Anyone else not telling???

jupdyke
jupdyke Posts: 325 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Okay, so I have started and stopped dieting so many times that I decided this time I am totally committed. I am doing this for myself. However, I have not told my husband (or anyone else) that I am logging cals., weighing in on here or anything. I want to see how long it takes him to notice I've lost weight. He knows I am doing P90X, but that's about it. I have lost 8 lbs. so far, but he hasn't asked or said anything yet. I am waiting to see how long it takes (or if he does). I was 135 lbs. when we met, so I am going to lose the 30 lbs. that I have put on since then. He is one of those lucky ones, in amazing shape and seems to eat whatever/whenever he wants.

Is anyone else keeping their diet/exercise a secret?
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  • Eli_Xx
    Eli_Xx Posts: 42 Member
    I need to. DH and I have both put on weight, but it's much more noticeable with my small frame. But everytime I try to start losing weight he makes me not want to by telling me I can't do it.
  • jupdyke
    jupdyke Posts: 325 Member
    I need to. DH and I have both put on weight, but it's much more noticeable with my small frame. But everytime I try to start losing weight he makes me not want to by telling me I can't do it.

    I'm sorry that he tells you that you can't do it! You definitely can do it and when you do, do it for YOU :) Best of luck to ya...you can add me if you want to!
  • zytah
    zytah Posts: 153
    I never kept it a secret but I didnt tell my husband right out either. After a month on this site, I told my husband Ive lost 5lbs. He was happy for me and mentioned he needed to lose a bit of weight too after noticing what I ate didnt change, just the portions and he was more than willing to try out mfp too. He likes it and now were both on the road to weight loss, supporting each other along the way. :)
  • Eirene80
    Eirene80 Posts: 36 Member
    I'm not telling either. Only because he tends to sabotage me with food rewards. He's so helpful. :laugh:

    I've lost 11 so far and the only thing he's noticed is that I've gone for a couple of long walks when he was home. I usually try to go while he's at work. 91 more lbs. to go! He's not the most observant person in the world, so I'm hoping to get to the halfway mark before he notices. :smile:
  • SilverLotusGirl
    SilverLotusGirl Posts: 537 Member
    It's not so much that I'm keeping it a secret but I didn't bother announcing it to anyone. It comes up in conversation if someone sees me logging calories or I'm honest about why I'm turning down cookies or the offer to go in on a pizza order or why I didn't make biscuits with breakfast but I'm not really going around proclaiming that I'm eating any different or anything like that. And when I first started I didn't tell anyone anything. I did tell my partner that I'd need the living room to exercise in and that some things might get moved around but that's not really anything new for me.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    I need to. DH and I have both put on weight, but it's much more noticeable with my small frame. But everytime I try to start losing weight he makes me not want to by telling me I can't do it.

    what is this "DH" I keep seeing all over stand for

    and no I keep it to myself, until I see someone eating something that horrifies me and I ask them if they know how many cals are in that food? when I tell them they gasp...and then proceed to ask me a million questions
    (ow ETA I work in a kitchen is why I ask ppl if they know about cals, I wouldn't do it to some rando)
  • SilverLotusGirl
    SilverLotusGirl Posts: 537 Member
    DH=Dear Husband
  • whitney_simpson
    whitney_simpson Posts: 77 Member
    I feel like your husband might not ever outright comment on your actual weight loss. In men's minds that is a recipe for disaster. He might not know if you will respond in a stereotypical way by thinking he thought you were fat before. I personally never kept this from my boyfriend, and he has been nothing but supportive and complimentary the entire time.
  • SilverLotusGirl
    SilverLotusGirl Posts: 537 Member
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  • SilverLotusGirl
    SilverLotusGirl Posts: 537 Member
    I need to. DH and I have both put on weight, but it's much more noticeable with my small frame. But everytime I try to start losing weight he makes me not want to by telling me I can't do it.

