Negative comments

Repeat after me: "That's none of your business anymore."

I would totally take the low road (obviously when the kids aren't around). "Wow! I have to tell you how much better I feel though about having shed 185 pounds (or whatever he weighs) of dead weight!"

OR

OR . . . you could take the low road and say, "Yeah, but if I just give up and get morbidly obese, I won't have anyone to date but guys like you."

Awesome!

How do you all cope with negative comments?
My ex puts me down all the time, I know he's doing it just to degrade me but its hurts non the less.
He says I'm saggy & I don't have the figure before my kids, 2 in 18 months.
I know I'm no model but I don't think I look too bad after having 2 kids in a short amount of time?

Cut him off! Since he has such a problem with your body, apparently he has no desire to share it.
I bet he doesn't have the perfect body he had at 18 either. Someone needs to grow up.

Seriously tho, try telling him how his comments make you feel. Some open communication might help. Otherwise, if he is just a self-centered jerk, things may never change, and my suggestion above might have to be tried!
Best of luck to you.

WAIT! I just reread your post and saw where he is your EX. Why do you give 2 flips what he thinks about your body??
He is just jealous and is trying to push your buttons. You don't need that crap in your life. Tell him where to get off and go about living your life.

Ignore it. No one can make you feel anything (minus physical pain). If he's "making" you feel insecure, etc...that's because you are letting him do it.

this x 100

How do you all cope with negative comments?
My ex puts me down all the time, I know he's doing it just to degrade me but its hurts non the less.
He says I'm saggy & I don't have the figure before my kids, 2 in 18 months.
I know I'm no model but I don't think I look too bad after having 2 kids in a short amount of time?

“In this life, people will love you and people will hate you and none of that will have anything to do with you.” (Abraham Hicks)
Next time he says something, just say "Wow, you must be having a bad day if you need to tear me down."
Put the responsibliity for his comments back on him, because they are about him, not you.

It takes two to tango. The abuser needs someone to abuse. My suggestion is to stop being the goat. He is your Ex, right? You need to see yourself as someone of value, and I would wager that one of the reasons he is your ex is because he keeps discounting you. You need validation, and he has none to offer.

He's your ex for christmas sake. Tell him to take a flying leap off a very tall building and move on. You are letting the ex affect you in ways an ex should never have the power to. At this point you have two things you can do, 1. Use it as fuel to get back to (or better than) you were before those two kids or 2. sit down and feel sorry for yourself because your ex thinks you look bad. Me personally I'd like to look better than before and show him EXACTLY what he's missing, but in reality he'll always have something negative to say about you because it makes HIM feel all big and bad and he truly thinks he's better than you and always will. Stop letting his words hurt you, the best thing you can do is smile at him, don't let him know his words hurt you because that's what he wants to do, hurt you and your letting him, congrats

What a jerk. Where does he come off talk to you like that? You gave him his children for crying out loud! He should be worshipping you! Thanking you!
Just use his negative words (and personality) as a motivator so that when you reach your goal it is even more satisfying :]

him: blah blah blah blah blah i'm such a douche...oh and here, to remind you of why you got rid of me i'll hit below the belt and lash out with any crappy comment i can that i know will get under your skin. (read as: i'm going to put you down because you're working toward a goal to make yourself look better, feel better, and be a healthier person and i'm jealous)

you: and THAT is reason number eleventy why you're my ex!
So...blah blah blah change the subject to the kids, which should obviously be your only concern at this point.

Maybe your ex knows you're on the weightless path or possibly has seen a change in you and is trying to sabotage your future happiness. Because if the only major thing he can pick on you about is your weight and you loose the weight, then all he'll be left with is his negativity with no one to project it onto.
If you can't avoid him the best thing to do would be not to acknowledge him when he makes those comments because its not worth your time.

Repeat after me: "That's none of your business anymore."

Quickly followed by "And what you think of me is none of my business anymore."

I told my detractor "your comment hurt my feelings".
He apologized and we moved on.

There's a lot of power in this statement.

OR . . . you could take the low road and say, "Yeah, but if I just give up and get morbidly obese, I won't have anyone to date but guys like you."

Actually, I REALLY LIKE this response. LOL

I would be inclined to say the following:

"The fact that you feel the need to say that to me says far more about you than it does about me."

Okay ... as many have said he is your ex. I'm sure, even though he is your ex, his opinion still packs a wallop. No matter how much it hurts you can not let him know that. If he gets a reaction he will continue the assault.

Also, as many have said, he is probably jealous ... you are taking care of yourself and I'm sure you appearance is improving and he knows he does not stand a chance.

I agree with setting boundaries, even if he doesn't care about how it effects you, he may care how it effects his children. Only address this issue from that stand point. When the children are not in the room and cannot over hear the conversation. Explain to him that his opinion of your body is not your concern. Tell him to keep his comments to himself and that they have no effect on you (weather they do or not, you must take the stand that they do not). However, they may have a long lasting bad effect on the children, and for that reason he must keep his opinion to himself.

Good luck, and remember he is not your husband anymore. Move on.