GUYS: would you end your relationship over extra skin ?

Funny you posted this...my bf and I were watching extreme weight loss last night and the woman had a ton of extra skin. I asked him if he would break up with me if I had extra skin like that and he said he would...

And your response?

Really curious. Never mind you may have a great personality and very well might be a fantastic person, but based solely on the fact that if you had some extra skin attached to your body, he would leave?

I might leave an SO for saying they'd leave ME for that, because I'd grow extremely self conscious about myself and always wonder if a little change might be the nail in the coffin that made them leave. I mean, if a little extra skin would do it, I can't imagine what other trivial little thing would.

since ive lost 100lbs and have extra, ugly deformed skin it would be hypocritical for me to say i would end a relationship over it.

No. If I loved her at 300 pounds why wouldn't I still love her at 175 loose skin or not?

She's the same woman so If he is repulsed by the lose skin then he should take a hard look in the mirror and decide why he was in the relationship in the first place.

I like you.

definitely its not the reason to end the relation.... and that flappy skin goes away with toning.... nothing is permanent in this world

"Toning" won't do it since excess skin tissue doesn't reduce it's volume. Surgery or acceptance are the options.

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the skins ability to snap back is largely determined by genetics and if you are younger rather than older. I've lost 150+ pounds and have minimal loose skin,

this is largely thanks to genetics....i'm almost 40.

not if she could do this

LMFAO

I had a partner who didn't like my foreskin, so I just had it removed for him. Whats the big deal, its only skin.

I wouldn't make her do it until she was completely at the end of her weight loss "journey". I want enough skin to tan and make a leather coat from it.

Buffalo Bill should have just found a nice big woman and made her go on a diet. He wouldn't have had to kill anyone and he'd stll get his lady suit!

No. That is very shallow.


I think somebody already said it but, If I loved you at 300 pounds....

When my OH and I first started dating, I was overweight but not obese. I gained a ton of weight through the years and he stuck around (see my profile for details). Now that I've lost it all and then some, he hates my extra skin. To the point that he mentions surgery to me every time he sees my flappy arms and saggy tummy. He makes comments about how unattractive it is and he pretty much wants nothing to do with me. And this is coming from a guy who himself has gained about 80 pounds in the last few years and is making no effort to do anything about it. There are some days when it tears me up inside to know how he feels about it. Then there are other days when I just say "screw it - his loss" and go out for a bike ride instead!

My BF on the other hand has no issue with it!! Kidding!! :drinker:

Why on earth would you stay with that? He sounds like a douche.

definitely its not the reason to end the relation.... and that flappy skin goes away with toning.... nothing is permanent in this world

"Toning" won't do it since excess skin tissue doesn't reduce it's volume. Surgery or acceptance are the options.

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the skins ability to snap back is largely determined by genetics and if you are younger rather than older. I've lost 150+ pounds and have minimal loose skin,

this is largely thanks to genetics....i'm almost 40.

I was just gonna say this (except the losing crapton of weight and looking hot part)

hi Alex_is_Hawks

I have some extra skin and have been insecure about it, and a few of my "friends" have had no problems about it.

Ok. For me personally, I think it's wrong to say you will break up with someone "because" of something that many perceive as superficial like loose skin. I get the badge of honor frame of though and the True Love is blind notion. However, while this notion of "true love" might keep him there and want to be with her. What about the happiness of the two. Some people are just grossed out by some things like loose skin. That will put a damper on the romantic side of the relationship. I am one person who has an aversion to loose skin. It looks icky and looks like it will feel icky. I will need to have it removed when I get to that point of my journey unless something miraculous happens or I have some weird elasticity super-gene (i'll take either gladly lol). My outlook is NO it should not be a reason you leave someone you truly love, but it is also an issue that will have to be dealt with. If she stays in the relationship and he isn't as romantically responsive to her. Then, what. He hides how he feels, but she becomes insecure any way because things aren't the same. I agree the ulimatum is too much. I applaud his honesty though. He may not be very emotionally deep, but at least he's being upfront. Everybody has their dealbreaker. We on this website just might be a little sensitive to this one because a lot of us have this issue. *Shrug* *Ducks daggers*

I lost a lot of weight....I have loose skin, I am ashamed of my current body. I am repulsed looking at it myself, let a lone expecting someone else to look at it, and think wow, you are really sexy!

I am not the same woman, I was at 252 lbs. I have a new attitude, new hopes, new dreams!

That's so sad you cant feel the joy in your body yet. Looking at your profile pics you are gorgeous your arms are absolutely amazing.

No. If I loved her at 300 pounds why wouldn't I still love her at 175 loose skin or not?

She's the same woman so If he is repulsed by the lose skin then he should take a hard look in the mirror and decide why he was in the relationship in the first place.

1) faith in humanity restored
2) excellent point

I love both of yall! I would hope that if I was in that situation my bf thought that. Excellent excellent point.