Ideas for slipping my boyfriend more calories
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Just loved the Zoolander reference.
I see no problem with you wanting to cook for your bf
I love to cook. I'm sure he takes care of himself and contributes in many other ways.
I'd throw out some ideas, but I see a lot of great ones already said. Dressings always work too! Whether on sandwiches or greens, some of those babies rack up the cals fast! Along with adding nuts and such.
Thanks M andeenicoleb!0 -
I would like to say that I am stunned by all the snarky responses that people have given but I'm really not.
Seriously people, what's wrong with her wanting to cook for her BF and make sure he's eating so that he stops losing weight? Why does this mean that she's "mothering" him or jealous?
It cracks me up how people want to try and start drama or arguments when there's really no reason for it.0 -
My boyfriend is kinda similar, he loves to eat a lot but he still look fit as hell, he says he can cook, but since we been together, all he ever cooked was top ramen noodles and had difficulties trying to cook a chicken breast and I had to help him lol. All cute haha. But I would say make him spaghetti and meatballs! High in calories and delicious 0
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Never let him be the one 'on top' if you know what I mean.0
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I am really surprised how divisive this post ended up being :noway:
Anyway, I understand and basically agree with everyone suggesting bigger portions. Whatever diet it is you're following and cooking, give him more! I would still try to make sure they're health-ish things though. Like adding beer & ice cream might help him put on weight but it won't be very healthy if that's what you're going for too!
I gained a lot of weight putting the exact same amount of food on our plates, now I give myself a little less & him a little more. Might add more cheese to his food (he's a cheese addict & it's really the only dairy he eats). A sandwich? More peanut butter on his, heavier bread, a little more mayo, more of the protein, etc. He likes to snack on almonds so he'll take those to work. If there's snacks your boyfriend does express a higher interest in - buy em up! My husband will eat the whole container of hummus if it's in front of him... not the worst thing in the world for him lol How about smoothies or protein drinks? There's lots of stuff you can put in those! Flax seeds, yogurt, peanut butter, fruit, you name it... Maybe your boyfriend can make one with ice cream & peanut butter & you can have yours a lighter way (for instance).0 -
try and maybe text him during the day with reminders to have something to eat.
just cook more of what you are already eating and give him more of a portion. that's what i do, it's just my partner and i but i usually cook enough for 3 or 4 servings, and he eats the rest0 -
Larger Portions.
When I was with my ex, he could eat a whole bag of spaghetti by himself or a whole large pizza.
Try to be healthier than that though.
I understand your worry for your boyfriend as I went through the opposite worry with this guy. He ate too much and much of the wrong things.
If you're gonna put candy on his desk for calorie intake. Peanut or Almond M&Ms are the best because at least there's some nutrition in them.0 -
FRICKIN' DYIN'0 -
She's concerned about her other half, jeez people back off :noway:0
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I know what the women here are talking about, and I know what the guys here are talking about. I'm exactly like the next guy.
The reason it's so hard for guys to maintain weight in general is that we have much higher calorie needs than women in general, and with so many people buying/cooking/eating healtheir foods that are also more filling and less calorie dense, it can be the downfall of a man's body.
What I started doing recently, was to use MFP to track my calories to make sure I'm getting the right amount. That's really all there is to it. Track the calories, and lift weights. Eat 100-200 calories over maintenance + burned exercise calories, and then tweak from there to fine tune if needed.
It's actually not an extraordinary amount of calories. I need about 2700 on an inactive day, and around 3500 on a super-active day. Compared to the caloric needs of most women, it might seem like a lot, but again, it's really not that crazy. I usually eat about 2800 a day now. I'm usually about 10g under for fat by the end of the day eating this amount.0 -
I am perplexed by people like this. I used to nag my boyfriend all the time that he doesn't utilize his teenage boy metabolism and question when he claimed he forgot to eat. Like who forgets to eat? God. I wish I wasn't born such a foodie! :laugh:0
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Lulz. Makes it sound like you're slipping him roofies or something.0
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Feed him real food or teach him how to take care of himself. It is shameful that he needs someone else to.monitor his food for him.0
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mmm that sound delicious!Dark chocolate covered nuts (like macadamia nuts), avocados, saute everything you make in a healthy oil (olive or coconut), bread chicken with crushed macadamia nuts and drizzle with coconut oil then bake, toast with butter and sneak a layer of coconut oil underneath the butter (I do this with my kids).0 -
your a doosh.Just break up.0
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my boyfriend is pretty similer altho i wouldnt say hes to skinny he has huge *kitten* arms
but he lifts alot of heavy stuff.. although he usually does eat, he has just gotten a new job where he doesnt get much time and forgets. lately i have been cooking him separete dinner, you may not want to do that tho lol but i always make sure he gets a big dinner for example last night i cooked fish and fried him a big steak. 0 -
I am totally confused by this whole thing. Are you his girlfriend, or his mother? Is he losing weight to the point that he is sick? Hair falling out? Has a vitamin deficiency? Is his doctor concerned and has him on an eating schedule and high calorie shakes or a feeding tube at home?
