Negative comments

I use them as fuel! Although if I had heard something like that come out of my husbands mouth, he would have been slapped and sleeping on the couch. My girls are 9 days shy of 18 months apart, and never once did he say anything hurtful about my shape. Sounds like he is your ex for multiple reasons though.

But seriously, don't take his comments to heart, just use them to fuel your workouts.

How do you all cope with negative comments?
My ex puts me down all the time, I know he's doing it just to degrade me but its hurts non the less.
He says I'm saggy & I don't have the figure before my kids, 2 in 18 months.
I know I'm no model but I don't think I look too bad after having 2 kids in a short amount of time?

I'd probably wait till the kids weren't in the room then let lose a string of profanity toward him that would make his grandmother faint, sailors blush, and the heavens rain down fire. If he had anything to do with 2 kids in 18 months just tell him to bugger off.

Wow, your ex sounds like a low life. On the bright side, he is your ex, so you shouldn't care what negativity he has to throw your way. He's probably just jealous that you are getting your affairs in order, seeing you succeed and be happy will no doubt make him miserable.

Keep up the good work and let him keep hating. The more he hates, the better you must be doing. Try look at it like that!

Tell him you have a different level of maturity after having two children.

OR . . . you could take the low road and say, "Yeah, but if I just give up and get morbidly obese, I won't have anyone to date but guys like you."

ZING!

I don't share personal things with my ex, we only interact about things to do with the children. Don't give him the chance to hurt you by sharing things with him, find another, more supportive network.

XX GG

When I was a teenager I was a big girl (which I still am), and often had to deal with teasing from my siblings and their friends about my weight especially since they were all skinny kids. My mother had me write a journal every day of things that made me happy and I was proud of myself for, it really helped my self esteem out.

hes your ex for a reason ..now move past him and get the new you..!!!!

OR . . . you could take the low road and say, "Yeah, but if I just give up and get morbidly obese, I won't have anyone to date but guys like you."

Good line!

when ever someone in my family makes a comment like that I go to the gym and work on the punching bags and picture him in the center of the bag and I just keep hitting making sure I see their face right there.
It gets the anger and hurt out and gives a great endorphin kick

Why on earth are you and your ex discussing your weight?? Boundaries! Thats off the table.

As for your question, I try not to let anyone's opinion get in my way. After all- you can't control or change what anyone says, or how they act, or what they think.

All you can do is be you.

The only opinion that truly matters is your own. If someone's being a douchopotamus, tune him out, especially since it's someone whose opinion shouldn't matter at all. Don't let him continue poisoning the well.

I use them as fuel! Although if I had heard something like that come out of my husbands mouth, he would have been slapped and sleeping on the couch. My girls are 9 days shy of 18 months apart, and never once did he say anything hurtful about my shape. Sounds like he is your ex for multiple reasons though.

But seriously, don't take his comments to heart, just use them to fuel your workouts.

I totally agree with you on that. Even with family and friends I use their negative comments to push me onto the next goal - say losing another 10 pounds. I have already bought my outfit that I will be wearing to on the day I make my grand entrance. It is hard, but sometimes you have to grow thick skin, otherwise you will end up in the kitchen, opening the cupboards and fridge looking for food to comfort you.

If he is at your place commenting negatively, get the kids together and go for a walk with them, tell him you are going and no matter how he *****es and moan, stick to you guns and leave. He is nothing but a bully who is preying your weakness. Once he realizes that you are not taking him on, the sweetness will come out, but that is another question.

This may seem a little strange but I think of words in terms of 'value." For example, when a true friend tells me something that hurts my feelings (or maybe just my pride) but her real intent was to help me, those words are valuable to me. I take them in without offense and appreciate them because I know they came from a caring heart.

When someone says something to me that is just meant to be hurtful or tear me down, those words have no value to me at all so I disregard them or throw them in the trash, so to speak. I don't let them reach my heart where they can do damage because they mean nothing to me.

You need to tell him that those comments are hurtful. You need to surround yourself with supportive friends and family. It is not helpful to be put down. You need to be lifted up.

He sounds like a jerk.