Grrrrrr the jealous....ventage thread!

I hate the people that see it as just another fad....ok so yes in the past I have tried every sodding diet under the sun BUT this time I have changed the way I eat and factored in a lot of exericse...

Also the people who say ahh you're no fun anymore - you always used to be the big bubbly one?!!! What the...ok so I have always been the largest member of any friend group I have been in but I don't have to stay that way to be fun surely? xxx

I hate the people that see it as just another fad....ok so yes in the past I have tried every sodding diet under the sun BUT this time I have changed the way I eat and factored in a lot of exericse...

Also the people who say ahh you're no fun anymore - you always used to be the big bubbly one?!!! What the...ok so I have always been the largest member of any friend group I have been in but I don't have to stay that way to be fun surely? xxx

Why do people always associate bubbly with fat? Does that mean that the definition of 'bubbly' is 'Overweight, unhealthy and likely depressed'?

That really grinds my gears :grumble:

The oldest lady they said was like a Mum, the younger 2 hot...me....CUDDLY - I kid you not. I actually said to him, in future just say fat - it's far less hurtful than you think...

Wow, amazing that people just don't think first! Actually I don't even know why people have to comment on physical appearance so much - whatever happened to 'She's great at her job' or 'She's the one with talent for painting' etc.

The oldest lady they said was like a Mum, the younger 2 hot...me....CUDDLY - I kid you not. I actually said to him, in future just say fat - it's far less hurtful than you think...

Wow, amazing that people just don't think first! Actually I don't even know why people have to comment on physical appearance so much - whatever happened to 'She's great at her job' or 'She's the one with talent for painting' etc.

Because we're men, and we rely on the physical, not the emotional

one of the best ones I have had said to me " you'd be pretty if you were skinny" - the next "you have a pretty face" I just reply with "yeah. shame about the rest of me" haha.

Because we're men, and we rely on the physical, not the emotional

lol! Well far be it from me to generalise ;-)

This one really gets me - I have had mahoosive boobs since the age of about 14 - which only got bigger and bigger and bigger the more weight I put on - people seem to think it's perfectly acceptable to comment on them nearly every day of my life! Now me personally, I would never dream of going up to someone in the street and saying - right to their face "Jesus your nose is enormous" or "Blimey, you look like an *kitten* on legs", and yet people seem to think they can walk past me and say things like "bl**dy hell, you don't get many of them to the pound" or, my personal favourite "look at the t*ts on that"
Who the heck do you think you are exactly?
I haven't got to the point yet where people are telling me not to lose any more weight (I wish), but I have had the pretty face comment, and my sister told me the other day "don't go daft with it and end up looking like one of them people you see running!"
Just mind your own flippin business, and don't go projecting your own insecurities on to me I say.
As we say in the UK - "NAFF OFF!"

I'm with you on this one! I always get the, "You have such a pretty face" and then a meaningful pause.

Let me preface this by saying I'm married to wonderful man, so the opinion of other men shouldn't matter, however, it does. So does the opinion of my GP, the skinnies at work and mostly any person who I come in contact with. I'm working on that.

Anyway, feeling fairly good about myself since getting back to work after surgery, was out with 'the girls' on Friday night in our local pub. Three lads (in mid 50's but fairly suave and debonaire!) looking at me. I went up the bar, the usual, chat chat. Anyway, later in the night, one of the lads tells me that his mate (who had left by that time) told him to check me out, and the lad I was talking to (recounting the story) said, "I looked at you and said to R, you don't usually go in for big girls, but she does have a beautiful face."

Argghhhh, this I did not need!

Basically, I work with a very looks-conscious group of very attractive women/men. I know when they see my massive yo-yo weight loss/gains, they probably think unkind thoughts (think Kelly Osbourne here) and I try not to let them get to me. Sometimes, the top to bottom review I get every morning can be ignored. Sometimes, I feel like screaming, "Yes, do you not think I know I've gained weight??!!"

Anyway, this was for venting and I've done so. Thanks for the forum to do so.
Also, I have the big boobie thing too, but now, after kids, they're okay in bras but unencumbered, they're so so saggy.

Anyway, later in the night, one of the lads tells me that his mate (who had left by that time) told him to check me out, and the lad I was talking to (recounting the story) said, "I looked at you and said to R, you don't usually go in for big girls, but she does have a beautiful face."

o0o0o0o0o0o <-- that's the sound of my mind boggling!

I've morphed into the non fun friend that doesn't get invited because I gave up drinking alcohol. Everywhere I go, people try to feed me like I'm some lost puppy, garbage disposal character. Everytime I go to see my parents, they say I've lost weight even if I've clearly gained. (what the heck!) And all my work peeps seem to give the same look me up and down response when I'm eating something before they confrontationally state "why are you eating that? you don't need to lose weight!" I had no idea making health conscious decisions could be so offensive to everyone else in my life!

I hate the whole skinny minny thing and the "when are you going to stop" and "aren't you done losing weight yet?" Umm I probably will never stop because once I go into maintenance mode I still have to watch what I eat and exercise. I think people think that those lines are complimentary or something. It would be nice to just hear "you look really good" or "you look healthy" but I think people are afraid that will backfire or something.

I think it's pretty funny that people should think their advice is welcome, and needed, without checking with you, especially when they don't have the slightest claim to authority on health or fitness matters. I didn't have a lot of pounds to lose (about 15% of my total weight since I am short), but those 15 pounds = nearly 3 sizes and make the difference between feeling fit and energetic and self-conscious and tired. The tired part comes from eating too many sweets that make me gain weight. When I started trying to lose this spring it was mostly for health reasons, to reduce the weight that I tend to gain all around the middle and stop eating all the saturated fat, high sugar snacks, so it's a bonus to feel soooo much more comfortable in my skin.

