question 4 ppl who understand what thick means

finally a williams girl. unsure which it is, but I like her style. in other news I actually runnered-up in a fashion design contest for one of them.

http://cdn.necole*****ie.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/thick-vs-fat.jpg

this one I cannot post for fear of deletion due to cleavage but it's from the side and not over the top at all and has a wonderful image of Tyra looking puzzled? displeased? envious? thoughtful? awed? check it out.

http://cdn.necole*****ie.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/thick-vs-fat.jpg

this one I cannot post for fear of deletion due to cleavage but it's from the side and not over the top at all and has a wonderful image of Tyra looking puzzled? displeased? envious? thoughtful? awed? check it out.

give us a hint on the ***** starred out letters - even if we copy/paste, we won't see it with stars.

She doesn't seem to feel bad about his choice of words but seems motivated to find out what he means? How do we know his ideal of "thick" isn't precisely what her body is if she relaxes a little with her workout program? How do we know she doesn't use similar language with him? IDK, i just know in my real life I know a lot of thick skinned people (pun intended) and so to me her OP reads as just regular everyday talking and a girl curious what her guy is trying to tell her. So her goes another atttempt to clarify.

Urban dictionary's explanation of "thick": http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=thick+girl

similar to mine, and click around to see if anything else helps you get it OP. Happy Thicking! (ie squatting, stairs, lifting, and accepting your own unique and beautiful shape however it happens to be and end up)

I got the jist he made her feel bad only cause she said she lost weight and he said she looked like a crackhead, so she gained weight and he made comment about how she should look thick, and now trying to find out what that is exactly so she can try and attain that.

And I just shared my personal experience, because personally, it did not make me feel good that no matter what I did, my ex found something negative to say about my body. And I do think, just because he says she should look thick doesnt mean its now her duty to attain that. And I only say that because I know how it feels to be with someone who makes me feel like I have to change. Its not a fun or loving situation to be in.

Anyway, we can only make guestimations...neither of us know the dynamics of their relationship or how they talk to each other. It just struck a chord with me is all. Has nothing to do with being thick skinned...I have that. But I dont feel like I should have to suck it up and take it if the man Im with is critical and Im losing and gaining weight to make him happy and he still cant say anything positive about me.

by the way this one had the caption of "some of the best bodies in showbiz". I think it might be ciara but I'm not sure.

This is actually the singer Ashanti, and i agree that she has a nice figure. Growing up, the word "thick" always meant small waist, thick thighs and nice butt. The pics above are good demonstrations of it. To me, Beyonce is the epitome of "thick". If you are naturally shaped that way, maybe your BF is saying not to get too small?

She doesn't seem to feel bad about his choice of words but seems motivated to find out what he means? How do we know his ideal of "thick" isn't precisely what her body is if she relaxes a little with her workout program? How do we know she doesn't use similar language with him? IDK, i just know in my real life I know a lot of thick skinned people (pun intended) and so to me her OP reads as just regular everyday talking and a girl curious what her guy is trying to tell her. So her goes another atttempt to clarify.

Urban dictionary's explanation of "thick": http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=thick+girl

similar to mine, and click around to see if anything else helps you get it OP. Happy Thicking! (ie squatting, stairs, lifting, and accepting your own unique and beautiful shape however it happens to be and end up)

I got the jist he made her feel bad only cause she said she lost weight and he said she looked like a crackhead, so she gained weight and he made comment about how she should look thick, and now trying to find out what that is exactly so she can try and attain that.

And I just shared my personal experience, because personally, it did not make me feel good that no matter what I did, my ex found something negative to say about my body. And I do think, just because he says she should look thick doesnt mean its now her duty to attain that. And I only say that because I know how it feels to be with someone who makes me feel like I have to change. Its not a fun or loving situation to be in.

Anyway, we can only make guestimations...neither of us know the dynamics of their relationship or how they talk to each other. It just struck a chord with me is all. Has nothing to do with being thick skinned...I have that. But I dont feel like I should have to suck it up and take it if the man Im with is critical and Im losing and gaining weight to make him happy and he still cant say anything positive about me.

yeah you're right you shouldn't. i'm sorry you had to put up with that kind of nitpicky and never satisfied behaviour. I hope that's not what OP is going through. I hope it's just they talk like that and she cares for him and like most women when we are in a decent relationship she just cares to know what he finds appealing since she is going thru all these changes and actually has some level of options about where she ends up. not full control but some leeway. a certain amount of acceptance is necessary on both their parts though, you're right about that.:flowerforyou:

How do YOU want to look and feel?

This ^ and the rest will fall into place...keep positive support around you..dispense with negativity...for peace of mind...:flowerforyou:

To be honest. Even as brotha

Fit >>>>>than thick

OP, first you know to figure out how you want to look and what makes you feel good in your own skin. You can't mold your body to what he wants because he will never be satisfied.

First, you can't change genetics. I am puerto rican and I was born tall, with a lean like structure and no *kitten*. When I gain weight it goes all to my stomach and boobs. My legs and butt stay exactly the same, for the most part, so thickening up with fat is practically impossible for me. The only thing you can do with your genetics is work on tailoring it with proper eating and lifting.

If he wants to you have more fat in certain areas to take away the "crack head" look and give you a softer appearance in areas that are sexually appealing to him, well ****...that's not going to happen. You can't direct your body fat and you can't make certain areas build muscle faster.

And quite frankly, is his body up to your standards? Most likely not, so you need to have a real conversation about your body and your expectations with your body. If he can't be happy with what makes you comfortable then he isn't worth keeping around.

Tell him you are a woman and are alive, not his fantasy object that he can push a button when he wants it fat then push it again when he wants you skinny~!

http://cdn.necole*****ie.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/thick-vs-fat.jpg

this one I cannot post for fear of deletion due to cleavage but it's from the side and not over the top at all and has a wonderful image of Tyra looking puzzled? displeased? envious? thoughtful? awed? check it out.

give us a hint on the ***** starred out letters - even if we copy/paste, we won't see it with stars.

oh sorry , it rhymes with nicole ritchie and is a female dog.

To be honest. Even as brotha

Fit >>>>>than thick