Does he not eat to the point of being sick?
He gets tired, absent minded, indecisive, and sometimes crabby. When he is tired, absent minded, indecisive he is more likely to put off eating. When he becomes crabby that's just no fun for anyone. And in the past (before he was dating me) his doctor was concerned about his low weight.
Then he needs therapy, not someone shoving food into his mouth. You could give him an unhealthy feeling towards food, which he may already have. Stop trying to force feed him and get him some help.0 -
She's concerned about her other half, jeez people back off :noway:
She ASKED for opinions, and wants to shove candy & other junk down his throat. SOME of us are trying to help her find the right resources for well balanced healthy meals.. so try HELPING her instead of telling those who ARE to back off, M'kay? :grumble:0 -
I agree with a lot of people sounds like a mama to me BUT seems to work well in your relationship so why should it matter to any of us!
anywho.....I see a lot of "makeover" recipe web sites so how about you guys start cooking together. He can cook the regular recipe9cut in half) and you can cook the made over recipe(cut in half). Not only will both nutritional requirements be met but he just might learn how to cook.0 -
Oh and salads would work great. you can have limited ingredients he can have tons of high cal stuff added to his.0
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Focus on yourself. Your boyfriend just has one of those irritating metabolisms, eventually he will eat or pass away. Either way, problem solved.0
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My OH is exactly the same. He cycles to work too so he uses more cals. I make him his lunch, not because he expects me too, but because he is flipping useless and if I didnt he wouldnt eat anything... now to some people this might be a thats his tough luck but I'm a nice caring kinda person and I want to make sure he's ok and fed and watered. So I make him a different lunch to me, I'll take a salad with tuna but he will have sandwiches, oat biscuits with cottage cheese, oat cakes with PB was one of his favs until he decided he was getting podgy (which isnt even close to the truth)
I make sure he has bigger portions of dinner too...
Try giving him nuts and dried fruit to snack on instead of the candy.. they're high cal and good fats.0 -
My OH is exactly the same. He cycles to work too so he uses more cals. I make him his lunch, not because he expects me too, but because he is flipping useless and if I didnt he wouldnt eat anything... now to some people this might be a thats his tough luck but I'm a nice caring kinda person and I want to make sure he's ok and fed and watered. So I make him a different lunch to me, I'll take a salad with tuna but he will have sandwiches, oat biscuits with cottage cheese, oat cakes with PB was one of his favs until he decided he was getting podgy (which isnt even close to the truth)
I make sure he has bigger portions of dinner too...
Try giving him nuts and dried fruit to snack on instead of the candy.. they're high cal and good fats.
you have to "feed and water" him? is your boyfriend the animal in your profile picture? because he sounds like a pet you have to take care of from this. this is such a weird topic :laugh:0 -
My OH is exactly the same. He cycles to work too so he uses more cals. I make him his lunch, not because he expects me too, but because he is flipping useless and if I didnt he wouldnt eat anything... now to some people this might be a thats his tough luck but I'm a nice caring kinda person and I want to make sure he's ok and fed and watered. So I make him a different lunch to me, I'll take a salad with tuna but he will have sandwiches, oat biscuits with cottage cheese, oat cakes with PB was one of his favs until he decided he was getting podgy (which isnt even close to the truth)
I make sure he has bigger portions of dinner too...
