Respect on the boards
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When will people learn not to make these threads?
These threads are needed. There is an absolute deficiency of respect on these forums and it needs to be brought to the spotlight.
Not three times a week.0 -
once again people getting way too butt hurt over a comment from a stranger.0
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When you wrote your original post, which, I did respond to and thought hey, it's just a cake - I didn't know your stepson was 20. Nor did you say it was at 9 PM at night. You just said the other night. Could have been 5 PM, could have been midnight, it wasn't clear.
If I had known that, I would have said good for you for not making the cake, he's a grown *kitten* adult, he can make it himself if he wants. And at 9 PM, I'm half asleep and wouldn't want to bake a cake either.
Not enough info in the original post, then yes, you're going to get comments like that, and I did think he was just a child and thought geez, so the kid wants cake, I don't get it. But, I admit I'm sorry, I didn't know he was 20 and still asking his mom to bake a cake for him at 9 PM at night.0 -
see!!! she should have just made the damn cake... i knew it!!!0
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When will people learn not to make these threads?
These threads are needed. There is an absolute deficiency of respect on these forums and it needs to be brought to the spotlight.
Not three times a week.
What these threads lack in effectiveness...
...they make up for in frequency and volume.0 -
Just because you are hiding behind a computer screen doesn't give you the right to bully someone online. Yep if you do this you are a bully!
No.
No.
No.
Just because someone expresses an opinion that is different than the one you want does NOT make them a bully. What you perceive of my words may not be the intent of my words at all. Inflection is hard to make happen when you type text. I say things all the time that gets me in trouble - I got introuble for saying "Life sucks... you can either sit in your pile of suck and cry or move on... that choice is yours" to someone one day, I was told I was attacking the person. That was not and never has been an attack. It was a general statement. I have told my 8 year old niece the same thing MANY times.
Sometimes I think people read into it alot so they can cry BULLY... not EVERYONE on this site is a bully. I am not a bully, sometimes I come across as a little harsh, or kind of a jerk but really all I am doing is saying my opinion and what I think is the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts and it sucks and people don't like it but it doesn't mean I am a bully.
Also if you post on a public forum you are going to get A LOT of different opinions. Are all of them going to be like yours? Nope. Are some going to be ones you do not like? Yup.
I just wish the forums would stop being so wha wha cry baby all the time and be more like real life. If someone approaches you in a manner you don't like and verbally says something you don't like do you tell on them or do you confront them? I personally confront them and tell them I do not like it.
Be an adult, deal with your problems. If you do not like the main forums go to the groups, if you don't like that stay on your news feeds. Its really a simple choice. There is no reason to get all wha what I want respect. Personally I do not respect people who whine and cry about something someone said on the forum that made them feel bad.0 -
If you know that 95% of MFP people are respectful and eager to help, why do you dignify the rude 5% with a rant?
This is the Internet. There are trolls and ill-advised people everywhere you can land your eyes on. 5% is a pretty low number, based on my experience....
This.
For perspective, the breastfeeding mom had a ton of great advice, and one uninformed, ignorant guy who would have been better off ignored instead of engaged.0 -
I'm probably going to regret this, but what the hell...
OP, in your post yesterday, you initially posted that you refused to make a cake for your stepson because you couldn't deal with it being in the house. Of course, in subsequent posts, it came to light that he was 20, and you were already going to be making a cake for his brother for today, but in the INITIAL post, you came across as the kind of person who was making the rest of your family "suffer" due to your own lack of willpower.
We learned that was not the case, but when people do not have all the information, they will respond to the information they DO have. Most people who were snarky in your thread, were replying to other posters. It seems we are unable to have cake threads on this site without people completely losing their minds.
The breastfeeding thread was one dude trolling (Hi Batman!) and a couple of snarky replies, because, once again, people didn't have all the information. Once they understood the situation, the snark stopped.
Most of the "rudeness" on these boards are actually people joking around. Not everyone shares the same sense of humour, and sometimes people react badly to the alleged jokes.
