Husband won't let me get a dog unless I lose 10 lbs

hmm... hubby sounds like a nutcase. is this an issue?

Akimajuktuq wrote:
It's times like these I'm glad to be single. I don't let anyone manipulate or bribe me and I don't ask anyone's "permission". Besides, as mentioned, you actually get more exercise when you own a dog.

I hate living without a dog. I refuse to live without a dog. It's much easier to live without a husband.

Could not have said this better myself. :drinker: I adore my two girls = unconditional love in fur coats.

OP I wish I was your weight. If you think you need to lose weight, do it for yourself, not for the promise of a dog & for dang sure not for your man. What will happen if you do lose those 10 lbs he wants you to lose, and you gain them back? Dog goes to pound?

Tell him the dog is going to be your exercise partner.

Exactly what I was going to post!

buying a dog isn't like buying a handbag.

it's selfish & childish to bring an animal into a situation where is may be unwanted and resented.
anyone suggesting she just buy the dog should be ashamed of themselves.

Does anyone seem to understand this is a `one sided` post

I am all for women being women and fighting for their femininity etc. but really....she has a husband that wants to eat healthily and is having arguments about her weight.

Was the OP overweight when they got married? Maybe hubby is trying to give her an incentive to lose weight in a nice way, which we are not reading from the OP`s account?

There are 2 sides to every story, don`t always condemn the person from the story of the person that you hear from first

Sometimes is easier to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission, if you know what I'm sayin'.

lol

this! ^^^

I've done this with almost every pet ive ever owned, and never had to take one back yet!

though a puppy might be a wiser choice for the cuteness factor. It will also adapt to the senior cats much faster than an adult.
But adopting a stray is a terrific thing, so I do not want to discourage you there!

My mom did the same thing when she adopted a dog. She still has the dog so her technique worked. My dad didn't like it at first but he usually relents after a while.

Sometimes is easier to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission, if you know what I'm sayin'.

lol

this! ^^^

I've done this with almost every pet ive ever owned, and never had to take one back yet!

though a puppy might be a wiser choice for the cuteness factor. It will also adapt to the senior cats much faster than an adult.
But adopting a stray is a terrific thing, so I do not want to discourage you there!

My mom did the same thing when she adopted a dog. My dad didn't like it at first but he usually relents after a while. She still has him so her technique worked.

though I suggested this somwhat in gest, It can work, but it all depends on your knowledge of the other person and your relationship with him/her.
In my case, i knew once it was a fait accompli, the other person in question would grow to love it. But not all humans are as soft hearted or easily swayed. I have no idea how the OP's husband would react, but hopefully she does.

O_o

Please do not get a dog.

He can't even feed himself properly.

Did you miss the part where she's already at a healthy weight for her height? Looking at her profile pic, she's probably got some decent lean body mass too. She may never lose 10 pounds unless she does something unhealthy. Her husband has issues, that should not keep her from living her life.

he has no business placing a weight loss condition on it.

He didn't place the condition on it - he agreed to a deal that she proposed.

Stick to the deal.

You already tried to get out of the deal that you proposed - he declined and counter-offered with "stick to an exercise plan".

Either lose the 10 lbs or stick to an exercise plan and then get your dog.

While, from your side of this, your husband seems like a piece of work - you should keep deals that you make. And having a dog always involves the whole family so I think he should get some say in it.

He flipped out and said that "the conditions have not been met" and that if I could show him that I cared enough about what he wants by keeping an exercise plan then he would be accepting about a dog.

This, right here ^ is NOT okay.
If you cared enough about what *he* wants??? Is this a joke?
Your body is NOT his. It is yours.

If he is not happy with your body, enough to 'restrict' you as his wife from adopting a dog, you need to seek counseling together or have some very calm & open discussions about how he is coming off as manipulative. It doesn't really seem like this issue is even about the dog for him...

You are an adult. I assume you are working? You contribute to the finances, you are on the title of your home, correct? Then it is your choice whether or not you have a dog for yourself, so long as you are taking full responsibility for it.

Assuming what you have written is basically verbatim...Not in a million years would I put up that.

Good God. Don't get a dog. Get a neutral third party to help you both sort this out.

It would be horribly unfair and would only increase the pressure on eeryone to bring a dog into this. It's already horribly unfair and pressure-filled to have a child in this, but the child is a given. The dog is not yet a given. Don't make it one. Please.

Yes I agree and she should tell him that the dog will be her fitness pal along with the 7 year old. And the 7 year old is probably getting ready to take on some responsibility also.

I "promised" my 13-year old daughter a dog if she maintained a 90+ average for the entire 2012-2013 school year (slap me in the mouth because she is doing it). You can see the comparison here. If that were me, hubby would come home to a kiss from me and something wet licking his ankles. Decision made!!

LOL how are you going to come on the forums and complain about something you created? Babydoll, you brought up the weight loss/ dog trade so if you want that dog SQUAT lol. In all seriousness if you cant stick to a diet and lose ten pound or even 5 then how will you stick to the responsibility of caring for another animal? You already have ALOT of animals dear maybe clean out the cat pantry then bring it up ;D.

He sounds like a sociopath and if he is, he probably wont go to counseling bc in his mind, he is always right. I used to be married to one. I walked on pins and needles for ten wasted years. Just sayin'