After 65 lb weight loss.. NOW being called fat?

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  • dazzer1975
    dazzer1975 Posts: 104 Member
    The beauty of what you are doing OP, is that you can lose the weight, the people who abuse you in the street will always be retards.
  • RAFValentina
    RAFValentina Posts: 1,231 Member
    OP... I personally hate this kind of bullying and fascism from idiots like them. There are some really unfit people at boot camp that I go to and in the gym but I never knock them. Why? Because I can see them there, working hard, getting a bead on, trying to change and make better choices and I wasn't always an angel, albeit I was never HUGE or very very unfit, I certainly wasn;t fit enough to pass the fitness test for work at one point and I had to work at it to get an excellent pass rate. So I know their pain and struggle and that it's gonna be loads harder for them, so I give them a friendly smile and nod in the gym, and lots of encouragement down at boot camp.

    I don't know why or how they got to the size they are or for the normal weight ones, how they are so unfit, all I care about is there attitude now and how they are working hard to change. That's what counts. Ignore the superficial trash that made you feel like that, get your butt back in the gym and do it for you... then when they fall out of routine and shape, you go kick their *kitten*!
  • lahsq
    lahsq Posts: 4
    You look fantastic. And at 65 down you probably feel really good too. Don't let anyone take that from you. I've been overweight for 20 years and I've seen the looks and felt the "less then" treatment, heard the comments. *kitten* them. 65 lbs. is a huge accomplishment. Don't let anyone take it away from you.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Get your butt back to the gym. Why are you going to let a bunch of catty girls make you stop your progress? You lost 65lbs and that means something. It takes strength to overcome problems and not let excuses prevent you from succeeding.

    Whether you were getting teased and put down behind your back or to you face at 300+ or your current weight...what do THEY matter? The only way their words matter is because you let them. The only way to fail is to do what you are doing and not facing them at the gym.

    Stop allowing your insecurities to win and keep you down.

    Oh, and maybe get in some strength training if you aren't already. I know lifting weights hasn't just helped my body composition...but has helped my attitude as well. Give it a shot if you want (or not..lol) but JUST GET BACK AT IT! :flowerforyou:
  • 20kb13
    20kb13 Posts: 161
    You look FANTASTIC from the weight loss. Ignore those people and do not allow them to slow you down or stop you from succeeding. I know for me personally when I lose weight I start to feel fatter than I did when I was bigger.. which is weird. But when I look back at the pictures of me then and now I can see a difference and I'm amazed that I never felt so big back then. Honestly those girls were probably jealous.. they may be thinner but probably not nearly as fit or healthy as you. For me I feel that I have more of a pregnant look now than I did when I was bigger... because unfortunately my boobs have gotten smaller and my belly is probably going to be the last area I lose it from. But guess what... back then I felt totally tight and bloated all of the time. Now my belly is much softer and I'm not bloated... I can sit more comfortably and am much more fit. Be proud of your accomplishments and show those people they are not going to stop you from succeeding.
  • Cinloykko
    Cinloykko Posts: 117 Member
    omg!!! these insensitive, judgmental jerks!!!!
    i make it a rule to never judge people. everyone has their own history and their own reasons... you never know what someone else is going through, hence, nobody should ever EVER judge like that!!! SHeeshhhhhhh....

    dont let these people bring you down. you back to the gym and get in their faces and work out until you feel better. your health is number one. what other's think shouldn't have this much affect.... you're losing weight for YOU.

    CONGRATS on the 65lb loss btw!!!!! keep going!!!

    Theory - sometimes people who see super overweight people dont even bother to comment because they assume something is wrong. but when they see slightly overweight people/chubbier people, they feel like they can comment because they assume that person is just being lazy or whatever. They dont know how far you've come.... they are just judgmental A-holes. you're in that middle stage between where you were at and where you want to be. Keep going until you get to where you want to be and people will definately shut up :-)

    Dont let these people get to you. ignore them. go back to the gym. and kick some *kitten* ;-)
  • 80sFanatic88
    80sFanatic88 Posts: 70 Member
    You look better at 265 than I did at 230. :O

    I've gotten those remarks all my life. It's like if you're in between skinny and obese, they get confused or something...?
  • Xalanii
    Xalanii Posts: 20 Member
    Who cares, you look better and are DOING SOMETHING to change it.

