GUYS: would you end your relationship over extra skin ?

donyellemoniquex3
donyellemoniquex3 Posts: 2,384 Member
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Say you workout and eat right with your girlfriend, but she's lost a LOT of weight over the years. Say from 300lbs to 175lbs (example) and she has a lot of extra skin on her stomach, thighs and tushie. Would you be proud of her achievement and stay with her, or be so repulsed by her extra skin that you'll end it if she doesn't get plastic surgery.

I got the idea from today's Dr. Phil episode.
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  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    no. i'd do it over dinner.
  • wildcatnyc
    wildcatnyc Posts: 2,410 Member
    Funny you posted this...my bf and I were watching extreme weight loss last night and the woman had a ton of extra skin. I asked him if he would break up with me if I had extra skin like that and he said he would...
  • kevinjb1
    kevinjb1 Posts: 233 Member
    No. If I loved her at 300 pounds why wouldn't I still love her at 175 loose skin or not?

    She's the same woman so If he is repulsed by the lose skin then he should take a hard look in the mirror and decide why he was in the relationship in the first place.
  • Sedna_51
    Sedna_51 Posts: 277 Member
    I think if anyone made "undergo cosmetic surgery" a condition of our continued relationship I would get out of there as fast as I damn well could.
  • darkguardian419
    darkguardian419 Posts: 1,302 Member
    yes









    not srs
  • NKF92879
    NKF92879 Posts: 601 Member
    No. If I loved her at 300 pounds why wouldn't I still love her at 175 loose skin or not?

    She's the same woman so If he is repulsed by the lose skin then he should take a hard look in the mirror and decide why he was in the relationship in the first place.

    1) faith in humanity restored
    2) excellent point
  • dlpau
    dlpau Posts: 25 Member
    I'd be proud of her achievement and stay with her.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Omg yes!! Why do you keep extra?! It isnt like an extra button to replace lost ones!
  • Sedna_51
    Sedna_51 Posts: 277 Member
    Omg yes!! Why do you keep extra?! It isnt like an extra button to replace lost ones!

    please be trolling please be trolling please be trolling
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Jeesh, I asked my boyfriend and he got all butthurt. Why would you even need to ask me that? Youre so insecure after all these years and you dont know my answer?

    I'd still get surgery though and he supports it, but didnt expect him to get so butthurt sensitive Cancer sign over it...sigh. :noway:
  • horndave
    horndave Posts: 565
    No. If I loved her at 300 pounds why wouldn't I still love her at 175 loose skin or not?

    She's the same woman so If he is repulsed by the lose skin then he should take a hard look in the mirror and decide why he was in the relationship in the first place.

    Verbatim.
  • abhishekbansalinWECHANGED
    abhishekbansalinWECHANGED Posts: 155
    definitely its not the reason to end the relation.... and that flappy skin goes away with toning.... nothing is permanent in this world
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    I date snakes. They shed their skin. You guys are on your own.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    no I would remove some of it myself and serve with fava beans and a nice Chianti.
    gw-ikw18MiTflbHF.gif \m/
  • jaxokc
    jaxokc Posts: 26 Member
    I think if anyone made "undergo cosmetic surgery" a condition of our continued relationship I would get out of there as fast as I damn well could.
    EXACTLY! How shallow...why would anyone want to be with someone like that.
  • NovemberJune
    NovemberJune Posts: 2,525 Member
    What I'd do is quit watching Dr. Phil :laugh:
  • vindetta12
    vindetta12 Posts: 8
    No way. The extra skin is a testament to her hard work and dedication. I would tell her to wear that extra skin with pride knowing she did what other people couldnt do. but thats just me.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    not if she could do this

    tumblr_lqab88mfuB1qlr140o1_500.gif
  • Sedna_51
    Sedna_51 Posts: 277 Member
    "I've got an idea, honey. If you're so repulsed by looking at my extra skin, why don't we just blind you? It'll be cheaper than surgery. Why, I've even got some bleach and a long pin in the next room."
  • Sedna_51
    Sedna_51 Posts: 277 Member
    not if she could do this

    tumblr_lqab88mfuB1qlr140o1_500.gif

    okay so this is my new weight loss goal, who's in
  • _Countryboy_
    _Countryboy_ Posts: 71
    If you bread her and deep fry her, the skin is the best part....
  • Wuggums
    Wuggums Posts: 339 Member
    When my OH and I first started dating, I was overweight but not obese. I gained a ton of weight through the years and he stuck around (see my profile for details). Now that I've lost it all and then some, he hates my extra skin. To the point that he mentions surgery to me every time he sees my flappy arms and saggy tummy. He makes comments about how unattractive it is and he pretty much wants nothing to do with me. And this is coming from a guy who himself has gained about 80 pounds in the last few years and is making no effort to do anything about it. There are some days when it tears me up inside to know how he feels about it. Then there are other days when I just say "screw it - his loss" and go out for a bike ride instead!

    My BF on the other hand has no issue with it!! Kidding!! :drinker:
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Funny you posted this...my bf and I were watching extreme weight loss last night and the woman had a ton of extra skin. I asked him if he would break up with me if I had extra skin like that and he said he would...
    Sounds like a solid, loving relationship.
  • MyProgressISYour1Proof
    MyProgressISYour1Proof Posts: 376 Member
    my bf of almost 2 years said he doesn't mind my extra skin but also doesn't like how it makes me feel. he knows I work hard and supports me. I went from close to 346.4 to 171.6 right now
  • mickeyullrich
    mickeyullrich Posts: 156 Member
    no I would remove some of it myself and serve with fava beans and a nice Chianti.
    gw-ikw18MiTflbHF.gif \m/


    Best movie ever!!!!!
  • VincitQuiSeVincit
    VincitQuiSeVincit Posts: 285 Member
    The issue here is the physical attraction. I hate to say it, but I HAVE broken up with a guy who lost a TON of weight while we were dating because I was no longer attracted to him physically. Love is not necessarily always blind. We're not talking about 2 people who are married and have that next level love that theyve committed to through thick and thin. Being in a relationship is work, and yes, love should be unconditional, but I dont think it always is. I think sexual attraction is a HUGE factor, and if lose skin is a dealbreaker, then it's a deal breaker. It's really a gain for both people to get out of a relationship that can be shaken by that stuff becasue it just means its not TRUE love
  • angieochoa1201
    angieochoa1201 Posts: 105
    If he didn't mind the 300 pounds of fat why would a few pounds of skin bother him..

    Hahaha and who would have time to care if it bothered him. I'd kick his *kitten* to the curb :P
  • kellehbeans
    kellehbeans Posts: 838 Member
    I am with a GF because i love her, and everything about her, not based on looks alone

    Any guy who would is a jerk and superficial IMO
  • aliasbee
    aliasbee Posts: 27
    Extra skin isn't a big deal. Looks will influence sex drive, and that's a normal human side effect, but if my SO was already awesome, such a thing wouldn't be a huge deal.

    Besides, it would be a testament to haw fast they made a change in their life. You only get that extra skin from a dramatic weight change. The body will catch up and lose it over time.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    no I would remove some of it myself and serve with fava beans and a nice Chianti.
    gw-ikw18MiTflbHF.gif \m/

    Youre been reading alot of me... I'm cutting you off for a bit.

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