Why such negativity ?

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And, no, not everyone signs up for the same reasons.

Did you see how many guys commented about how beautiful she was? What a surprise that was!

Did you see the second thread she made with the altered title? Instead of the nonsense she initially claimed was shouted, the new title CLEARLY stated she was called fat. Which it turns out is untrue.

I think, and I believe strongly that this 'young lady' was seeking attention and fishing for compliments.

I don't care how CLEARLY she stated anything. I can CLEARLY state that I'm 8 feet tall and live on the moon, but it doesn't stop me being an attention seeking idiot.

You have your opinion, I have mine......I hope that you will learn as you get used to the site, not to believe everything you read, and that threads like this are never a good idea. They only go one way.

Agreed - I can see this go in a negative direction quickly. Before it does, I'll offer my .02. I think some people are so frustrated by the shortcomings in their own lives that all they can do is mock others. I didn't see the other thread, so I can't comment specifically about what happened. So, I have no idea if the young lady was catcalled because she looks good, or was mocked because of her shape. Either way - the people doing that are just losers.

This thread is SURE to end well...


And, no, not everyone signs up for the same reasons.

Both of these.

the negativity and closed mindedness on these forums shocked me as well. it's like a mob mentality sometimes. just snowballs out of control.

Agreed - I can see this go in a negative direction quickly. Before it does, I'll offer my .02. I think some people are so frustrated by the shortcomings in their own lives that all they can do is mock others. I didn't see the other thread, so I can't comment specifically about what happened. So, I have no idea if the young lady was catcalled because she looks good, or was mocked because of her shape. Either way - the people doing that are just losers.

You didn't read either of the other threads?...Bye then!

It's sad that a lot of society nowadays feel it's within their right to make horrible comments/remarks.I don't know what type of kick they get out of hurting people, and to think that these people are or will be breeding a new class of society. I shiver at the thought of how THEY will be. This madness has got to stop.

BUT

The gal (as you have mentioned), needs to understand that. She needs to understand that there ARE people out there that will be horrible and nasty towards her, about her, just becaue they can. Just because they think it's fun or they gain some type of power over the her or those reading it. SHE gives them the power or DENIES that power over her and her feelings. SHE needs to rethink how she posts, as to not leave herself open for such comments, but understand that she could even put out "It's such a beautiful day" and still get the snide remarks.

Welcome to 2013. It's not right, but it is what it is and until we start pointing it out as a group, against these people, it will never stop...never stop here, never stop in society. Only when we say "enough" will it stop.

I would suggest that she (as well as your daughter) pick up a few self-help books on self-esteem and overcoming your own emotional obstacles. It has done me wonders. I couldn't afford a shrink so I empowered myself to be better. I learned the techniques and here I am today. I'm not perfect or "healed" but you bet yer cupcake that I'm on a better level within myself than before.

Good luck to that gal (and to your daughter) in finding the center within and empowerment from then on.
Cheers

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If you are seriously offended by something you read on the internet, unplug and leave.. thank you

This thread is SURE to end well...


And, no, not everyone signs up for the same reasons.

I try to read posts like this and remember that the anonymity of the internet is not a good thing. I find myself typing things I'd never say to a person's face and I'd like to train myself to get past that instant-reaction/response

Really? Because that post seemed pretty benign to me. Hardly enough to send me into netiquette self-talk.

My point is, surely we all created our accounts for the same reasons

you assume too much

As a mom I get it, but if my daughter (or son for the matter) came to me this upset, by this particular situation. I would end up telling them the same thing. You need help.

She stated she has body issues and at some point and eating disorder. If it was my kid I would worry, this world is not a sugar coated place, and I would want them to be mentally and physically healthy/strong.

Some times a pat on the head and there there you're beautiful is not what the person needs to hear.

So I couldn't help but stumble across a recent post from a young lady who was upset over what two men shouted at her. I was shocked and upset to see how many nasty and hurtful comments she reviewed. I have to say what's really upsetting me about this is the fact that I have two young daughters aged 18 and 22. This girl is 21 years old. If one of my girls came home crying because if a comment some idiot had made (whether she took it the wrong way or not) I'd be horrified and even more distraught to think she may have logged onto a site like this to receive some of these horrible comments. The young lady has CLEARLY stated that she struggles with he esteem issues and also clearly explained why she made two posts. Yes it may look "attention seeking" but clearly she was in need of instant comfort and needed that support. I was bullied a lot when I was young and if back then I knew I could log onto a website and get some positive feedback like hell would I have.

My point is, surely we all created our accounts for the same reasons: to seek advice, offer and receive support, ask for motivation as well as motivating others etc etc. I think "cyber bullying" is a bit of a strong term and thrown about too freely but I do get the impression that a lot of people like to sit behind their keyboard making negative comments and don't stop to think of the consequences.

I didn't create my account for any of those reasons.

If you were truly bullied when you were younger, calling the comments on this site the same undermines what you and others have gone through.

At 5 you need instant support.

At 21 you need accurate information and to realize you aren't a kid anymore.

Agreed - I can see this go in a negative direction quickly. Before it does, I'll offer my .02. I think some people are so frustrated by the shortcomings in their own lives that all they can do is mock others. I didn't see the other thread, so I can't comment specifically about what happened. So, I have no idea if the young lady was catcalled because she looks good, or was mocked because of her shape. Either way - the people doing that are just losers.

You didn't read either of the other threads?...Bye then!

Why such negativity?