Obese people telling me what's unhealthy...

You may not like this, but if she's passing judgement on you, is she really that close of friend?

Sometimes in situations like that, you just have to close your eyes, and let the stupidity wash over you.

I think you were listening with your pre-weight loss brain. It's that filter that turns a comment that may or may not be intentionally hurtful and turns it into the most hurtful comment imaginable. I am not even at my goal weight and I can already tell I am going to have a hard time adjusting. I am still not able to make myself try on smaller sizes for example. So, I set a goal date to try on stuff, which will be by August 20th. So, I am thinking maybe you haven't adjusted yet and the size you were is still a sensitive area and you still haven't adjusted completely to the idea of being able to eat things you really want every once in a while.

That is a new word for me, poutine. Never heard of it. Had to google it.

Looks like Chilly cheese fries with a little bit of mayo. O.o I never heard of this dish either!

I WANT IT! *coughs*

Op eat what you want. As long as you can handle it. That's what I do.

I don't know. I try not to judge people who are over weight/obese. You haven't a clue what's going on with them to make them heavy. Usually, it's not food but medication that can wreck your body to kingdom come.

no mayo fries, cheese curds and gravy

What's wrong with fat? Fat is delicious and filling stuff.

All the time.

The moment I eat something unhealthy I get the "OMFG what are you eating that? Thats really bad!!!"

And when I'm eating my tasty chicken, spinach and rice I get the "Why not have a donut or burger, it won't kill you!".

You can't win. Smile, and high five them in the face with a brick. Works well for me ))

So, what you are saying is that because she is obese, her knowledge is not credible?

Professional athletes take advice from unfit or obese people all the time!

I guess my point is, if it's good advice, or credible information, it shouldn't matter who it's coming from if that person is credible!

If it mattered, I wouldn't read these forums, because half the information comes from overweight or obese people!

Just because you're on a fitness journey doesnt' make you better!

Hm well I am a slightly overweight girl and I once gave advice to one of my close friends. I would dare say that our fitness level are on par (from physical activities in school and such) and I was doing it to help her get back on track because I know how much she wants to look like those skinny *kitten* models. Thing is, she looks perfectly fine and she has awesome curves and her weight is in the lower end of the healthy range. What I gave advice on? She was eating too little everyday (about 500cals net) and her goal calories was set to 900 on MFP. I was really worried about her as she has always been under-eating and starving herself, then after one or two months she'll get into that really crappy mood and start stuffing herself with food and that's when she'll gain back the weight she lost through starving, sometimes even more. I know it's not healthy so I told her to eat a little more and to set her goal higher as I did not want her metabolism to go down really low. However, she keeps insisting that that's the way her diet works and that her body is "special" and "different from everybody else" - that she only lose weight if she starve herself. She claims that she's not losing weight when she's eating around 1000cals (how do you lose any if your metabolism is so low?!) that's why she's eating way lesser than that. I just hope that she has returned to eating healthily now.

Well anyway, sorry for digressing but what I'm trying to say is that in my case, i was not as healthy looking as my friend but I still gave her advice because I didn't want her to get out of track and cause harm to her body, since I know how much she wants to lose weight, I want her to lose it the healthy way. Perhaps your lady friend was trying to remind you that you should not be eating poutine as she knows that you're on a clean eating diet and she wants to remind you not to stray too much. Maybe she didn't know that you're only giving yourself a treat because she expected that you would be really strict on yourself - clean eating all the way. Take her words with a pinch of salt but don't shrug it off completely. Remember, she's just trying to help you. She may be so happy for you that you got your results and admire you for your determination that she wants you to continue it that way! (:

Anyway, today at lunch, while I ate my vegetables, I said to one of my co-workers "I had a poutine this weekend for the first time this year!". And she said "well you should watch cause those are full of fat and it's not good for you"!!!! This coming from a person who is very obese with no intentions of changing it, who has no problem eating junk food every day!

See, I don't handle that sort of thing very well, so my advice would be bad advice...

I'd adopt a shocked look, and drop my fork on the table.

