Obese people telling me what's unhealthy...

MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, poutine. Now that's all i can think about!!! Hmmm, I think there's a Smoke's Poutinerie nearby!!

You rang?


I hate gravy, but I am tempted because Smoke's has double bacon poutine.

did I every tell you I love your wit and kind sarcasm xi? yep ...tell it like it is.....!

Thank you! I'm here all week. Remember to tip your waitresses, and make sure to try the veal!

Are "cheese curds" the same as cottage cheese?

Who knew MFP could be so educational??

Cheese curds are basically cheese that isn't pressed into a block. Poutine curds are supposed to "squeek" a bit when you bite into them. It's really hard to describe. They're something like mozarella, but... squeeky.

i just had this happen. i was having a convo about having a whole wheat english muffin with honey-nut cream cheese for bfast and how delicious it was. some lady nearby who must have been as wide as she was tall, told me how unhealthy cream cheese is! seriously? some people just love to hear themselves speak.

I agree, it is annoying!

just weird coming from someone who was eating chips when she said it lol

She was eating chips at the time? Man... that's some opening...

Talk about a hanging fastball right down the middle of the plate, I'd be taking a Jason Heyward type swing at that opening. I admire your tact and restraint, OP.

I can identify. My Dad does this all the time. I just ignore the mean old coot!

Poutine is some of the best damn stuff on earth! :drinker:

Personally, I would have been so annoyed at her comments that it would've inspired me to play devil's advocate for the next 6 months....I'd slip in some random...ahem....untrue comments about all the (non-existent) fattening foods I've indulged in over the weekend, all the while continuing to eat healthy and exercise. At some point, if she has a brain, she'll start thinking "Wow...she's in really great shape for eating all that crap! How does she do it? What's her secret?" :laugh:


Sure, there's the chance that she may just think that you're bulimic but in my experience, people like that are rarely that imaginative or analytic.

And yes, it would be loads easier just to ignore her....but where's the fun in that?

oh my goodness now I really want a poutine... god damn it.

That is a new word for me, poutine. Never heard of it. Had to google it.

Looks like Chilly cheese fries with a little bit of mayo. O.o I never heard of this dish either!

I WANT IT! *coughs*

Op eat what you want. As long as you can handle it. That's what I do.

I don't know. I try not to judge people who are over weight/obese. You haven't a clue what's going on with them to make them heavy. Usually, it's not food but medication that can wreck your body to kingdom come.

This drives me insane too.

On a similar note, I am training for a marathon and my very sedentary friend who has not run in over 20 years is constantly trying to give me advice. He says he wants to run, but he stubbed his toe a month ago and it still hurts...that's the only thing holding him back. What held you back the other 19.9 years?

I've been pushing since November of last year. I started at 320 (aka Three Mile Island, hey people call the one hundred pound territory Onederland, so that's my coined term for being over three hundred). Now at 240-ish, people who have never possibly seen the inside of a gym are giving me unsolicited diet and fitness advice. I get often, I'm doing too much (cardio, weights ,Pilates), lifting too much, doing it wrong, doing the wrong thing, eating wrong, eating the wrong thing, not eating enough, too much eating and they want to see my form for X exercise. Often enough they can't even do the exercise I am doing, but somehow they are a fitness expert, dietician /Nutritionist and they don't work out or watch their intake.

And one told me they were gonna go on Master Cleanse, as they ate a slice of greasy cheese pizza, while I ate my baked chicken breast. And that I would lose more, if I did it like them.

I don't get that.

Oh they gained more, Post Cleanse and they dont talk to me.

Win.

Cracks me up when someone was lecturing me on the evils of diet coke as they were kicking back a huge glass of wine.

I know she had no bad intentions. She's a really nice person... and now that I did eat it, she kind of made me feel bad. I'm not hurt or anything, I know she doesn't mean any harm....just weird coming from someone who was eating chips when she said it lol

I think this is a helpful addition to your original post because it's clearer about how what she said made you feel bad and thatz not cool. You felt judged, FAIR ENOUGH, and expressed a bit of righteous indignation over being judged about healthful eating by someone fatter than you. As in, I see your judgement, and raise you one tub of lard (you fat tub of lard!).

That being said, I wasn't there and you were, but ... is it possible she wasn't judging you, but just trying to connect with you on a topic that's near and dear to your heart? You haven't lost 75 pounds in 6 months without caring a lot about the process, and she surely knows that. You bring up food in conversation, she's entitled to an opinion. She might even have been trying to say "Wow, I know you have been working really hard to lose weight you should be careful because stuff like that can derail you!" Yes, you already know that, but people say inane things and that's not judgement for you eating it: it's participating in conversation on a topic YOU BROUGHT UP.

This is a blind spot for so many of us who are working on losing weight. A lot of people who are trying to lose weight talk about ALL THE TIME. That's not just boring and shallow, it tends to exclude people from conversation if they're not on the same journey with us (WTF are they supposed to say to us? "Good job! I'm impressed!" is nice, but it wears thin over time.). Here's my rule: if I bring up food in conversation EVER, other people in that conversation are allowed to express an opinion about it. Opinions are, as they say, like a-holes: everyone has one. If you don't want to hear other people's opinions about food, then don't talk about food. Generally, I don't want to hear people's opinions about food either except in very "safe" environments, so I try not to talk about it except in diet forums like this one.

It's just unfortunate the original post targeted obese people in the subject line and came down so hard with the implication that fat people shouldn't participate in conversations about nutrition, like "ugh, fatties, STFU, AMIRITE?" Or that in any conversation about food between two people, the thinner person automatically wins. Although that wasn't your original intention (after all, you disclosed up front that you were obese 6 months ago: unless I misunderstood and you're more than 6 feet tall), I'm seeing a lot of uncharitable and indignant responses here along those lines. Very often obese people are in fact very knowledgeable about diet and nutrition (after all, that's where you were 6 months ago) because WE'VE BEEN IN THE TRENCHES, MAN.

Love the Idea of "treat meals". It is a perfect idea. As for the other issue stick to what works for you and ignore the noise

To answer to a few people on here, I never said that she couldn't give food advice cause she was fat. Being obese doesn't lessen the credibility of her advice, but I do think it's a little hypocritical. And being obese herself, I would have expected her to be a little more sensitive when making comments about my food choices... That's all. I was simply venting because she is someone I care about, we are pretty close, and she knows wht I've been through and what led to my obesity so I expected a little more compassion and less criticism...especially when she's one of the people who is always telling me to lighten up and cheat a little...

Mehhh
It's starting to seem like it's less about her & more about the insecurity you feel.
If you knew what you were doing was right you wouldn't give a damn what she said.
have confidence in your feelings & don't let anyone sway them to the positive or negative poles
Take control of yourself & your emotions the same way you did with your weight when you lost the original 75 lbs
You're awesome and strong either way. Eat that freaking poutin with no shame!