How does anyone actually commit to this?

Honestly nobody can help you. If you don't want this bad enough yet all the encouragement and motivation in the world won't make you do it. Sorry you have to do this all by yourself and when you are truly ready the commitment and motivation will come.
Good luck.

Agree. I just decided what choice to I have? I'm either going to do it or I'm not and if not now, when?

When you're truly ready to change your lifestyle and your relationship with food and your body, the motivation will appear. It comes from the inside, not the outside. That said, you seem to be moving in the right direction. When I joined MFP, it became a game to me to get the maximum volume of food for the minimum number of calories that fit the eating plan. The site is a real help with that! I found all kinds of substitutions and workarounds, and was never HONGRY. I was able to eat several small meals and stay satisfied. You can probably do something like that too. In the meantime, I'd hang onto those smaller clothes -- you may be needing them sooner than you think! Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Here's the thing. You're going to commit to something. If you delete your MFP account, stop worrying about what you eat, stop exercising, and throw away your skinny clothes that's committing. Committing to staying fat. We often delude ourselves and say that we didn't make a choice but choosing to do nothing (or to do the wrong thing) is a choice just like counting calories and running 20 miles a week is a choice.

Make a conscience decision about what you want to commit to.

I'm going to go ahead and say that I don't think Dav is saying you need to run 20 miles a week to lose weight. So no one go all nuclear about that statement, please.

I keep things like this as my background image. I boot up my computer and see these pictures. When I don't want to get off mfp and sweat I minimize and look at ladies like this and ask myself "Is that really what I want?"

The answer is always yes, so I always get my *kitten* up.



Your mileage may vary.

You HAVE TO WANT this more than gaining it back. I talked myself into more dessert or a 2nd beer for years, "Yea! I AM a big guy. I lift heavy. I can have a 2nd steak." RIGHT.

I want to loose 40 lbs before my 60th next January, so I finally made getting lean more important than free cake and ice cream at the office potluck.

I want this last 15 lbs off more than gaining it all back.

It's all up to you now.

Maybe don't do it for the clothes. Do it to live longer, do it to feel better in your skin, so it so you can go anywhere and do anything without getting too winded (that's my big thing, i don't want to be the fat chick waddling up to the climbing wall and having everyone stare, but i want to climb the freaking wall!)

If you think of it as a diet, you'll likely fail. If you make livable changes to your lifestyle, there's nowhere but up to go!

I do best if i think in terms of fitness. I pulled a bike trailer up a super nasty hill, there was a couple of bylaw bike cops at the top, and they had walked up! and they ride bikes all day!!! That is what I'm working for. Eat a little better every day, plan some splurges so you can keep your sanity, figure out why you are eating so badly in the first place (is it boredom, depression, habit, etc) and work on it!

That was a rude comment that he said to you. Joke or not... not cool. Please don't give up. Add me, look at my diary and others' diaries. Get advice, seek motivation. We are all here for you. That is what this group is for.

But most of all, YOU need to do this on your own. It is all on you.

Honestly nobody can help you. If you don't want this bad enough yet all the encouragement and motivation in the world won't make you do it. Sorry you have to do this all by yourself and when you are truly ready the commitment and motivation will come.
Good luck.

She is asking how to change her mindset. It can be done. We all have had those moments when we look in the mirror and say, "Hey, you! What the hell are you doing? Why do you keep doing this to yourself?"

Then sometimes, all of the sudden, we have a burst of inner strength that seems to come out of nowhere and we accomplish what we would have previously thought impossible. The real question is: How to consistently tap that inner strength? Ultimately, it comes down to practice. You also must be willing to forgive yourself should that inner strength fail. Think of building that inner strength like building physical strength. At first you can only do so much. But after a while, you become stronger. So long as you keep working at building up that inner strength, you will get better.

The human body is a marvel. Some people have trained themselves to hold their breath for 15 minutes or more. Some people have learned how to memorize a string of numbers 10,000 digits long (normal people, not just Rainman types). A man with no legs won a gold metal in the ParaOlympics (ok, then he murdered his girlfriend, but still...).

Throw away the clothes. It doesn't sound like you're ready. Anyways when you are you will be excited and feel like you deserve brand new clothes that are in style at the moment, and you'll be right you do! It's okay if you're still knocking things around in your head right now? Getting your ducks in a row. Use that time to research on this site all the methods people use and hone in on the best ones so when your motivation kicks in you can hit the ground running. Meantime with no skinny clothes to look at husband will have nothing to talk *kitten* about and your house will have room for all the things you'll need once you get started. Workout gear or wear or whatnot. The past is the past. The future is what you make it and you'll be ready when you're ready and when that time comes nobody or no comment will stop you. Nothing will.

If I were trying to get my head on straight to start something I'd be on google looking at motivational gif's. Something might resonate with you and get you going. Also old pic's of yourself as thin, makes it beleivable. Also there's a site where you can put in all stats like height weight body shape and real people have posted their pic's. This is a great way to see yourself from the outside to get perspective on what you actually look like now. That "Oh man" moment might be the impetus for getting started. You can do it. Just get started.

You can force yourself if and only if you get to a point where you have had enough with yourself. If you are content the way you are then thats that. My motivation is to simply look and feel better and to wear size 32 jeans and have abs