She's hotter than me?

He's probably still going to say that, no matter what size you are. Maybe you could comment on all the hot guys you are seeing ;-)

That said, don't lose weight just to look good for him, because you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Lose weight for yourself and your health, and don't expect him to change.

Sometimes people just say s**t to say s**t and don't think of how it affects others. Don't let it get to you. People often admire what they can never have.

Your weight loss should be for you. Not anyone else. Do what makes you happy. Be how you want to be.

I wish you nothing but success. You got this. Add me if you care to.

don't ever try to be anyone but who you are... Girls on Tv are so pumped full of plastic and makeup that they aren't technically human beings anymore. Im sure he is going to have his people that he likes as im sure you have a male actor or singer you probably like. Just know that beauty comes within and be yourself.

I can see how that would be hurtful, but I wonder if it's just a flippant comment on his part and he isn't really meaning to say it how it sounds.

We all make these exaggerated, absolute statements sometimes even when we know they aren't actually true. I'm sure to him you really are the most beautiful woman in the world, but he's reacting in the moment to some visual stimulation and not thinking about the words coming out of his mouth.

my first impression of your post is that I think your BF is immature. He needs to appreciate you and not spout off anything that comes to mind.

There will always be someone hotter, fitter, younger, prettier, smarter...that's life! Just sort out your weight and look the best version of yourself that you can, that's all you can control. 50lbs overweight is substantial and if this is all gained while you were with him he probably is feeling a bit shortchanged. I think that's natural. *Unless you've just had his baby*

You can control who you date though...I don't mind a man looking, everyone looks but there's no need to say it all the time is there? It's just a bit cheeky for my liking.

^^^ This. Even if you were the hottest girl in the world, some guy would disagree. You just have to be the best you possible and don't compete with other women. Anytime a woman competes with another she demeans herself.

well definitely not gonna break up thats for sure. We've been together for almost 5 years, and neither of us have done anything more than said hurtful things to eachother and I'm sure all couples do that. He's not meaning to hurt me I know that because he apologizes after I tell him it hurts me. I think west coast is right, that he's so comfortable with me that he doesn't notice that he's hurt me.

And another thing I forgot to mention, is that I find other girls very attractive myself and he knows this. So it also could be that since I find women sexually attractive just as men do, he may feel more comfortable saying that to me... I mean, it had never hurt my feelings until I got overweight... It could just be my low self estteeem

If you want to rationalize your BF being disrespectful to you, then why bother posting at all? What he is doing is disrespectful. Period. Either you don't care and allow it, or you speak up and tell him it bothers you/makes you insecure/hurts your feelings. If he doesn't stop.. that should be a sign to you.

She is telling you the truth. It is not okay for him to say those things to you.

There's no point in being rude. I post to rant. I post to get advice. I post to make friends. I don't post to be mean, or have people be mean to me.

I'm not trying to be mean to you. I'm trying to show you that you have defended your boyfriend against everything everyone has said here. What he is doing is not respectful of you or your relationship.

The sign of a strong relationship is being able to point out woman (or men in your case) that are hotter than that other. My wife and I do it. Our relationship is rock solid, so it can be done!

the only reason i felt that way is cuz he never did that when i was skinny and pretty much really hot lol XD

the only problem is, I see a lot of hot guys yes, but I never think anyone is hotter than him

and I'm definitely doing it for myself, but showing him up, showing him that i can is just a plus!

If you don't think anyone is hotter than him because you're so in love with him, pick out some conventionally hot guys and swoon over how gorgeous they are. E.g. Brad Pitt, Leonardo DiCaprio, Vin Diesel, whoever. Also, it's definitely immature of him to do that. See what his reaction is and then remind him that's how he makes you feel. He might need to actually feel it himself to really grasp the concept.

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The sign of a strong relationship is being able to point out woman (or men in your case) that are hotter than that other. My wife and I do it. Our relationship is rock solid, so it can be done!

Not every relationship is the same though. What works for you and your wife may not work for someone else. For me personally, I know an attractive female when I see one, even though I'm straight as an arrow, so my former fiancee and I used to do the same thing. He would say a girl was hot and many times I would agree. I didn't really tell him guys were hot out of respect for him and because honestly (I can relate with OP) I thought he was the hottest thing on the planet!! Sometimes I would feel a pang of jealousy but I was the one going home with him at the end of the day, not the actress or hot girl at the club. To each his own though. If it makes the other person feel uncomfortable then it most definitely needs to be addressed. If not it will only explode in some other area.