negative comments from friends are starting to suck!!

you need to quit losing weight
your no fun now that your skinny
we are going to plump you back up, etc. comments from everyone!!

Those are the ones I'm hearing the most of right now...and I'm 30+ pounds from my goal. :laugh: I can't imagine what'll happen when I actually reach it.

then do something about it,
kick some *kitten*.
PROVE THEM WRONG!

Ask them if it's OK for you to continuously criticize them as well.

I am starting to get these again. I lost 70 pounds and have maintained for just over a year. I now rejoined and am starting again to lose the last 10 pounds and all I am hearing is that I don't need to and I shouldn't get any skinnier and all of it. My family is the worst for it.

Just remember why you're doing this. You're not doing this so they will think you are thin enough, you are doing this fo how YOU feel about yourself. And really, that's the most important part.

I used to get that, I listened to them, stopped losing weight, then gained some, and now I'm miserable and find losing impossible. YOU know yourself, don't listen to them

Usually the people who say that kind of stuff fall under two categories: those who are trying to show their support and simply saying the wrong thing, and those who are jealous of your success.

My gramma always tells me I'm perfect the way I am, I don't need to lose weight, etc. etc. and I know she's just trying to be my sweet, loving gramma who does really think I'm that awesome. But it's frustrating to hear that because it translates to lack of support.

All the advice I can really offer is try not to let it get to you. You need to work for your own success, you need to be comfortable with yourself, and that's all that matters. You are not losing weight for those people - you're doing it for yourself!

You can also come up with some witty comebacks too, I find that helps shut people up :]

SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP

QFT

Congrats on the hard work of losing 65 (!!) pounds, thats so awesome! I truly don't understand why people feel the need to be so negative, maybe they feel threatened.. Keep your head up, in the end you're getting fit for you, not anyone else

I get the same thing , going from 250 to 190 in 6 months. I just brush it off because I know my own goal, trying to get to 180. It could also be them being jealous of your progress, especially from the ones that complain that they themselves are too fat, I get that alot. Just keep your head in game and keep going towards that goal, you will get there. And congrates on the loss so far.

As long as your target weight is healthy for your size just let it roll off your back, it's not about your ego it is about your health keep strong!

I get it all the time...my boyfriend said and I quote "I don't want you to have pancake boobs." I just laughed and told him to shut up and I'll buy new boobs if they start to bug me.

Congrats on your 65lbs and just keep doing what you're doing. They will get used to new you and soon you'll be begging them to say "you're too thin or stop losing."

It is often the case that people in your life -- even those that love you the most -- have an investment in your staying the same over time. When they perceive you to be changing, they understand that they will have to adjust to the new you, and that will take time and energy; or they fear that your change will somehow take you away from them. This happens often to people who have had positive life changes after powerful experiences -- a serious illness, for example, or a spiritual experience, or a transformative turning toward a new form of life.

I used to help lead people on vision fasts in the desert, and this is a significant problem in their return to their old life. I think people in such a situation need to be forthright with their family and friends, and say things like, "I know that is how you used to think of me, but I have made some changes now, and I love you just as much," or "I understand that I used to be that way, but I am trying very hard to change that. I hope I have your support."

I think the same thing is true here. I think you might want to learn to say, "Yes, I have lost weight, and I feel wonderful about it. Thank you for noticing," or "Thank you for being concerned about my health. In fact, I am losing weight on purpose, and I feel so much better. I love it that you worry about me."

First off, congrats!

I had somewhat similar problems when I signed up for WeightWatchers a couple of years ago and only had about 10-15 to lose. People would lightheartedly say things like "what are you doing here?" and "you don't need to lose any weight," etc. It was meant as a compliment and I recognize that, but I still found it very discouraging to be treated like my goals were invalid when I went there to seek encouragement and support. So I said something about how it bothered me and they stopped. Bottom line, if your friends aren't being supportive, tell them it bothers you. They probably don't realize it. If they continue after being told, you don't need them.

I know what you mean. Years ago a friend told me that I was losing my womanly curves. But I knew what I wanted and stayed with it.

I wish I could recapture that motivation and determination now. I keep trying.

Any friend who *****es about my weight loss and can't support me is OUT.

I wont be friends with those who think snide comments are okay.

THIS!!!