I am not going to address the cases where people are called rude for merely disagreeing, because that horse has been beaten to a pulp.
There are instances where people are deliberately being unkind, but those cases, just like in real life, are rare. Most of the time, it is miscommunication.0 -
If you know that 95% of MFP people are respectful and eager to help, why do you dignify the rude 5% with a rant?
This is the Internet. There are trolls and ill-advised people everywhere you can land your eyes on. 5% is a pretty low number, based on my experience....
This.
For perspective, the breastfeeding mom had a ton of great advice, and one uninformed, ignorant guy who would have been better off ignored instead of engaged.
And that guy is in this thread, agreeing with the OP. Because he thinks people were being rude to him. HE IS TROLLZ. Teh internetz is awsum.0 -
I'm feeling a sense of deja vu. I feel like i already read this thread this morning...0
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If you know that 95% of MFP people are respectful and eager to help, why do you dignify the rude 5% with a rant?
This is the Internet. There are trolls and ill-advised people everywhere you can land your eyes on. 5% is a pretty low number, based on my experience....
This.
For perspective, the breastfeeding mom had a ton of great advice, and one uninformed, ignorant guy who would have been better off ignored instead of engaged.
And that guy is in this thread, agreeing with the OP. Because he thinks people were being rude to him. Teh internetz is awsum.
Yep.
The breast feeding thread can be summarized like this:
OP: I'm not losing weight, help!
Bunch of People: USEFUL ADVICE!
Batman: Why are you using nursing as excerise?
OP and Bunch of people: (explain how nursing burns calories)
Helpful people: USEFUL ADVICE!
Batman: NURSING DOESN"T BURN CALORIES!
Helpful People: we already explained this!
Batman: IT"S ALL ABOUT ME NOW!
Thread: derailed.0 -
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I got attacked yesterday for not making my stepson 20 year old a cake at 9 pm because I already knew I would eat it. I was proud of my husband for sticking up for me and so many people tried to make me feel selfish. I didn't figure I needed to explain humor or the fact that I stock my house with other goodies for him to eat.
You took the good step of planning ahead. You knew you would eat the cake, so you didn't make it (at least not at 9 pm). Good for you! The ingredients will still be there in the morning.0 -
The benefit to the online a-holes is you can simply ignore them. It is the real life ones that you can actually beat the crap out of winding you up in jail.0
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I'm probably going to regret this, but what the hell...
OP, in your post yesterday, you initially posted that you refused to make a cake for your stepson because you couldn't deal with it being in the house. Of course, in subsequent posts, it came to light that he was 20, and you were already going to be making a cake for his brother for today, but in the INITIAL post, you came across as the kind of person who was making the rest of your family "suffer" due to your own lack of willpower.
We learned that was not the case, but when people do not have all the information, they will respond to the information they DO have. Most people who were snarky in your thread, were replying to other posters. It seems we are unable to have cake threads on this site without people completely losing their minds.
The breastfeeding thread was one dude trolling (Hi Batman!) and a couple of snarky replies, because, once again, people didn't have all the information. Once they understood the situation, the snark stopped.
Most of the "rudeness" on these boards are actually people joking around. Not everyone shares the same sense of humour, and sometimes people react badly to the alleged jokes.
I am not going to address the cases where people are called rude for merely disagreeing, because that horse has been beaten to a pulp.
There are instances where people are deliberately being unkind, but those cases, just like in real life, are rare. Most of the time, it is miscommunication.
Oh you shush with your common sense. This kind of thinking isn't welcome on the internet.
Also. I agree with you 100%. Well said.0 -
If you know that 95% of MFP people are respectful and eager to help, why do you dignify the rude 5% with a rant?
This is the Internet. There are trolls and ill-advised people everywhere you can land your eyes on. 5% is a pretty low number, based on my experience....
This.
