Would you date a woman who has kids and you do not?

liftingheavy1
liftingheavy1 Posts: 112
edited October 30 in Chit-Chat
Would you date a woman who has kids and you do not? or ladies would you date a man that has kids and you don't ?
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  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I am nearing 30 and my dating pool is already severely limited. So yes.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    No. Cause I'm married. And generally don't date women And I don't like kids, generally.

    I also wouldn't date a dude with kids cause again: Married and generally don't like kids
  • liftingheavy1
    liftingheavy1 Posts: 112
    I am nearing 30 and my dating pool is already severely limited. So yes.


    LOL even if she had a crazy baby daddy LOL
  • liftingheavy1
    liftingheavy1 Posts: 112
    No. Cause I'm married. And generally don't date women And I don't like kids, generally.

    I also wouldn't date a dude with kids cause again: Married and generally don't like kids

    well this is for men but if women want to give input so be it
  • liftingheavy1
    liftingheavy1 Posts: 112
    My ex girlfriend had an daughter, but i would never date a womanizer again with Chillen again if dad is still too much involved


    yeah very true
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I am nearing 30 and my dating pool is already severely limited. So yes.


    LOL even if she had a crazy baby daddy LOL

    That would definitely play a role in whether or not I continue dating her.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    I am nearing 30 and my dating pool is already severely limited. So yes.


    LOL even if she had a crazy baby daddy LOL

    That would definitely play a role in whether or not I continue dating her.

    How YOU doin'?
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    Yes, because I know she puts out.
  • UnwrappingCandy
    UnwrappingCandy Posts: 418 Member
    Yes, I would. My first is due in February though so I guess I better get on this. Maybe I'll find a woman who has kids but she wouldn't mind having another. :smile:
  • simplyciera
    simplyciera Posts: 168 Member
    Would I date a dude that had kids?
    Depends on how many, by how many different women, & the relationship he had with the kids/mom.
    But I'd NEVER date a dude that had kids & didn't take care of them. Disgusting.
  • gvegamlent
    gvegamlent Posts: 8
    I would date a woman with kids
  • cebiginalaska
    cebiginalaska Posts: 280 Member
    Would date woman who has kids but not one with crazy ex :noway:

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  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    i'm replying theoretically because i dont date women, but in general i think the answer of whether you should or shouldnt depends on your age.

    for instance i'm 41 and have no kids but since i only date age appropriate guys, i have to factor in him possibly having kids into the equation. when i was in my 20's it was different; no way was i dating dudes who had kids from previous relationships
  • Synapze
    Synapze Posts: 499
    Yes, because I know she puts out.

    LMAO..Beat me to it.
  • johned63
    johned63 Posts: 306 Member
    Yep, I did. Actually on our second date I dated her and her kids. I dated her and her 2 children and we had a lot of fun We have been married over 20 years and I we all get along great -
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I am nearing 30 and my dating pool is already severely limited. So yes.


    LOL even if she had a crazy baby daddy LOL

    That would definitely play a role in whether or not I continue dating her.

    How YOU doin'?

    :flowerforyou:
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    No. Cause I'm married. And generally don't date women And I don't like kids, generally.

    I also wouldn't date a dude with kids cause again: Married and generally don't like kids

    well this is for men but if women want to give input so be it

    yeah....that will definitely happen, being a public forum and all. Don't see why this should be limited to one sex anyways...or sexual preference either.

    Regardless of who has the kids (female or male), it is all about personal preference and making a decision by the other party in regards to feeling ready to accept a certain level of responsibility that will happen if the relationship progresses far enough.

    Comes down to the other party wanting and being ready to have a family....as well as being prepared for the difficulties that they will face in regards to "becoming" a part of a ready made family.
  • ibtiamat
    ibtiamat Posts: 26 Member
    Nah, I am twenty, I can find a different woman that is child free. :P
  • twistygirl
    twistygirl Posts: 517 Member
    My son is 31 and he can't seem to find a women without kids, he likes kids but said he would prefer to make his own, but would consider a widow. That way he wouldn't have the baby daddy syndrome.
  • CrankMeUp
    CrankMeUp Posts: 2,860 Member
    Yes, because I know she puts out.

