re: Peeps with no Profile Pic

HealthWoke0ish
HealthWoke0ish Posts: 2,078 Member
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When people with no profile pic ask to add me, I'm like, "Umm...I'm already putting more effort into this relationship than you are...so, no."

I kinda feel the same way about those peeps who have one photo (often times, it's not even of themselves) and have not filled in any information.

Thoughts?
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  • aszwarc
    aszwarc Posts: 200 Member
    Some people don't like having pictures taken. So we only have one.
  • erulasse
    erulasse Posts: 141 Member
    Most of us are here because we're unhappy with how we look?
    Why would we want to show it off by putting up loads of pictures?
  • LilyGrey
    LilyGrey Posts: 18
    There could be any number of really good reasons why someone would not share pictures of themselves, though. I totally understand the wariness, though, that is partly why I won't send FR's to people I don't already know outside of the site as I know I don't have a personal pic..

    But hey, I drew it myself so that counts as some effort, right?! :P
  • inskydiamonds
    inskydiamonds Posts: 2,519 Member
    Privacy is a HUGE reason to not want to post pictures on here.
  • eazy_
    eazy_ Posts: 516 Member
    Once we are friends you can see all my pics.
  • Joehenny
    Joehenny Posts: 1,222 Member
    When I had no pics no one accepted my requests....now I see why.
  • kookanddra
    kookanddra Posts: 92
    Why would what I look like determine if you want to be my friend or not?? I don't like my pict taken and don't feel comfortable yet showing it to anyone. If one of my friends wants to see what I look like they can send me a message and I'll post one for them.
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    I rarely have my face up here for reasons that don't really matter but it makes an appearance every now and then. Its the same on FB though, I have VERY few pictures of myself online period - you could google my real name and you will not find one pictures of me, its been that way since I was 15 years old and I don't see it changing anytime soon.



    That said, a message with a friend request is more important to me than a profile/profile picture.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    I think the OP doesn't mean like avatars pics, but literally there are people with no pictures what so ever. Nothing on their profile, not a word.
  • sandy_gee
    sandy_gee Posts: 372 Member
    I agree... It's not like I require there to even be any pictures of themselves however, stick up a couple pictures with quotes, or of a dog you like, or something. And fill in a bit of info, otherwise it just seems all blank and as if you're not 'serious' about any of it... Dunno why, that's my opinion.
  • SurfyFriend
    SurfyFriend Posts: 362 Member
    Each to their own. If no profile info they can't expect any support because there is no base to work from.
  • autumnpath
    autumnpath Posts: 72 Member
    Um, really? Who cares.
  • harley1968
    harley1968 Posts: 218 Member
    Most of us are here because we're unhappy with how we look?
    Why would we want to show it off by putting up loads of pictures?

    That is the way I feel

    But I have put plenty of words in my profile description :smile:
  • meeka472
    meeka472 Posts: 283 Member
    It doesn't bother me if people don't put up profile pics. I understand that some people are uncomfortable with the way they look which is why they are here in the first place. Others are concerned with privacy. To each his own I say.
  • jillsjourney
    jillsjourney Posts: 167 Member
    I have my reasons for not putting up pictures. Why it should bug you that I should choose to pick a profile pic that isn't of me is baffling. You may not care if the whole world sees your pictures, I do.
  • heytherelameman
    heytherelameman Posts: 76 Member
    Based on your profile pic I totally read that in a *yelling voice*. Haha!

    I get what you mean, I too will be wary of people who have no picture and request me. I guess I like to "picture" people when I see them writing on my wall and stuff.

    I also understand that people on here are already taking a HUGE step by admitting they have to change their lives... and might be very embarrassed about what they see in the mirror. :(

    In my case, I have a picture up that I HATE... so I can be reminded of the fact that I need to change and one day I hope to take a better one! :)
  • Duck_Puddle
    Duck_Puddle Posts: 3,237 Member
    If I post pics of me, they are headless because of privacy issues. And as for having only 1 pic, I live through my phone. I can change my profile pic via my phone but not add pics to my profile. So when I change my profile pic, it replaces whatever was there. I had a race pic, now it's a pic of my redneck squat stands. Later, it'll be something else. But whatever I put just replaces what was there.
  • newtothishelp
    newtothishelp Posts: 50 Member
    some people are ashamed, and dont want to admit their size of show their faces.
  • WalkingAway2013
    WalkingAway2013 Posts: 263
    I have seven photo's uploaded here, Only one is of me and I never use it as my main photo but can be seen by people on my friends list if they ever want to creep my profile.

