She's hotter than me?

well definitely not gonna break up thats for sure. We've been together for almost 5 years, and neither of us have done anything more than said hurtful things to eachother and I'm sure all couples do that. He's not meaning to hurt me I know that because he apologizes after I tell him it hurts me. I think west coast is right, that he's so comfortable with me that he doesn't notice that he's hurt me.

And another thing I forgot to mention, is that I find other girls very attractive myself and he knows this. So it also could be that since I find women sexually attractive just as men do, he may feel more comfortable saying that to me... I mean, it had never hurt my feelings until I got overweight... It could just be my low self estteeem

Sounds to me that he's hoping you'll go for a threesome.

He is being a jerk. If physycal appearance is how he "rates" a woman then he is in for much disappointment. Your young and there is better. Chances are he is holding you to the same standard. I have no patience for superficial folks.

The sign of a strong relationship is being able to point out woman (or men in your case) that are hotter than that other. My wife and I do it. Our relationship is rock solid, so it can be done!

I have no problem with my hubby pointing out sexy women, I know which famous women he finds attractive and he knows who I like. He would just never say they were hotter than me. I mean..... who can be hotter than the person you are madly in love with??

If its bothering you say something to him. After I was married for a few years I was going out with my wife to a semi formal event and on the way home she was upset. She isnt a complainer, but she was upset and said "you never said I looked nice, just so you know, you should always tell a woman who dresses up she looks nice". After a few kids, she was possibly not feeling the best about herself, I should do that, besides she was the same beautiful person I married. I am sort of tough, not an *kitten* kisser, but she was right. I became a complimenter (not a bser) and I am glad she told me that.

If part of it is feeling more vulnerable because of your recent weight gain, then continue to address that issue here like it looks like you are doing. :-) That will make you less effected by his comments.

I joke with my wife and she jokes back about celebrities, we have a running joke about 1 person we will allow each other to cheat with, which will never happen, but it makes us laugh. It most probably innocent on his part since he says it out loud to you

There will always be someone hotter, fitter, younger, prettier, smarter...that's life! Just sort out your weight and look the best version of yourself that you can, that's all you can control. 50lbs overweight is substantial and if this is all gained while you were with him he probably is feeling a bit shortchanged. I think that's natural. *Unless you've just had his baby*

You can control who you date though...I don't mind a man looking, everyone looks but there's no need to say it all the time is there? It's just a bit cheeky for my liking.

^^^ This. Even if you were the hottest girl in the world, some guy would disagree. You just have to be the best you possible and don't compete with other women. Anytime a woman competes with another she demeans herself.

Unless she competes by wrestling in mud or jello in which case she makes herself 1000x more awesome than she used to be

Yep you look pretty hot to me all the way over in London too!!

I'm adding you too. Just keep doing what your doing.

There will always be someone hotter, fitter, younger, prettier, smarter...that's life! Just sort out your weight and look the best version of yourself that you can, that's all you can control.

This.

Of course, losing the weight will make you feel better about yourself, and give you more self confidence, and that is great. But he is always going to think some celebrity is hot. This shouldn't have anything to do with how he feels about you.

I would never tell my wife that some chick on TV is hottest woman on Earth over her. No. Not. Ever!! BTW you are pretty hot looking yourself.

have you ever told him that these comments bother you?

^^THis. Added you too...

My boyfriend sends me pictures of models on facebook saying 'omg she's perfect!' but maybe he does this because i'm bisexual, idk? ... and i'm just like, yeah, she's pretty, or 'yeah i know' but it bothers me. Maybe you should let him know it bothers you?

And you're OK with that?? I think that's really disrespectful and classless.. I guess to each their own.

edit: ...unless he's trying to suggest a 3-way? I don't know.. lol

My boyfriend sends me pictures of models on facebook saying 'omg she's perfect!' ... and i'm just like, yeah, she's pretty, or 'yeah i know' but it bothers me. Maybe you should let him know it bothers you?

I will. I'll have an actual serious talk with him, maybe if i explain it to him hell understand

Wait! You mean instead of mentioning that this bothers you over the 5 years you've been together you've come here to rant to complete strangers?

No, my husband would never tell me that to my face, even though I know he gets hot under the collar when Fergie is on TV and I blush when Ryan Reynolds comes on.

But telling your significant other than someone is the hottest person on the world...and its not them....that's disrespectful and insensitive.

Look him over pretty closely. No woman ever deserves to feel bad about herself. Period.