    Part of me is tempted to say you need a new husband...but it's not my place and not that easy. I will say to ignore the fool and keep doing what works for you. I hope he comes around to be a support for you. You can do this! Now, rock it out!
  • lgrix
    lgrix Posts: 160 Member
    I told my husband and he is supportive of my efforts. It helps me to be committed by having other people that I actually know know that I am trying to lose weight.
  • sabrafox
    sabrafox Posts: 70 Member
    I have practically shouted it from the rooftops. I love having help and encouragement from others and I need the accountability. Additionally, because I've started getting healthy, I have the added bonus that several of my friends are once again actively logging on MFP and working out. And fortunately I have a DH who is very supportive, even if he drives me just a little bit crazy sometimes ;)
  • zytah
    zytah Posts: 153
    I need to. DH and I have both put on weight, but it's much more noticeable with my small frame. But everytime I try to start losing weight he makes me not want to by telling me I can't do it.

    if my husband ever told me that hed be in the dog house. it would definitely light the fire under my butt to get it done tho. feels good to prove to yourself what you can do if you really want something.
  • callas444
    callas444 Posts: 261 Member
    My hubby knows because it's a big change in my habits. My sister knows because the other day she asked what time it was and I looked in my bra to tell her. I then had to explain the fitbit. Lol. But anyone who knows me at all would notice pretty quickly by my food choices. I am not hiding it but not announcing it either. Still waiting for someone to see a difference in my shape. It looks the same to me.
  • lstroth1
    lstroth1 Posts: 80 Member
    My family knew I got a fitbit flex and they know I have been on the treadmill more. I started on MFP just this week while they are away on vacation. (I am stuck working while they go play.) I don't know if I am going to say anything or not. I don't want to make a big deal of it. Although my husband and kids are always buying treats for the house and I have a huge sweet tooth. They don't really make any changes to their habits if I am dieting or not. It is up to me to resist the temptations.
  • DoreenCooper63
    DoreenCooper63 Posts: 3 Member
    I've just gotten started (again!) and have a LONG way to go so this time I've told my DH and my immediate co-workers but that's it. The co-workers are very supportive and keep me on the straight and narrow. I'm much less likely to stray if I know they're watching! If DH proposes something food-wise that isn't appropriate I say, "sorry, not in my food plan for today." And I make sure I reserve enough calories to enjoy a small dab of ice cream with him every night so he doesn't feel like he's being punished :wink:
  • jupdyke
    jupdyke Posts: 325 Member
    I feel like your husband might not ever outright comment on your actual weight loss. In men's minds that is a recipe for disaster. He might not know if you will respond in a stereotypical way by thinking he thought you were fat before. I personally never kept this from my boyfriend, and he has been nothing but supportive and complimentary the entire time.

    LOL...very good point...he may see it as a trap if he says something. I guess that I have noticed as I gained weight, the compliments have slowly dwindled and now he hardly every compliments me about my body. Don't get me wrong, he is an AMAZING husband...sometimes I just don't feel like I am physically who he married. He has never made any negative comments about my weight gain, but can't help but know he sees it too.
  • WhitneySheree88
    WhitneySheree88 Posts: 222 Member
    I'm not keeping it a secret but I don't talk to anyone about it like I used to mostly because I haven't been doing well the past month. My hectic schedule has gotten the better of me the past few weeks and now I am trying to get back on track.
  • Eirene80
    Eirene80 Posts: 36 Member
    My sister knows because the other day she asked what time it was and I looked in my bra to tell her. I then had to explain the fitbit. Lol.

    :laugh:

    "The magic boobies say it's 3:30!"
  • peopletalk
    peopletalk Posts: 519 Member
    i usually did keep it a secret and i still failed every time.
    this time i told everyone, and it did keep me motivated. till i told them "i lost 10lbs in 2 months" and they said "thats it?"


    we're drilled into us that weight loss takes little time from diet commercials and such. so thats when i stopped telling people again.
  • Purplebunnysarah
    Purplebunnysarah Posts: 3,252 Member
    My husband knows and is supportive, but I've turned off x-posting to Facebook and Twitter whenever I show a loss. I'm only posting my workouts.

    I live far from family, and to be honest I'm kind of looking forward to visiting next spring and amazing everyone ;).
  • zytah
    zytah Posts: 153
    i usually did keep it a secret and i still failed every time.
    this time i told everyone, and it did keep me motivated. till i told them "i lost 10lbs in 2 months" and they said "thats it?"


    we're drilled into us that weight loss takes little time from diet commercials and such. so thats when i stopped telling people again.

