Lost the weight but now hate my shape!

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  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    I was genetically doomed with no real curves and a very boyish body. Now I have an *kitten*. So you can definitely use what you got to create something better.
  • badmoose
    badmoose Posts: 25
    You can tone the underlying muscle, but your bone structure defines your basic shape and that isn't going to change. A lot of the shape of boobs and butt comes from fat. How fat is distributed in your body is hormonal, and is different for everyone.

    There are some changes you can make via exercise, but don't expect major changes. As a previous poster said, how you dress can accent the shape you have, emphasise areas you want to emphasise.

    But please, don't define your self-image on some external ideal. We're all distinct. Change what you can, if that makes you happy, but accept and embrace who you fundamentally are; there's nothing wrong with you.
  • onedayatatime12
    onedayatatime12 Posts: 577 Member
    Ahh! Lucky you! I wish I had a ruler shape, but I have huge-*kitten* hips :( 3.5 inches larger than my bust measurement. I always wish I had a boyish body for some reason.
  • bumblebums
    bumblebums Posts: 2,181 Member
    I see several people suggest dressing differently. I don't see how this approach would be good advice. Don't people who are overweight avoid the issue by wearing bigger clothes instead of exercising and eating better? I know she's not overweight, but you get my point.

    Yes, genetics plays a big role, but you can do something about it by hitting the weights and tailoring your diet to maintenance or slightly above.

    Look, man, I lift weights, and I think it's great. But it's not the end-all and be-all. You would be amazed at how much of an instant difference the right clothes make for a body. Many women buy whatever is fashionable, or whatever looks good on their friends, and do not stop to think about whether that particular outfit is doing their figure any favors.

    To wit: if you have no boobs and wear a top with a plunging v-shaped neckline, you will draw attention to your lack of boobs. No amount of bench pressing will give you a cleavage if you are an A-cup. If you have a naturally wider waist, and many women do, then a cinched waist is a bad idea. Most men do not think about these things, unless they work in the fashion industry or have some other reason to worry about women's clothing. But women should, if they want to look good.
  • IronPlayground
    IronPlayground Posts: 1,594 Member
    I see several people suggest dressing differently. I don't see how this approach would be good advice. Don't people who are overweight avoid the issue by wearing bigger clothes instead of exercising and eating better? I know she's not overweight, but you get my point.

    Yes, genetics plays a big role, but you can do something about it by hitting the weights and tailoring your diet to maintenance or slightly above.

    Look, man, I lift weights, and I think it's great. But it's not the end-all and be-all. You would be amazed at how much of an instant difference the right clothes make for a body. Many women buy whatever is fashionable, or whatever looks good on their friends, and do not stop to think about whether that particular outfit is doing their figure any favors.

    To wit: if you have no boobs and wear a top with a plunging v-shaped neckline, you will draw attention to your lack of boobs. No amount of bench pressing will give you a cleavage if you are an A-cup. If you have a naturally wider waist, and many women do, then a cinched waist is a bad idea. Most men do not think about these things, unless they work in the fashion industry or have some other reason to worry about women's clothing. But women should, if they want to look good.

    Probably should have framed my question better. The post wasn't intended to be confrontational. So, you can cool your jets.

    I'm a guy so I really don't get fashion. Some guys might, but I'm not one of them.

    Let me ask it this way. Wouldn't trying to work on your body and overcome some areas that might be deemed genetics be initial advice rather than just jumping in a saying dress differently?
  • ClareWantsProgress
    ClareWantsProgress Posts: 173 Member
    I see several people suggest dressing differently. I don't see how this approach would be good advice. Don't people who are overweight avoid the issue by wearing bigger clothes instead of exercising and eating better? I know she's not overweight, but you get my point.

    Yes, genetics plays a big role, but you can do something about it by hitting the weights and tailoring your diet to maintenance or slightly above.

    Look, man, I lift weights, and I think it's great. But it's not the end-all and be-all. You would be amazed at how much of an instant difference the right clothes make for a body. Many women buy whatever is fashionable, or whatever looks good on their friends, and do not stop to think about whether that particular outfit is doing their figure any favors.

    To wit: if you have no boobs and wear a top with a plunging v-shaped neckline, you will draw attention to your lack of boobs. No amount of bench pressing will give you a cleavage if you are an A-cup. If you have a naturally wider waist, and many women do, then a cinched waist is a bad idea. Most men do not think about these things, unless they work in the fashion industry or have some other reason to worry about women's clothing. But women should, if they want to look good.

    ^^^ Can I get an "amen" here! :)
  • sunshyncatra
    sunshyncatra Posts: 598 Member
    You can dress yourself to create more of a waist. Watch some "what not to wear". Define your waist, where you'd like it to be, with a cute belt, or the right cut of a dress. People are the shape they are.

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Ditto this^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

    Experiment with different clothing to get the appearance of a waist that you desire. Seriously, it is magic.
  • bumblebums
    bumblebums Posts: 2,181 Member
    I see several people suggest dressing differently. I don't see how this approach would be good advice. Don't people who are overweight avoid the issue by wearing bigger clothes instead of exercising and eating better? I know she's not overweight, but you get my point.