Try giving him nuts and dried fruit to snack on instead of the candy.. they're high cal and good fats.
you have to "feed and water" him? is your boyfriend the animal in your profile picture? because he sounds like a pet you have to take care of from this. this is such a weird topic :laugh:
It's worse when she goes out of town. Then she has to get the neighbors to do it!0 -
I was going to suggest you let him BBQ a beef roast and a chicken, then freeze the extra meat....would make meal prep a little easier. We do this at our house, the meat is so delicious.i didnt read this whole thread so sorry if this was already asked, but why doesn't he just cook his own food? Or make his own snacks? Why do you have to be in charge of that? Not trying to be rude, it's just he sounds like he's making you cook everything like you're his mom
I'm a good cook. I enjoy cooking. I cook for my mom when I go to visit her. He is quite willing to cook but breakfast and lunch usually slip his mind and when he cooks dinner I get steak (no veggies or starch to go with it). I guess I could go on an all steak diet with him.....0 -
Three things you need to know about my boyfriend:
1) He is one of those people who can eat just about anything and not gain weight
2) He is also one of those people who forgets to eat
3) He is not a very good cook
We live together and I'm currently trying to loose weight. When I make low calorie dinners at home I loose weight but he looses weight too, and he doesn't have much weight to spare. So far I've tried giving him granola bars, nuts, and Naked Juice to take to work with him and I've gone so far as to put a candy dish on his desk at home to try and encourage calorie intake. I realize that's not a terribly healthy way to encourage him.
Does anyone else have any tips or tricks for helping my BF eat more calories without sharing high calorie dinners?
My boyfriend is the same way! He is probably 6'2" 150-160 lbs. He's a skinnie minnie.
I've been trying to fatten him up by cooking him meals, going out to breakfast every friday (our shared day off) and baking him treats like brownies, etc. I know he just forgets to eat most of the time or he will just eat one meal a day.0 -
My OH is exactly the same. He cycles to work too so he uses more cals. I make him his lunch, not because he expects me too, but because he is flipping useless and if I didnt he wouldnt eat anything... now to some people this might be a thats his tough luck but I'm a nice caring kinda person and I want to make sure he's ok and fed and watered. So I make him a different lunch to me, I'll take a salad with tuna but he will have sandwiches, oat biscuits with cottage cheese, oat cakes with PB was one of his favs until he decided he was getting podgy (which isnt even close to the truth)
I make sure he has bigger portions of dinner too...
Try giving him nuts and dried fruit to snack on instead of the candy.. they're high cal and good fats.
Your avatar looks just like my little angel Fang RIP.0 -
Feed him real food or teach him how to take care of himself. It is shameful that he needs someone else to.monitor his food for him.
Right. Just because it's food and seems like it's enough doesn't mean it actually has enough calories/protein/carbs/fats in it.
I believe counting calories for a while to get the feel is the only real way.0 -
She's concerned about her other half, jeez people back off :noway:
She ASKED for opinions, and wants to shove candy & other junk down his throat. SOME of us are trying to help her find the right resources for well balanced healthy meals.. so try HELPING her instead of telling those who ARE to back off, M'kay? :grumble:
I asked for food options for extra calories. I didn't ask anyone to psychoanalyze me or give me their "expert" opinion on my relationship. (Where do these people come from? Seriously?)
Thank you everyone who gave me food suggestions. I really appreciate it.0 -
She's concerned about her other half, jeez people back off :noway:
She ASKED for opinions, and wants to shove candy & other junk down his throat. SOME of us are trying to help her find the right resources for well balanced healthy meals.. so try HELPING her instead of telling those who ARE to back off, M'kay? :grumble:
I asked for food options for extra calories. I didn't ask anyone to psychoanalyze me or give me their "expert" opinion on my relationship. (Where do these people come from? Seriously?)
Thank you everyone who gave me food suggestions. I really appreciate it.
Specific food suggestions to add in can help, but you're just patching the holes. The best thing is for a person's diet to be sufficient in calories, proteins, carbs, and fats from the start. It may be good to re-evaluate the entire diet in this case. That means counting calories and macros for a while if possible. There really is no other way to know how much of what stuff one is eating. That's why people employ nutritionists. That's the big secret. Without counting to establish a baseline, it's just a shot in the dark. I know because I've been through the same thing your boyfriend is going through. So have a lot of other men. Kudos to you for realizing the reason he's losing is because he isn't getting enough calories. Some people just blame things like this on metabolism. And that's nothing more than a cop-out. It's not the metabolism's fault; it's that the person isn't eating enough calories/macro nutrients. Also micro nutrients too...but that's beyond the scope of this thread.0
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