For perspective, the breastfeeding mom had a ton of great advice, and one uninformed, ignorant guy who would have been better off ignored instead of engaged.
And that guy is in this thread, agreeing with the OP. Because he thinks people were being rude to him. Teh internetz is awsum.
Yep.
The breast feeding thread can be summarized like this:
OP: I'm not losing weight, help!
Bunch of People: USEFUL ADVICE!
Batman: Why are you using nursing as excerise?
OP and Bunch of people: (explain how nursing burns calories)
Helpful people: USEFUL ADVICE!
Batman: NURSING DOESN"T BURN CALORIES!
Helpful People: we already explained this!
Batman: IT"S ALL ABOUT ME NOW!
Thread: derailed.
I love you. Will you marry me?0 -
I'm only mad because this is the 5 millionth "Whyyyyy aarrree peeeple soooo meannnn?!?!" thread in the last month. I'm not saying I don't think people should be civil in their replies, but good Lord, it's the internet. You put it out there, you'd better be prepared for all types of replies.0
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People stop for a minute and remember that there is another human being on the end of the computer that is getting the message that they are somehow less of a person.
Well said, but there in one sentence you just defined why this kind of behavior on the Internet will always be a problem; it's all bodiless communications, and as long as people don't have to be worried about getting murdered for being total *kitten* clowns, they will be as vicious as they can.
I think this is ...nail on the head. Anonymity breeds cowardice and stupidity.0 -
Just FYI after perusing that breastfeeding thread OP refers to the only rude guy in there was Batman who started off innocently enough not knowing that breastfeeding burns calories and wondering why they were being logged at the rate of 9 minutes for 300 cals.
ALL the busy nursing mom's got that, explained it but some got snarky which in turn got his rude up because yeah, he's batman he's not gonna go down without a batfight. So that's all that happened. The 5% was ONE uninformed guy in a batsuit. BFD.0 -
I sympathize with your point of view.
Incidentally, another golden rule is: 'Don't share things on the internet unless you're willing to accept that the internet harbours all kinds of opinions'.0 -
Well said.I'm probably going to regret this, but what the hell...
OP, in your post yesterday, you initially posted that you refused to make a cake for your stepson because you couldn't deal with it being in the house. Of course, in subsequent posts, it came to light that he was 20, and you were already going to be making a cake for his brother for today, but in the INITIAL post, you came across as the kind of person who was making the rest of your family "suffer" due to your own lack of willpower.
We learned that was not the case, but when people do not have all the information, they will respond to the information they DO have. Most people who were snarky in your thread, were replying to other posters. It seems we are unable to have cake threads on this site without people completely losing their minds.
The breastfeeding thread was one dude trolling (Hi Batman!) and a couple of snarky replies, because, once again, people didn't have all the information. Once they understood the situation, the snark stopped.
Most of the "rudeness" on these boards are actually people joking around. Not everyone shares the same sense of humour, and sometimes people react badly to the alleged jokes.
I am not going to address the cases where people are called rude for merely disagreeing, because that horse has been beaten to a pulp.
There are instances where people are deliberately being unkind, but those cases, just like in real life, are rare. Most of the time, it is miscommunication.0 -
some people are just born ignorant and they are here just to bug us....I totally agree with what you have said :drinker:0
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SO, it's funny when your husband tells his son he's going to die for wanting cake.
(I was pretty mad about that, I was picturing a young kid asking for cake, and willing to negotiate for said cake, whose dad then threatened him with a whoopin'. Your later posts cleared that up, and as I posted "changed everything".)
BUT, it's not funny for people to use sarcasm and humor on a website that involve a bunch of gifs, pop tarts, milk and cake. Instead those people are now bullies.
The difference?
There are people sitting on this side of the screen. Who are not people you know. Like I do not know your husband and his humor, and interpreted his "die" comment the way it was meant in my background. You are interpreting us...I'm not sure because I'm not you.