    Yes, genetics plays a big role, but you can do something about it by hitting the weights and tailoring your diet to maintenance or slightly above.

    Look, man, I lift weights, and I think it's great. But it's not the end-all and be-all. You would be amazed at how much of an instant difference the right clothes make for a body. Many women buy whatever is fashionable, or whatever looks good on their friends, and do not stop to think about whether that particular outfit is doing their figure any favors.

    To wit: if you have no boobs and wear a top with a plunging v-shaped neckline, you will draw attention to your lack of boobs. No amount of bench pressing will give you a cleavage if you are an A-cup. If you have a naturally wider waist, and many women do, then a cinched waist is a bad idea. Most men do not think about these things, unless they work in the fashion industry or have some other reason to worry about women's clothing. But women should, if they want to look good.

    Probably should have framed my question better. The post wasn't intended to be confrontational. So, you can cool your jets.

    I'm a guy so I really don't get fashion. Some guys might, but I'm not one of them.

    Let me ask it this way. Wouldn't trying to work on your body and overcome some areas that might be deemed genetics be initial advice rather than just jumping in a saying dress differently?

    Because it's faster :) Transforming the shape of your body takes time and dedication, and you might never be able to correct whatever figure flaws you see in yourself. Dressing for your shape is something you have to learn regardless of how much you squat. The length of your legs, the breadth of your shoulders, the length of your torso--all of these things affect how you look in certain outfits, and women have to be mindful of that.

    [EDIT]

    Also, OP's post specifically mentioned pretty dresses as a motivator. If the dresses don't look good even after you lost fat, then perhaps it's time to rethink the dresses.
  • IronPlayground
    IronPlayground Posts: 1,594 Member
    I see several people suggest dressing differently. I don't see how this approach would be good advice. Don't people who are overweight avoid the issue by wearing bigger clothes instead of exercising and eating better? I know she's not overweight, but you get my point.

    Yes, genetics plays a big role, but you can do something about it by hitting the weights and tailoring your diet to maintenance or slightly above.

    Look, man, I lift weights, and I think it's great. But it's not the end-all and be-all. You would be amazed at how much of an instant difference the right clothes make for a body. Many women buy whatever is fashionable, or whatever looks good on their friends, and do not stop to think about whether that particular outfit is doing their figure any favors.

    To wit: if you have no boobs and wear a top with a plunging v-shaped neckline, you will draw attention to your lack of boobs. No amount of bench pressing will give you a cleavage if you are an A-cup. If you have a naturally wider waist, and many women do, then a cinched waist is a bad idea. Most men do not think about these things, unless they work in the fashion industry or have some other reason to worry about women's clothing. But women should, if they want to look good.

    Probably should have framed my question better. The post wasn't intended to be confrontational. So, you can cool your jets.

    I'm a guy so I really don't get fashion. Some guys might, but I'm not one of them.

    Let me ask it this way. Wouldn't trying to work on your body and overcome some areas that might be deemed genetics be initial advice rather than just jumping in a saying dress differently?

    Because it's faster :) Transforming the shape of your body takes time and dedication, and you might never be able to correct whatever figure flaws you see in yourself. Dressing for your shape is something you have to learn regardless of how much you squat. The length of your legs, the breath of your shoulders, the length of your torso--all of these things affect how you look in certain outfits, and women have to be mindful of that.

    [EDIT]

    Also, OP's post specifically mentioned pretty dresses as a motivator. If the dresses don't look good even after you lost fat, then perhaps it's time to rethink the dresses.

    Well, there you go! See, I've learned something today about fashion. :smile:
  • caly_man
    caly_man Posts: 281 Member
    has anyone ever tried to put the weight back on (and by weight I mean the fat) to fill in the areas the you like.....then do a weight lifting program in order to build a better body.

    you might stay at your original weight, but the results may be better pleasing
  • Nu_Journee
    Nu_Journee Posts: 29
    I believe lifting weights while focusing on particular body parts will help you achieve the more asymmetrical look you wish for.It sounds like working more on your lower half will achieve this. Have faith. I have seen it done on individuals with your shape, especially if you look at some fitness magazines. You can't change it but you can shape your body and wear clothing to improve it. Good luck.
  • badmoose
    badmoose Posts: 25
    has anyone ever tried to put the weight back on (and by weight I mean the fat) to fill in the areas the you like.....then do a weight lifting program in order to build a better body.

    Fat goes where your body's chemistry wants it to go. A woman may want more in the boobs and butt, but if the body wants to put it in the belly and hips instead...
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    It's all in the clothing. I remember the days I'd dress in big clothes because I didn't want anyone to see my smaller waist and larger hips (I thought they were embarrassing at didn't look good at the time).

    Oh how WRONG YOU ARE! You have a gorgeous shape!

    Ha, thanks! I'm comfortable with it now, but for a long time thought I was gross because my sister and friends all had much straighter body types. Puberty can be rough on a girl with hips.
  • kellijauch
    kellijauch Posts: 379 Member
    Yes, squats will give you a bubble butt. As to the boobs - the only thing I can think of there is implants. Good luck