Online Dating!

I am currently seeing a guy I met on OKCupid.com. We have been dating about a month now. He's a really good guy, who works a lot so we haven't been able to spend a lot of time together.
I recommend just putting yourself on and keeping an eye on the hits you get anyway. Most of the guys who had messaged me were either looking to just score or just chat. Just be careful and use common sense about meeting people.

I watched a program last night showing how, in th UK, people are paid to use fake profiles to get desperate daters to pay to use sites. I hope the regulation is better in the US.

I watched a program last night showing how, in th UK, people are paid to use fake profiles to get desperate daters to pay to use sites. I hope the regulation is better in the US.

No regulations in the US, the internet is like a Mad Max world.

My friend said she only has met crazy *****es on Oasis...I've never used a dating site but people find love everywhere.

Good luck with finding a boyfriend

No luck with dating, jeeeez the guys must be crazy around your way. In the UK i tried PlentyOfFish.com, found a couple but yeah nothing came of it. There are weirdos everywhere you turn so watch out for them.

A quick rundown of online dating

If you have the vaj and are even remotely aesthetically pleasing (say 5 and up/10), you get inundated with tons of emails. You pic the attractive pictures, delete the rest. Then check profiles to weed out the ones you reply to.

If you have the d, you send an email to every profile that has a remotely aesthetically pleasing pic hoping to make the cut, and rarely get a reply because the odds just aren't in your favor. However, if you are aesthetic (say 7 and up/10), you will get quite a few messages from 0-3 or so/10 thinking they have a shot.

Basically, as a female you can generally date 2-3 notches above your level (aesthetically speaking), whereas a male generally has to drop a couple notches below his level to have consistent results.

Call me shallow, but that is the reality as confirmed by personal experience as well as several others, male and female included.

From reading a massive dating thread elsewhere, it seems to be about right.

So, where can I get one of these vajs of which you speak?

I met my husband on OkCupid.com in 2008 We moved in together a few months later because we lived in different states. We were married in September of 2010.


I had talked to at least 100 different people on OKCupid in the 2 years I had been on there and I was sick of it. I was planning to delete my profile the day I saw him under the "new to okcupid" category. And then I read his profile and it made me laugh. His picture was interesting (he was doing parkour). He's my best friend and messaging him was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

Hi there :flowerforyou:

I met my other half on a dating website. Yes there are "the unstable and creepy" as someone pointed out earlier, but there are also a great many nice and normal people. Sadly there is still a little bit of a stigma about people joining dating websites. I think some people still like to make fun of it, think you must be desperate or there is something 'wrong' with those who are on them.

As with people you meet through other ways in life (at work, going out, via hobbies...) there will be some you have stuff in common with and where you have an instant rapport, and then of course there will be those where that's not the case. Yes I was approached by some men who I thought had pretty questionable motives, people who clearly hadn't bothered to read my profile, where you instantly know from their first creepy message that you have nothing in common with them. But you also meet some nice normal guys and I went on some very pleasant dates. Eventually I met my current partner and we've just bought a house together. I got my dog to check him out on our second date and she loved him, and her instincts are usually superior to mine!! :laugh:

A couple of words of caution... A lot of people are on dating websites who are not technically available (read married with kids!!) and who are just looking for a bit on the side. Keep your radar out for those... Also, when I joined a dating website I had just turned 40. I was looking for a man of my own age and found that a good percentage wanted someone who's top age range was at least 10 years younger than themselves. There seemed to be heaps of guys out there who are in their mid 40s and don't consider dating anyone older than 29! I guess the OP is younger so it might not affect you, but to anyone else, don't let that get you down. There are still plenty of men out there who are not just looking for arm-candy half their age.

Good luck. :drinker:

You don;t need online dating when you are on here

Its like exercise makes people very sexually active lol

I don't think it's different than meeting anywhere else. I've had some pretty horrid experiences on POF.com but people tell me to keep trying sigh.

I call POF plenty of free food lol

I've got my first date through OKcupid on Saturday! I've never been on a 'date' before (it just wasn't a thing that happened here, only on american TV shows) so not sure how well it'll go!

It's difficult to find lesbians in my town as we don't have a gay scene. Online dating makes it a lot easier to find girls who are into girls!

I have tried a couple of dating websites and always seem to get hit on by guys that are a little bit below my level and a lot of creepers that just want a hook up!! I think I am fairly good lookind individual and have been single for 4 years because I can't find a decent man that knows how to talk to women, online or anywhere else for that matter. You will meet the right person when you are supposed too!! I keep trying to persuade myself of this!!

^^^This :sad: :sad:

I've had mixed results on Match. But it's a different experience for Men vs. Women.