"POUTINE IS HIGH IN FAT?! OH MY GOD! REALLY? I'M GOING TO BE SICK!"

Then I'd stop, pick up my fork and say "I've lost 75 pounds. Could I get you another soda or a bag of chips?"

I'm guilty of this too whether they be obese/skinny/fit/unfit. I'll say something along the lines of " OH MY GOD I HAVE NO IDEA!! WHY DIDN'T THE FOOD POLICE TELL ME?!?!?!...but no really, I've lost nearly a 100 pounds and kept it off. I think I know what I'm doing. I don't jusge you so please don't judge me. kthanksbye."

Experience teaches us that there are people who cannot filter what they say. From reading your post, it sounds as if this unusual for her to be critical? Perhaps she is truly was just trying to be helpful and wants you to succeed and yet it just came out wrong/awkward? Give her another chance.

Hm well I am a slightly overweight girl and I once gave advice to one of my close friends. I would dare say that our fitness level are on par (from physical activities in school and such) and I was doing it to help her get back on track because I know how much she wants to look like those skinny *kitten* models. Thing is, she looks perfectly fine and she has awesome curves and her weight is in the lower end of the healthy range. What I gave advice on? She was eating too little everyday (about 500cals net) and her goal calories was set to 900 on MFP. I was really worried about her as she has always been under-eating and starving herself, then after one or two months she'll get into that really crappy mood and start stuffing herself with food and that's when she'll gain back the weight she lost through starving, sometimes even more. I know it's not healthy so I told her to eat a little more and to set her goal higher as I did not want her metabolism to go down really low. However, she keeps insisting that that's the way her diet works and that her body is "special" and "different from everybody else" - that she only lose weight if she starve herself. She claims that she's not losing weight when she's eating around 1000cals (how do you lose any if your metabolism is so low?!) that's why she's eating way lesser than that. I just hope that she has returned to eating healthily now.

Well anyway, sorry for digressing but what I'm trying to say is that in my case, i was not as healthy looking as my friend but I still gave her advice because I didn't want her to get out of track and cause harm to her body, since I know how much she wants to lose weight, I want her to lose it the healthy way. Perhaps your lady friend was trying to remind you that you should not be eating poutine as she knows that you're on a clean eating diet and she wants to remind you not to stray too much. Maybe she didn't know that you're only giving yourself a treat because she expected that you would be really strict on yourself - clean eating all the way. Take her words with a pinch of salt but don't shrug it off completely. Remember, she's just trying to help you. She may be so happy for you that you got your results and admire you for your determination that she wants you to continue it that way! (:

Thats 2 completely different things. How can you compare starving yourself with someone indulging in a treat? EVERY time we eat something "bad" should we hide or feel shame? Indulging in a treat every now and then, or even weekly is not "straying" or getting off track. In fact, its a way to stay on track.

Maybe, you could point out to your co-worker that, unlike her, you don't have a huge amount of excess bodyfat to digest for energy. Therefore, you need to obtain your energy from real food.

I had co-workers shocked when they saw me put half and half into my coffee. You'd think I was eating lard on a stick for breakfast. It is 20 calories for one tbs to enjoy my coffee properly. I don't even think of it as a "treat".

How many of those people were getting whipped drinks with whipped cream on top and flavoured syrup? I'd use regular sugar in my coffee, but I go with the yellow (Splenda?) packets because it dissolves immediately and I don't need to do more the swirl the coffee a bit. Plus, it also dissolves in iced drinks...

Just because a person is obese doesn't mean that person doesn't know a lot about food and nutrition. I am very well informed in these subjects; I just haven't been able to apply all I know. I'm not the type to offer unasked-for advice, though.

People crack me up.

A few weeks ago, a woman I work with (who is also overweight) commented on how fattening eating half an avocado on my salad was.. and those kidney beans.. well they have so many carbs!

.......wait for it....... the best part of this story isn't that I've lost 25 lbs. already.. it's that she was eating a Snickers bar and a bag of chips for her lunch. Washed it down with a Mountain Dew. No joke!

I just smiled.