This may be vain and petty...but

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  • Gingersnapsmom
    Gingersnapsmom Posts: 12 Member
    She frankly wouldn't be my friend anymore. What a bit**y comment!

    I agree and it doesn't sound like she is much of a friend anyway! Jealousy....
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    yea that was uncool of your "friend" she probably see's you gaining confidence and making a change in life and she is probably jealous..

    This happened a lot to me ^^^ 'You're so skinny, anorexic etc' 69 does not constitute an eating disorder!
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    69 kilos*** LOL
  • MeadowSong
    MeadowSong Posts: 171 Member
    "Don't let people who have given up on their dreams talk you out of yours!"

    Oooh, I like this!
  • JRSchumaker
    JRSchumaker Posts: 93 Member
    not vain or petty in my opinion. HONEST !! I love it and I hope you get skinnier then her then you can give her your old "fat clothes" because your swimming in them and they will fit her.

    Best. Revenge. Ever.
  • NatureChik1985
    NatureChik1985 Posts: 79
    I find this whole thread vain, petty and I would also say childish. Just let what she said go and get into shape for youself, not to crush someone else.
  • AdriSaysRelax
    AdriSaysRelax Posts: 110
    She seems...like a bit of a tool. Hate to say it, but yeah...either she wants you to live long and prosper, or she doesn't. Friends shouldn't actively suck up your joy.
  • Plentiful_Tentacles
    Plentiful_Tentacles Posts: 115
    It's a reason to start, it isn't a mean to finish. With motivation like that, you're not bound to get far. Once you get skinnier than her, it's over. You've reached your goal. It should be more than just to look better than someone else, but to better yourself. To become the best version of yourself, inside and out.

    So continue with your goal, but it won't get you too far.
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    It's a reason to start, it isn't a mean to finish. With motivation like that, you're not bound to get far. Once you get skinnier than her, it's over. You've reached your goal. It should be more than just to look better than someone else, but to better yourself. To become the best version of yourself, inside and out.

    So continue with your goal, but it won't get you too far.

    I think you have a point here. In essence, she is wanting to better herself for herself but her friends words have fuelled her motivation.

    It is only in our nature to react the way that has been mentioned but the overriding focus should be for herself.

    Weight is such a controversial subject and I think her friend was a little thoughtless.
  • El_Cunado
    El_Cunado Posts: 359 Member
    Good for you.


    Good Luck!!!:drinker:
  • LexiAtel
    LexiAtel Posts: 228 Member
    You have some good "friend" there. How rude and discouraging...Friends shouldn't do that... she should be supporting you, saying "YOU CAN DO IT!"

    Anyway, it looks like you have lost a good amount already, keep at it! Congratulations!
  • njenkins84
    njenkins84 Posts: 3 Member
    The greatest motivation is doing something that you've been told you can't.

    I'll never forget when I was in 6th grade and my 'friend' at the time stopped me while we were shooting hoops to say, "You'd be so pretty if you were skinny!"
  • Gromssis
    Gromssis Posts: 11 Member
    "Don't let people who have given up on their dreams talk you out of yours!"

    This is right on the money!! The friend is despairing and suffering from low self esteem... and projecting her own failure on the friend whose success she finds very threatening. I say ignore her comments and continue being strong on your journey... and when you end up skinnier than her, you can smile to yourself and feel proud of your accomplishment.:wink:
  • cupcakes_and_cardio
    cupcakes_and_cardio Posts: 369 Member
    I don't think you're being petty at all! People DO need to think before they speak (I'm not innocent of this at all, but..)...I know I would never say something like this is somebody - very rude! And, I was told this my entire life, it's not true! People will hate...just prove to them otherwise! :)
  • sunfirelynn
    sunfirelynn Posts: 186 Member
    Wow, She sure doesnt sound like a very good friend to me. Friends like that you dont need. But I do hope you show her you can do it and then rub it in her face!!!
  • MyM0wM0w
    MyM0wM0w Posts: 2,008 Member
    I'd invite her over for dinner once a week and dump tons of something in her food that adds like 500 extra calories. :P
  • bcf7683
    bcf7683 Posts: 1,653 Member
    "Don't let people who have given up on their dreams talk you out of yours!"

    I have a gym shirt that says this. Love it!
  • DAM5412
    DAM5412 Posts: 660 Member
    I just read this:

    The ones who say "You can't" and "You Won't"...are probably the ones scared that "YOU WILL"...

    seems about right for your Frienemy....Just keep doing what you are doing and don't let her negativity get you down.
  • Dora1201
    Dora1201 Posts: 5
    Honestly it sounds like your "friend" may be getting jealous of your weight loss success. Keep going girl until you reach your goal and just let the haters keep hating because who has time in their lies these days to even entertain such childish behavior. :smile:
  • sweetpea129
    sweetpea129 Posts: 755 Member
    Ha! What motivation!

    And this thread made me smile because when i was starting my journey i had a couple people, Family members actually, who told me that i basically shouldn't even try, i've always been big, even as a kid and that was just how my body was naturally made. I was made to be "big boned" and would never be small. Hurt me at the time but guess what I did on Sunday after trying on a pair of jeans at the mall? I took a picture, put it next to my old one and posted it on facebook with the caption "This picture is for all those who told me that I was just naturally big boned and would never be small. HA. Thanks for the motivation!" Now THAT may be petty but whatever, i dont even care. Not a one of them commented on it LOL!
  • Annmarie0426
    Annmarie0426 Posts: 28
    RUDE on her part for saying that! I hope you get healthier, more fit and are happier than she is...sounds like she is the kind of person who has to put down others to make herself feel better. Good luck!
  • Butterfly2022MD
    Butterfly2022MD Posts: 247 Member
    she sounds jealous.
  • lanajaymurphy
    lanajaymurphy Posts: 129
    Game on mole.





    That is all..
  • abbyreciouz
    abbyreciouz Posts: 50 Member
    thats a terrible thing for her to say... the BEST revenge shall be your success! get skinny girl! and show her how it is!
  • mynameiscarrie
    mynameiscarrie Posts: 963 Member
    What a *****! Sometimes I can't believe the things people say. I'd do the same thing you're doing. I'm competitive in nature :)
  • MattKnight66
    MattKnight66 Posts: 15
    :) Take the motivation where yu can get it!

    Yes.. Some people need to think before speaking.
  • Tsrwalker
    Tsrwalker Posts: 164 Member
    Mightydomo you are hilarious. That's what she should have done..lol
  • CMay16
    CMay16 Posts: 144 Member
    Not terrible at all. When you hit your goal, enjoy your victory and flaunt it in your "friend's" face!
  • redda777
    redda777 Posts: 21 Member
    I don't think it is petty or vain! I would do the exact same thing your doing :)
  • Aylawade
    Aylawade Posts: 22
    Whatever it takes to motivate you! I don't think that's vain or petty. She was hurtful so prove her wrong! My motivation is that I am 25, I should look my absolute best right now! (and I have plans to take boudoir pics before I am fat AND old! They are as much for me as for my hubby!)

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