When someone compliments you, do you believe them?
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No, definitely not.0
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This is so crazy! I just dealt with this very same topic in counseling last night. I couldn't believe someone asked the exact same question. And the answer to this question is......no, not really. Definitely an issues with self-confidence. Time to start believing in my true worth--worth that comes from nothing I do or say, but simply because I have been created by a perfect Creator who loves me beyond belief. Our worth isn't really in what we do or say, by the way. You can't look good enough, be good enough, talk well enough, eat well enough, etc etc. Our worth is in God and who He says we are.0
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Yes. I just dont 'feel' it myself yet. Im getting better though.0
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I have a hard time believing them. But that's because I'm very insecure.0
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I'm secure with who I am, but I still think most compliments is just a matter of being polite. Nothing wrong with it, it's definitely better than insults.0
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Unfortunately, I find that most men (NOT ALL SO DON"T SHOOT ME) are hardwired to say what you want to hear. So when a man compliments me, I have to ask myself a few questions:
Does he want something from me?
Did he do something wrong?
Women can also do the same thing, surprisingly, especially if they don't like you.
Kids tend to be the most honest. Kids and drunk people. So if a kid or a drunk person compliments you, believe them.
Oh, but with drunk people, beer goggles make everyone 30 percent better looking. SO just be wary.
Love yourself and know you are beautiful. LOL0 -
LOL Loved this! too funny. I work with kids so, yeah totally agree.
But I do have a hard time with compliments. it is a self esteem thing and I don't think people realise that a true weight loss plan is a life style change not a 'diet'. There is a psychological adjustment necessary as well as the pant size one.
Sometimes the compliment feels more like a slap and you are left wondering 'how fat you were before!" I try to realise they don't mean it that way. It is usually people you don't have great or comfortable relationships with anyway.
The coolest, and weirdest compliments for me have been from guys (not my husband, I totally trust his compliments). One was at my son's track meet with his friends dad in front of another friends dad, It just felt weird. However another guy complimented me at church and it was really sweet. I admire guys who will compliment because it I realise it is dangerous ground in today's 'politically correct' world.
I am working on this in stages. I wore an out fit that I knew I rocked in to a family thing. The compliments were nice (for the most part) but I was worried that because they tend to fixate on weight issues anyway, that it would become the only topic of conversation The next time I dressed down and purposely avoided the subject. I'm taking small steps.
I also have issues with photo's of myself so again, small steps. I have a photo taken and examine it, let myself decide what I like or don't and make adjustments. it is hard to not protest when people want to take a picture but I am learning.0 -
Sometimes yes and sometimes no just depends on my mood/outfit/hair/makeup during that moment. I usually just get really awkward and embarrassed when someone compliments me. Had a guy tell me once that my eyes and the dimple in my chin were sexy ... I didn't know how to act lol0
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When I was younger and my dh would tell me how pretty or sexy he thought I was I would usually respond "I love you too". I never really believed him, I thought he loves me so of course he thinks I'm pretty. I have always had a very low opinion of myself (really just how I look, I'm very confident in other areas of my life), which I have since found out (through counseling), was a result of my abuse as a child. I have learned as I've gotten older to accept a compliment, because I think most people will not say anything about your appearance if they have something bad to say. So if they go to the trouble to say something, I have to believe they mean it, and I take it for what it's worth, and thank them.
I do have to say that I LOVE it when people think my daughter (she is 38) and I are sisters. LOVE IT :bigsmile: It has happened since she was a teenager, so I have always believed that particular complement.0 -
From men, yes. From *most* women, hell no.
Based on my own weight loss and progress, I would agree wtih the statements that men give compliments without prejudice, whereas women are guarded about what they say.
My weight loss is noticeable, so at the workplace, many of the bluecollar guys will comment: "Hey, you lost a lot of weight" or you are getting "buff" Being supportive and sometimes asking how I did it.
I noticed that women won't make those type of remarks in front of other women, but will approach me directly and say "wow, you look really good!" If they are in a group, they will giggle but won't say anything. The most common statement is " your pants or shirt is getting too big"
Where the heck do you work? I've given many compliments to men, and have meant all of them..... and I have never, ever "giggled".0 -
Unfortunately, I find that most men (NOT ALL SO DON"T SHOOT ME) are hardwired to say what you want to hear. So when a man compliments me, I have to ask myself a few questions:
Does he want something from me?
Did he do something wrong?
Women can also do the same thing, surprisingly, especially if they don't like you.
Kids tend to be the most honest. Kids and drunk people. So if a kid or a drunk person compliments you, believe them.
Oh, but with drunk people, beer goggles make everyone 30 percent better looking. SO just be wary.
Love yourself and know you are beautiful. LOL
And the elderly! I have spent many hours in nursing homes in the last 6 years, and the elderly with dementia are VERY honest!0 -
No.Never.0
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Usually. Unless it's about my being "nice". I've been called that so infrequently that I don't beleive it when I hear it. "Nice *kitten*, nice rack, great personality, good friend, insightful, funny, loyal, b!tchen, awesome, or facking gorgeous" I believe though. At any size. I know it takes all kinds and no matter what size I am, I am someone's cup of tea and when I run into one of those it's always an explosive comment about it. So I smile and take the compliment. It's the graceful thing to do. Plus who am I to judge their taste or personal preference? If my size 14 azz is their idea of heaven incarnate, why should I argue. If my size 4 waist several months later or prior is their idea of the "ideal woman" why should I rain on their parade. I equate it to the day when I finally set IRL eyes on nicolas cage and proclaim "YOu are my FAVORITE you are my ideal image of a man and I don't even need to talk to you but i'd love to, but anyways I love you to PIECES".....I wouldn't want him to say ..."no I"m ugly." or "what who me?" . I'd want him to smile or smirk. (and not sic his bodyguards on me)0
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I'm secure with who I am, but I still think most compliments is just a matter of being polite. Nothing wrong with it, it's definitely better than insults.
Well okay I'm not being polite right now, and have no reason to be nor social pressure...but you have kind eyes. Now you HAVE to accept that compliment because you didn't fish for it, we are not in a bangpass or rate thread and we are not in person and you neither owe me anything or have anything I want. So there. Completely sincere unreturnable compliment. Take it. Take it all!0 -
Nah, not really!! Still brightens up my day though!!0
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I don't care, it's a compliment.0
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