Negative feedback on my food diary

I'm just the opposite. For me, just like, in the real world, I want the upbeat, as well as the constructive criticism. I am one of these people who is addicted to food. I can very easily b.s. myself, that's why I got so heavy to begin with. I want the truth from people, not just the bubbles and sunshine. That being said, before, I give constructive criticism, I ask the people, do you want my feedback?

To all the "Wow"-zers. Here is someone that is the opposite & needs the motivation. Hehe. Everyone gets motivation to lose weight differently. Everyone takes thier OWN journey to weight loss & getting healthy.

OP- Do it how YOU want to do it. Because in the end it's YOUR journey to make! You can do this girl! Take it one day @ a time! <33

There is a difference between constructive criticism that is asked for, and sticking your nose in someone else's business. The latter is what the thread is about. :flowerforyou:

In respect of the OP, I will take heed to the nipping at my ankles & head out of the conversation here. Good luck with your journey OMGitzj3551k4. Take things one day @ a time & don't let others bring you down. You can do this! & Don't let anyone tell you differently! Take care!

Yeah, I'm pretty sure if someone made an idiotic comment like that to me, they would be right OFF my friends list.

A good day is logging everything you eat, and keeping a healthy conscious mind with food intake and exercise. Just getting off the couch and going for a walk makes it a good day. It doesn't matter if you were over on your calories. You logged it. Make today a better day than yesterday. You are allowed to eat off of your calorie plan. I do it more often than I want, and I hold myself accountable by logging it in my diary.

A year and a half ago before I started this new chapter in my life I ate everything. I ate 3 times the portions I should have. I ate a big snack while waiting for dinner to finish cooking. I probably ate 5000 -6000 calories a day, and that was probably a light day. Now, I eat around 2200 and I burn off 1000 – 1500 calories on average with exercise. So, for me anything under 5000 calorie intake a day is a great day.

You are logging your food and exercise. That makes it a good day. You make healthy choices every day. You are allowed to splurge. If I don't splurge every now and then I know I would have fallen off the wagon as they say a year ago. Keep doing what you are doing and delete that friend. There are plenty of good motivating people on this site that help instead of making discouraging comments. If you need a friend like that feel free to add me.
Keep Punching! All Is Possible! It Is A Choice! No Excuses! Never Quit!!

My food diary is private because I refuse to eat diet food. lol I would rather have smaller portions of foods I enjoy and I eat three pieces of dark chocolate Doves a day. I don't criticize anyone because we are all in this together and we all have the right to eat what we want, and if we gain, we gain. Enjoy what you eat and continue on your path, you are doing great!

I'm sorry you had that kind of experience! far from constructive criticism and there is no need to that kind of "friend" for that kind of crappy support. good job on your weight loss so far!

Don't worry about it. Honesty in your diary is important so you can have an accurate idea of what you are consuming. Good job for being honest and for a good run! If people on your list feel the need to make you feel crudy DELETE THEM.

This is basically what I had planned to write, word for word.

For the record, Vpinklotus is busting at the seems with good advice, ideas, and ways of seeing the world. If she says "This is how it is", that's how it is. Advice well worth following.

I personally love browsing food dairies because I like to see what has worked for people, and just natural curiosity (I leave mine open for the same reason). I read the forums, see someone post a success story, and think to myself "they're the same size and height as me! I wonder what they're doing!" - nothing rude though, just natural curiosity.

I wouldn't post comments like that on just anyone's wall - but if a friend has specifically asked for "tough love" then that's a different story. They could have simply assumed you wanted tough love, too. Maybe nothing malicious behind it at all. Misunderstandings happen. Of course you know yourself, your exercise, goals and diet, better than anyone. That is all that matters.

sounds like instead of making it private, your friends list should be "updated"
seriously? judgy mcjudgersons can take a flyin leap.

Meh....it's just constructive feedback....I doubt they meant it to offend you. I'm sure you're on here to lose weight since you mentioned that you lost 23 pounds so far, so perhaps the person was pointing out where you can improve.

If it bugged you so much, you could have commented on her profile and explained it was your cheat day....or do what I do and ignore it and move on with my day.

If this person would continue to pick at every little thing I do, then I would consider deleting her.

I agree. I want constructive criticism which is why I leave mine open. Periodically, I will explain what my goals are so my friends will know what I expect from myself. For instance, they know that I believe in eating what I want as long as im under my cals. Sometimes I will get a comment on my sodium intake and I just explain that im not watching my sodium at this time. But I appreciate them caring enough to mention it. I have great friends who are very supportive and havent given up on me. And I know that if they give me a concerned opinion, that it is because they care.

Now, if I had someone who only gave critique, then I could see where that would be a problem. There should be a balance.