Funny, every time I've visited my out-of-town family for the past 10 years, they say I've lost weight, yet I've been steadily gaining a couple of pounds every year. Next time I see them, I actually will have lost 10 pounds! 8 more should bring my fat levels down to a healthy level - then I just have to keep working on strength and flexibility. At that point, I'd happily gain back a few pounds as long as it's muscle.

Haha, I get called cuddly all the time, in fact my partner says that she likes me being cuddly!

She wants me to lose weight but 'Not too much' because she doesn't want to cuddle a bag of bones :laugh:

Aaaww! I call my husband comfy. Maybe I just shouldn't say anything about that or related to that. He's 250. I don't like layin on something hard. lol I need some cushion.

I have been lucky enough to just get one comment about my gut. And that was "are you pregnant AGAIN?" No, as you can see I have a newborn in the carseat. Grow a pair of SEEING eyes, you jackwagon! @#%*~

When I dropped down from 163-133 lbs everyone swore I was secretly taking something and kept asking for my secret(ANNOYING). This is like the 2nd time I lost weight like this though. So I already knew what I had to do and I did it. I worked out like a DOG and got myself down to a decent weight. I've been doing everything from p90x to Yoga and pilates. Pilates and Yoga is what got me down last time along with a well balanced diet and my schedule wasn't as hectic. And that was when I was close to 180lbs. That was a couple of years ago(3). So I guess slowly with my more hectic schedule and my bad eating habits I saw the scale creep back up,(Clothes not fitting,size changing from xs,small to Large) so I went for the gusto and rapidly lost the weight again. But this time seemed harder and I did it with pilates yoga kettle ball and finished off with p90x and am now starting insanity. I've been doing good but if 1more person tells me I look scary,please don't loose another lb or you'll disappear,or you'll look like a skeleton I'm going to scream. If one more person asks me for my secret and I tell them about my heavy workout schedule(which I dropped by 20minutes or so in the morning and I've also dropped by a day or 2),and then get the skeptical look and the "No really you can tell me. I won't tell a soul." conversation I'm going to scream.

I actually was 120lbs and after my 1st son 14yrs ago went down to 95lbs b/c of stress. After 2nd pregnancy my weight was like 125. O.k. and I was still btwn a size 4-6. When I met current hubby and had jumbo baby who took exactly after him in the genes department my petite frame went from 125-200lbs in pregnancy. My 3rd son was 9lbs-5oz just like his dad at birth. But here I was also like his mom with a small frame and this huge amount of weight on it. I kept at 180 for about a year and a 1/2 and then finally decided that my legs going numb when I sit to take a bath wasn't a GOOD thing. My body aching wasn't a good thing. So I decided to lose the weight. I studied nutrition on my own and exercised and got down in 3months to 130lbs and the lowest at that time was like128lbs. So I got a 2nd job and you eat to stay up at night and I like the sweets. So couple that with a setatary lifestyle and you get slowly but surely 163lbs of weight back on this frame along with achy knees that hurt so bad some days you don't want to move. Winded when you do certain things that are NORMAL. When I started seeing these things again I said "OH HELL NO!" And decided to do things about it.

I went from 163lbs to 133(I flux from 133-135 most days) in like 3months-3 1/2 months and got active again to do it along with watching what I eat and taking my vitamins. I actually want to rev my exercise routine back up again and I want to go down to 125lbs(or if I get close enough to it like say 128 I'd except it and be ok with it). That would leave me with 25% body fat which for my age group would fit me into the fitness catogory interms of body fat, (B.M.I and other things like that) . Instead of just exceptable. I already like the way my body looks and the many symptoms I described above have already disappeared. My circulation and knees are way better and don't hurt at all. It's not about vanity lbs either. It's about being the best and FIT me I could possibly be. Thanks to my exercise regime I have muscle in places now that I thought I would never have. I LOVE MY BODY and I think I look GREAT. So now I want to get everything in line and be the best,lean(Not skinny. And yes there is a difference) and fit me I can possibly be. I want the body of an athletic person. And as I transform it I AM LOVING it.

I know this is too long and sorry for BORING you. But for me this go round is about FITNESS. And it bothers me that people comment don't get that and that they comment ,and joke, and hate. But it doesn't bother me enough to stop what I'm doing. HAHA :~P. I have a fitness goal and I'm going to fufill it. It is realistic and it's not about looking like a skeleton(which I don't). I like fitness expert Jackie Warner. Her body is amazing,Jamie Easton is a fitness Professional with amazing FIT body. Jessica Paxton-putnam,Michelle Levesque. I DON'T want to LOOK EXACTLY LIKE THEM. THAT IS NOT WHAT I'M SAYING. But these are VERY FIT women and I would like to obtain a certain level of fitness and to me that what my weight loss is all about. I can lift 10 lb weights. I have to lift heavy laundry bag(s) at work(filled with patient's blankets,sheets and gowns. I'm in nursing) and before it was such a hassle and it would leave me winded and I wouldn't even bother to try I would just leave them in the dirty utility room on the floor. NOW: I'm lifting those bags like their my bottle of water. Now if I have to lift 1 or more of those bags I cannot only lift them all, but I can place them into the bin that has a certain capacity. Take that ARRRONALD. :~P