controlling partners.

...on the other hand, i'm quite content to have the right guy control pretty much every aspect of my life.

I think a lot of people don't understand this concept. For instance, I ask my fiance before I buy something. I ask him before I go somewhere. I ask him if I can do a lot of things and lots of people think that it's because he's controlling. What they don't consider is 1.) that it's not "Can I go out with my friend on Friday?" it's, "I'm going out with a friend Friday, is that okay?" I am not asking his permission, per se, I am double checking that we didn't have anything to do that day. It's not "Can I buy lunch?" it's, "I'm buying lunch, is that okay?" because I don't control the finances at all and I have no idea if we have money for that and 2.) he extends the same courtesy to me. We run things by each other. My mother hates that. She'll ask me something and I'll say "Let me run that by Nick" and she rolls her eyes. Or I'll tell her, well let me ask Nick if I have the money for that. She HATES that I "let him" have control of the finances, but fact is I have NO interest in doing that! We share our finances, but he controls them and it is one thing we never fight about! lol.

Hate that Im answering this. :explode:
I honestly only know of 1 guy that Id allow to do that to me.
Its not the norm, I know, but what ever "it is" about him, I liked it that way.
Here's what I found tho....
No matter what I did it was never good enough
He always remained a mystery
I would have done anything to be w/him/He did not reciprocate those feelings
All in All.. I will never know. That's what hurts the most.
Would I persue him again. Yes. Im sick like that.

You asked. :blushing:

I had a really controlling friend she demanded all of my time and would get upset when she didn't have it or when I spent time with someone else.

Very disappointed, thought it would be a thread with tips on how to control partners.

Once I had severed ties with this crazy one I contacted former workmates and told them what it had been like being friends with her - and no one believed me!

Everyone defended her.

She was amazing socially, second to none and she was utterly toxic, all the way to the core.

been on both ends. 1st husband...loved a controlling woman. Wanted me to control every aspect of our lives. It was then I figured out I had a child and not a man. Way too much work for me. I need a man to think for himself. 2nd husband....tried to be controlling...um, no. I am a spouse, your equal, not a pet to drag around on a leash. So when I didn't obey his commands he locked himself up in the bedroom with a big butcher knife and bought himself a baker act and a divorce. Third relationship, 11 years, not married, happy, equal, couldn't ask for more!