ghetto.
Hit her with a 45lb plate instead.0 -
punch her in the throat and find another trainer.
Hit her with a 45lb plate instead.0 -
She is so fired.
On to the next.
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punch her in the throat and find another trainer.
Come on this is a gym, not a street in the ghetto.
Hit her with a 45lb plate instead.
I think I love you.0
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