Someone thought I was hot... I'm offended!!

if any girl tells me im hot a promise i will not be offended.....in fact id probably get up kick my office chair across the room rip my shirt off and start dancing

Just because of the clothes I wear (or don't) in my profile picture doesn't mean I deserved to be creeped on.

I suddenly find myself questioning the entire foundation of our friendship.

Do not fear there is still a solid foundation of bacon underneath.

I guess it depends. Women want to be admired, not hit on by creepy guys. So "Hey, amazing progress. You look really hot" is probably ok. while "Hey sexy, I like that tattoo on your *kitten*" is maybe less okay.

This. Only it gets worst than that. I got PM'd by a guy who told me he wanted to tie me up and get violent. I was offended at first, but then I was just scared.

*shudder*

I'm sorry, I was just kidding. Can we still be friends?

Sure....as soon as I learn how to work this darn taser...

if any girl tells me im hot a promise i will not be offended.....in fact id probably get up kick my office chair across the room rip my shirt off and start dancing

There are varying degrees of this sort of thing. There are a few bat**** crazy chicks who post very revealing photos and then get all shocked and shaken when someone notices. But for the most part, the complaints I see are typically related to PMs. I would never start a thread about how pissed I am that someone sent me a crude PM. I would just delete it and block the sender. But having been on the receiving end of some pretty vile PMs, I understand why women are frustrated by this sort of thing. It is a nuisance, and we shouldn't have to put up with it just because we want to add a progress photo of ourselves in a bikini.

It is also annoying how SOME men tend to absolve themselves of any responsibility for their comments by hanging their intentions on the altar of paying someone a compliment. "Oh, if you didn't want to be complimented, you shouldn't have that picture up." There's a difference between "You look great" and inappropriate sexual innuendo toward someone who is a total stranger to you. The former is a compliment; the latter is not.

If you have a woman on your FL, with whom you've established a very flirty rapport, and you know she's okay with those sorts of comments, then go right ahead and make them. But you can't just assume that every woman on this site who has a photo of herself in a bikini wants to read overtly sexual comments about her body.

I'm single, I feel better about my body than I ever have in my life, and I fully admit that actual compliments (even flirty ones) make me feel great. But I have no interest in getting a PM that describes in graphic detail all the things the sender would like to do to me. I would venture to guess that most of the men on here have no clue how often that happens to the women here.

if any girl tells me im hot a promise i will not be offended.....in fact id probably get up kick my office chair across the room rip my shirt off and start dancing

They are only offended when the person telling them they are hot is ugly.....fact

In a related story, I was walking on the beach sporting a banana hammock and I walked past some people and a lady said "whoa look a nice big banana". I didn't know if I should LOL or call the cops. I turn around real fast and she was feeding her baby a banana. A piece of me died right there...I know, cool story bro