    I don't see why knowing what someone looks like on here matters it's not a dating site (though some people seem to think so).
    The no information part is slightly annoying though as it's hard to support friends when you don't know anything about them.
  • HS2305
    HS2305 Posts: 422 Member
    I think if there was ever a place where we should be understanding about a lack of pictures it's here. As someone already pointed out, most of us are here because we're not that confident and unhappy with the way we look. I see your point though. I am sometimes a tad more cautious with people that don't have a profile picture :)
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    I never used to add ppl w/out a pic
    After spending a few mnths on here, I learned it doesn't matter.
    Some ppl Id rather not see anyway, haha
    I do like the mystery, keeps me guessing
  • HealthWoke0ish
    HealthWoke0ish Posts: 2,078 Member

    After spending a few mnths on here, I learned it doesn't matter.
    Some ppl Id rather not see anyway, haha

    Haha. My favorite answer thus far! :)
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    ...maybe some of us are in the witness protection program.

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  • 89nunu
    89nunu Posts: 1,082 Member
    I think there's a difference between not having any picture and not having pictures of yourself. I don't ever show my face on here but I usually have some kind of very creative, funny and witty picture as my avatar. Just nothing is a bit lazy and i can see where you are coming from.
  • GormanGhaste
    GormanGhaste Posts: 430 Member
    Someone doesn't want to add me because of my pic? I wouldn't want a friend like that.
  • 89nunu
    89nunu Posts: 1,082 Member
    Someone doesn't want to add me because of my pic? I wouldn't want a friend like that.

    I really wouldn't want to friend you because of your profile pic. It's hilarious but it freaks me out!
  • SherryR1971
    SherryR1971 Posts: 1,170 Member
    I like seeing profiles with lots of info, but I will add them if they request it, at least for a bit to see if they are going to participate. My general o[pinion is, though, please add lots of info!!
  • WanderingLass
    WanderingLass Posts: 86 Member
    Someone doesn't want to add me because of my pic? I wouldn't want a friend like that.

    This. Just because I don't want to put anything in my profile doesn't make me lazy or worthless which is what this thread seems to imply.

    What if it is someone who only accesses MFP at work and has no pictures of themselves there? Or cannot download pics to upload due to firewalls?

    What if it is someone who only accesses MFP at the library?

    What if it is someone who only accesses via their cell phone and uploading pics is nearly impossible?

    What if you took the time to get to know the person instead of deciding they're lazy and/or worthless because they're not providing you the visual stimulation you need?


    eta: nothing in the profile is understandable -- if you hate people who like purple and bicycles, we're not going to make a good support system for each other, for example. :wink:
  • HotMummyMission
    HotMummyMission Posts: 1,723 Member
    Most of us are here because we're unhappy with how we look?
    Why would we want to show it off by putting up loads of pictures?

    Because you should be proud of yourself anyway you look embrace what you have sweetie your beautiful and i dnt need to see a pictire to tel you that x
  • HealthWoke0ish
    HealthWoke0ish Posts: 2,078 Member
    For clarification, (and perhaps the thread title was/is misleading), I care less about what a person looks like and more about what I consider might be indicators of what they'll bring to the table in terms of MFP friendship/teamwork/etc.

    Do I like the way I look? Not really...but posting my pic, I feel, potentially helps me build rapport with my MFP friends. It also pushes me to be accountable for what my body looks like now (and thus motivates me to keep working toward change). I post my thoughts/goals/frustrations to help myself, but also as a token of my willingness to interact (kinda like a smile when meeting a new person to signal to him/her that I'm approachable).

    I'm not hating on the non-pic-posters, I totally respect people's personal decisions re: disclosure. Rather, I'm simply saying that for me, if that is their decision, then I view it as a wall they've decided to leave up (for privacy, protection, etc.) and I therefore feel less motivated associating with them.

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