    10 lbs in 2 months is awesome! difference between those diets and what youre doing now? youre gonna keep that weight off while those diet nuts start gaining again having a peanut.
  • mebepiglet123
    mebepiglet123 Posts: 327 Member
    My partner knows, how can you hide weighing stuff out and that... Or does he must not care cause he so over the...another diet syndrome ......

    I hit my partner up about why he let me get so fat... He just said I thought you had it...you have done it before...and then he says oh well I was going to say something soon..rotfl.......

    MEN!!!!!!!!
  • VeggieKidMandy
    VeggieKidMandy Posts: 575 Member
    my husband really likes my bigger frame -_-" so while he sees i work out he buys pizza or m&ms and trys to tell me I need to eat . Sigh lol , so no i havent told him
  • peopletalk
    peopletalk Posts: 519 Member
    i usually did keep it a secret and i still failed every time.
    this time i told everyone, and it did keep me motivated. till i told them "i lost 10lbs in 2 months" and they said "thats it?"


    we're drilled into us that weight loss takes little time from diet commercials and such. so thats when i stopped telling people again.

    10 lbs in 2 months is awesome! difference between those diets and what youre doing now? youre gonna keep that weight off while those diet nuts start gaining again having a peanut.
    agreed. i knew how great i did. i didn't think of a reason as to why i needed my friends validation on me doing good. after 20 lbs, i showed up and they were like "you look great!" and that's all i needed from them! lol gimme compliments thx
  • twinsmom03
    twinsmom03 Posts: 90 Member
    My husband, mother-in-law, and a few close friends but that is it....I am not telling everyone else!
  • SilverLotusGirl
    SilverLotusGirl Posts: 537 Member
    I've found that I do better when I don't really tell people but let them figure it out from me not ordering chinese take away or I mention how Shaun T kicked my bum. But I'm glad I haven't told anyone really so that when I do eat a candy bar or something I don't have people in my face about how I'm "supposed to be on a diet" or offering me tempting foods just to be sabotaging or telling me how I can't do it and whatnot. I like being able to do my own thing without too much outside commenting.

    The only one who I ever really talk to about it is my partner and he's really great about it usually. We see fat and carbs differently but he's supportive and encouraging and is honest with me about my weight. He does sometimes say things that make me wanna bonk him on the head but I hear men tend to do that.
  • kellyskitties
    kellyskitties Posts: 475 Member
    I told hubster and BFF (told her when she had bbq last weekend to be sure I could eat without declaring a "treat" day since I had just had a buffet bust a couple nights before. Nobody at work knows - NOBODY. They've all been doing "plexus" and another sort of strongly opinionated one has lost 70 pounds (this year - no not plexus - but she did use it for a plateau breaker). I don't want to be compared. I don't want that moment when you reveal it and everyone immediately starts telling you what you "need to do" or how suzie B down the hall lost a sumo's wrestler's weight eating exotic African rabbit pellets processed with special herbs in a proprietary blend. Many of my coworkers are "healthy" living people - so me picking healthier isn't obvious - but say it and OH MAN, the advice will pour.
  • srgtbiggles
    srgtbiggles Posts: 170 Member
    I think that if we do not share our intentions with others, then we tend to give up more easily. Sharing our intentions gives us accountability.
  • kellyskitties
    kellyskitties Posts: 475 Member
    I've found that I do better when I don't really tell people but let them figure it out from me not ordering chinese take away or I mention how Shaun T kicked my bum. But I'm glad I haven't told anyone really so that when I do eat a candy bar or something I don't have people in my face about how I'm "supposed to be on a diet" or offering me tempting foods just to be sabotaging or telling me how I can't do it and whatnot. I like being able to do my own thing without too much outside commenting.

    The only one who I ever really talk to about it is my partner and he's really great about it usually. We see fat and carbs differently but he's supportive and encouraging and is honest with me about my weight. He does sometimes say things that make me wanna bonk him on the head but I hear men tend to do that.

    YES - I hate diet nazi's! The minute they know - they will critique everything you eat. Or give you the disappointed look - hate 'em. Yes, I'm chunky and yes I chose to eat the ice cream. Don't ask what I sacrificed earlier to have it. Go eat your value mega super meal and leave me be!

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