What did they mean by this? Can't stop crying

First of all you need to not worry what others think, what's important is how you feel. There will always been someone out there that says something cruel. Since I've lost weight I've been told I'm too skinney. I don't feel 125 for 5'3" is too skinney and I like my size. You definitely don't look fat. Your going about this the right way slow and steady so keep it up :}

It really makes me sad that there are ADULTS that think that cyber bullying is ok...

Get over yourself.

Exhibit A....smh

It makes me sad that there are ADULTS who have no idea what cyber bullying is. A difference of opinion is not the same as bullying :flowerforyou:

Makes me sad that the phrase is thrown around so easily.

I've noticed it's usually proceeded by the poster saying the same thing over and over on the same post, no-one quotes or agrees with them so suddenly they are the victim of bullying...

Thats what being bullied as a kid does to you. Creates a thick skin.

I see where you're coming from on that one, but some people have different responses and coping mechanisms to the same experiences. And the point I and others are trying to make here is that THIS is supposed to be a supportive website, and attacking the OP is not helping at all. You think she doesn't realize she's more sensitive than some would think she should be? She does. Is pointing it out using harsh language going to change that? Nope. All it's going to do is make her even more upset than she was when she made the cry for help in the first place.

It really makes me sad that there are ADULTS that think that cyber bullying is ok...

Get over yourself.

Exhibit A....smh

It makes me sad that there are ADULTS who have no idea what cyber bullying is. A difference of opinion is not the same as bullying :flowerforyou:

Makes me sad that the phrase is thrown around so easily.

I've noticed it's usually proceeded by the poster saying the same thing over and over on the same post, no-one quotes or agrees with them so suddenly they are the victim of bullying...

I wasn't even talking about ME I was talking about THE OP. I did NOT make this post! I wasn't talking about anyone bullying ME. I was talking about the OP who probably isn't even reading this anymore! How is making fun of her and calling her an "attention *kitten*" supposed to help? She obviously needs to get some counselling or something to help her issues so why does it make you feel better to push her even further down?! It pisses me off when people attack others when they are already at a low point. Do you really want to be the person to push someone over the edge? One of my best friends killed themselves after something similar to this. If you must know THAT is why I feel the need to stand up for people like this. Yes, this is the internet and people are mean BUT that doesn't mean that I don't have the right to point out that it's wrong. Last time I checked this website was about motivation and support, not tearing each other down. Hopefully the mods help will keep it the way it's supposed to be. I will continue to tell people when they are in the wrong, even if I am one of the only ones that feels that way. Luckily, I have a thicker skin than the OP and I don't give a rat's behind what you think about ME but I DO care when you're hurting someone else who may not be as strong as I am.

I'm HONESTLY not fishing for any compliments and would much rather people were honest with me

Seriously allow me to doubt that...you need to speak to someone about your self esteem issues IRL darlin...posting 2 threads (a second one because you didn't like the way the other was going?) on an internet forum to have random people explain to you "what did they mean by this?" is a bit much.
Self esteem issues are one of the hardest things to overcome and you aren't going to resolve them online. Best of luck to you.

To the OP:

1) I highly recommend counseling. Seriously. It's not a panacea, but it can be tremendously helpful.
2) Based on your profile pic, I'd guess it's at least as likely that they were body-shaming in the other direction. i.e. "Eat some bacon!" because they thought you were too skinny.
3) good luck

Maybe there was a cop nearby.

well from your profile pic i cant imagine for one minute how they could be calling you fat.

i have no idea what they are referring to on this though. its just immature men. ignore one bad comment. embrace all the positive ones :-)

AGREED!

Hi everyone

So I was walking down the road this morning in shorts and a top when 2 guys yell from their van "oi love hows the bacon!" By this I can only assume they were calling me fat. I got home a few minutes ago and can't stop crying. A brief summary of my background is that I lost a lot of weight very quickly due to under eating and over-exercising. I then went travelling for 10 weeks and pretty much gained it all back which for anyone who has lost then gained weight knows, its freakin' tough!! I was feeling very low for a long time but finally decided in May to do something about it. Since then I have been losing weight sensibly. (eating well and going to the gym 5x a week for an hour and a half - 2 hours, not 7 days a week for 3-4 hours like before). The progress is slow and frustrating but I've actually started to feel a little better about myself these past couple of weeks and have started to notice improvements. Now I just feel awful again. I don't know how much I weigh as I got far too obsessed with the scales so ditched them last year, but I wear a clothes size 10 (that's UK size so a US size 6) If I had to guess I'd say I'm about 135Ibs. I KNOW I'm not a stick insect but I don't get how anyone can basically just yell at a girl "hey fatty" and not realise how it's deep that's gonna cut. Urh

All the girl is say is she was upset (Understandable is it can be taken as an insult! and not all of us do have think skin that life!!!) and that she didnt know what it means! Yes at the end of the day you could say who cares they are only a couple of idiot! BUT there is no need for insult she didnt bloody insult anyone! Its a fitness site for god sake! Not lets gather together and be massive arseholes site!!!

All the girl is say is she was upset (Understandable is it can be taken as an insult! and not all of us do have think skin that life!!!) and that she didnt know what it means! Yes at the end of the day you could say who cares they are only a couple of idiot! BUT there is no need for insult she didnt bloody insult anyone! Its a fitness site for god sake! Not lets gather together and be massive arseholes site!!!

No one is an arsehole, the guys did not call her fat. they were just reminding her of her place in the kitchen.,,cooking bacon for the football game on the tele...not on the road ..

HAHAHAHAHAH Funny! Nice to know the bloke in the van turned up as I was talking about the arsehole on HERE!!!!

Look, can we all just stop talking about bacon? I already had breakfast and I have to wait a few more hours till I can eat lunch.

I assume they were trying to flirt with you, but don't have the confidence required to do it correctly.

You are so correct.... Boy's in men's Bodies

I would have been like... "Bacon? Where? It's mine!!!! MINE!!!"

But when you're over weight it's easy to fall back to being the funny chick to advert the sadness you're feeling now OP.

It seems you recognize that you have self image issues but know- You look down right pretty to me and I'm a know it all...on the internet so everything I say is right...and I say you're gorgeous.

You're a sweetheart.

She's 21. Give her a break. It bothered her by someone shouting to her out of their vehicle.

Maybe when the guys in the van mature they will figure out that shouting from the van is something that doesn't show much class.

Not everyone reacts to the same to each situation. It's great that some can just let it roll off their backs! Just because you can, doesn't mean everyone does.

When I was walking to a hotel from a baseball game in Pittsburgh a group of guys were stuck in traffic and yelled out "That's a hugggge b!tch."

I was walking a little behind but my whole family was there and heard it. I tried so hard to keep my chin up and the tears away. I think I was more embarrassed than anything. When I got back to the hotel room I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for a really long time.

That was the first time I had been yelled at like that and it broke my heart. My cousin told me that he must have insecurities in his own life, which may be true, but it didn't hurt any less. I think he was just trying to get a laugh with his friends at my expense.