But communication on all sides can be taken with a grain of salt. We are all restricting our sodium intakes, unfortunately, which probably affects the whole situation as we don't have grains of salt to spare on internet understandings.0 -
I'm probably going to regret this, but what the hell...
OP, in your post yesterday, you initially posted that you refused to make a cake for your stepson because you couldn't deal with it being in the house. Of course, in subsequent posts, it came to light that he was 20, and you were already going to be making a cake for his brother for today, but in the INITIAL post, you came across as the kind of person who was making the rest of your family "suffer" due to your own lack of willpower.
We learned that was not the case, but when people do not have all the information, they will respond to the information they DO have. Most people who were snarky in your thread, were replying to other posters. It seems we are unable to have cake threads on this site without people completely losing their minds.
The breastfeeding thread was one dude trolling (Hi Batman!) and a couple of snarky replies, because, once again, people didn't have all the information. Once they understood the situation, the snark stopped.
Most of the "rudeness" on these boards are actually people joking around. Not everyone shares the same sense of humour, and sometimes people react badly to the alleged jokes.
I am not going to address the cases where people are called rude for merely disagreeing, because that horse has been beaten to a pulp.
There are instances where people are deliberately being unkind, but those cases, just like in real life, are rare. Most of the time, it is miscommunication.
Ayup! That's about it.0 -
If you know that 95% of MFP people are respectful and eager to help, why do you dignify the rude 5% with a rant?
This is the Internet. There are trolls and ill-advised people everywhere you can land your eyes on. 5% is a pretty low number, based on my experience....
This.
For perspective, the breastfeeding mom had a ton of great advice, and one uninformed, ignorant guy who would have been better off ignored instead of engaged.
And that guy is in this thread, agreeing with the OP. Because he thinks people were being rude to him. Teh internetz is awsum.
Yep.
The breast feeding thread can be summarized like this:
OP: I'm not losing weight, help!
Bunch of People: USEFUL ADVICE!
Batman: Why are you using nursing as excerise?
OP and Bunch of people: (explain how nursing burns calories)
Helpful people: USEFUL ADVICE!
Batman: NURSING DOESN"T BURN CALORIES!
Helpful People: we already explained this!
Batman: IT"S ALL ABOUT ME NOW!
Thread: derailed.
Yep. That's a good summary.0 -
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"Yep.
The breast feeding thread can be summarized like this:
OP: I'm not losing weight, help!
Bunch of People: USEFUL ADVICE!
Batman: Why are you using nursing as excerise?
OP and Bunch of people: (explain how nursing burns calories)
Helpful people: USEFUL ADVICE!
Batman: NURSING DOESN"T BURN CALORIES!
Helpful People: we already explained this!
Batman: IT"S ALL ABOUT ME NOW!
Thread: derailed."
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Now THAT is funny.0 -
ig·no·rant (gnr-nt)
adj.
1. Lacking education or knowledge.
2. Showing or arising from a lack of education or knowledge: an ignorant mistake.
3. Unaware or uninformed.
Use it right people...
stu·pid [stoo-pid, styoo‐] Show IPA adjective, stu·pid·er, stu·pid·est, noun
adjective
1.
lacking ordinary quickness and keenness of mind; dull.
2.
characterized by or proceeding from mental dullness; foolish; senseless: a stupid question.
3.
tediously dull, especially due to lack of meaning or sense; inane; pointless: a stupid party.
4.
annoying or irritating; troublesome: Turn off that stupid radio.
5.
in a state of stupor; stupefied: stupid from fatigue.0 -
There are people who live to rile up others, and you will see it more here on the internet than anywhere else, because of the anonymity aspect of posting.
Ignore them, they aren't worth your time or effort. Who cares what somebody else says if it isn't helpful?0 -
some people are just born ignorant and they are here just to bug us....I totally agree with what you have said :drinker:
Did you really just point out how people are rude and mean on the forums...
...by making a post in the forums calling them ignorant?
That is awesome...
...ly hypocritical.0
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