    :noway:
  • Soccermavrick
    Soccermavrick Posts: 405 Member
    I have a kid, but before I did, I did date a couple of women with kids. Depending on the circumstances, the guy can really play a role in your relationship even though he is an Ex. If he is active, then it is likely that he is going to stay active, I mean they have a kid together. And there maybe nothing that you can do about it, if he is a jerk, he might screw with her head and there is not much that you could do. You really have to judge for yourself. Every case is different. There were times I regretted it, and there were times it served a purpose. (I did not end up long-term with any of them.)
  • operation_cute
    operation_cute Posts: 588 Member
    Yep, I did. Actually on our second date I dated her and her kids. I dated her and her 2 children and we had a lot of fun We have been married over 20 years and I we all get along great -

    That's sweet :) My boyfriend took me and my kids on our second date too (went to a family fun center) awesome guy and definitely a keeper... looks like your wife saw the same thing :flowerforyou:
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    My son is 31 and he can't seem to find a women without kids, he likes kids but said he would prefer to make his own, but would consider a widow. That way he wouldn't have the baby daddy syndrome.

    And I am 29. The odds of finding a girl of a similar age that has never been married, no kids, AND compatible with me are very slim. Heck, even finding someone my age that isn't married is uncommon.

    And I don't think a "baby daddy" is necessarily a bad thing. If the mother and father have a good relationship, it can work out very well. Especially if the father plays an active role. If he does, then I would expect to fill more of a role model position for the children involved rather than a parent and would want the mother and father to make the parental decisions. If the father isn't actively involved, then I would expect to take a limited parental role with deference to the mother.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    My son is 31 and he can't seem to find a women without kids, he likes kids but said he would prefer to make his own, but would consider a widow. That way he wouldn't have the baby daddy syndrome.

    And I am 29. The odds of finding a girl of a similar age that has never been married, no kids, AND compatible with me are very slim. Heck, even finding someone my age that isn't married is uncommon.

    And I don't think a "baby daddy" is necessarily a bad thing. If the mother and father have a good relationship, it can work out very well. Especially if the father plays an active role. If he does, then I would expect to fill more of a role model position for the children involved rather than a parent and would want the mother and father to make the parental decisions. If the father isn't actively involved, then I would expect to take a limited parental role with deference to the mother.

    My "dad" was actually my step-dad and in some ways, that just made him that much better because he chose to be a dad and take on that responsibility.

    Not saying step fathers/mothers are better overall...but in my case it was a great thing.
  • Fiercely_Me
    Fiercely_Me Posts: 481 Member
    Yes, because I know she puts out.

    LMAO..Beat me to it.

    Do men really think that?
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Yes, because I know she puts out.

    LMAO..Beat me to it.

    Do men really think that?

    No, we don't. I pretty much expect that any woman I am dating is going to put out, regardless of her having children.
  • The_Enginerd
    The_Enginerd Posts: 3,982 Member
    Yes. When I was in my 20's it was a different story, but in my 30's, it's pretty common for someone to have children.
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Yes, without question.
  • StarChanger
    StarChanger Posts: 605 Member
    I'm married, but we don't have kids. If I ended up in the dating pool again, I'd probably want to date only men with no kids or kids who are completely grown and COMPLETELY out of the house....and whose ex, is just that.

    edited for a missing apostrophe.... :grumble:
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Yes, because I know she puts out.

    LMAO..Beat me to it.

    Do men really think that?

    No, we don't. I pretty much expect that any woman I am dating is going to put out, regardless of her having children.

    Really dislike the gender generaIizing. Do some men think that? Yes. Do some women think that too? Yes. It's the individual, not the gender.
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