    It's more than most people can say about their lives in general.
  • You look amazing, and are an inspiration. Forget those girls. Add me if you like.
  • WendySPWarren
    WendySPWarren Posts: 63 Member
    Wow, what terrible people! This is absolutely unbelievable. Christ all mighty... I wish I knew who these people were so I could give them a piece of my mind and defend you as if you were an old friend of mine. Bloody hell, no one deserves that. Those people ought to be ashamed of themselves.

    On a happy note, HOLY HELL! You've made such an impressive journey, great job! You look like you could be the cover girl for one of those outrageously impressive success stories.
    You should be proud of yourself. Screw everyone else.
  • yeti2000
    yeti2000 Posts: 15
    Those girls are idiots! Why do you care what they think? You are doing a great thing for your self and that is all that matters. Keep your head up and keep pushing on. Screw what those dumb B____'s think. I personally would use this as motivation. I love it when someone tells me I can't do something or makes a judgment about me. That just makes me reach down deeper and show everyone I can do anything I set my mind to.
  • Msbarnes91
    Msbarnes91 Posts: 38 Member
    You look amazing!!! It will always be someone who will try to kill your spirit, but it is up to you how you let it affect you. Keep up the great work and move forward. The way people treat you is their karma, the way you react is yours.
  • alduvall
    alduvall Posts: 9 Member
    Yep, I'd lost 15 lbs once and was feeling good when a guy asked me if I was pregnant! It happens, we just have to move forward. You're doing great and sometimes you just have to celebrate your own success because others may not look at you and be able to see your journey. Keep up the great work!
  • Smiling_Sara
    Smiling_Sara Posts: 203 Member
    First of all.....you look freaking awesome!!! Don't let anyone tell you different.

    Second....anyone who makes fun of another person are miserable inside, and will do anything to try and make someone else feel as bad as they do. I truly believe this. There is no other answer.

    Please don't get discouraged. You are doing great.
  • clarkeje1
    clarkeje1 Posts: 1,641 Member
    First of all, I think you are doing great! Don't let their idiotic comments discourage you. Basically, people are stupid. I'm 155 and I get called fat and people ask when I'm expecting also. DUMB! lol And when I get to my goal weight of 125 people will probably call me anorexic and a stick, even though I'll be healthy and fit. People just say stupid things. You have been doing so good so far, try to not let their comments get to you.
  • snazzyjazzy21
    snazzyjazzy21 Posts: 1,298 Member
    There was an obese man at my gym who could smash anyone on the treadmill. Dude was a legend.

    Also those girls at vapid idiots, pay no mind. You're doing fantastically!
  • MyaPapaya75
    MyaPapaya75 Posts: 3,143 Member
    the world is a small place 2014 u will see them again....u decide will it be 60lb lighter with a grin..or will u be hiding from them.......seriously get your shoes on and walk back in that gym
  • pippabc
    pippabc Posts: 81 Member
    Congratulations on your amazing work so far. I am inspired by how far you have come, your photos show a huge difference.

    I think your post has touched a nerve for so many people, judging by the huge response you have had. I haven't read all 11+ pages of posts, but it is clear you have a lot of support from like minded people, so I really hope that reassures you that not all people judge others the way you have been judged.

    That said, there really is nothing you can do about other people's comments, we have no control over each other, just the way we react to things. So wishing you all the best as you jump back on the horse, it looks to me like you have the commitment and resources to get to your goal. And we are all here for you along the way (friend me if you want, although I guess you are flooded with friends now!)
  • Irene8509
    Irene8509 Posts: 381 Member
    You're not doing this for anyone else but yourself! This is your journey, and those comments are irrelevant. I have not seen it happen at my gym but a friend spoke to me about visiting a sister gym where some "college" girls there on a free pass had been making fun of paying patrons during a Zumba class. My friend and those individuals who are serious about their health were furious. They complained, you can too. You matter. Hold you head high and know you are there for all the right reasons!! By the way you look awesome:heart:
  • niftyafterfifty
    niftyafterfifty Posts: 338 Member
    Please don't give up your quest for better health! People can be unbelievable mean sometimes, but they are not worth giving a second thought to. I know that's easier said than done, but you deserve to reach your goals. Don't let them take that away from you.
  • eatandexercise1
    eatandexercise1 Posts: 67 Member
    Girl, your weight loss is awesome, and very noticeable. You are doing a great, great job. DO NOT LISTEN TO THOSE IDIOTS WHO'VE SAID RUDE THINGS TO YOU.
    Sometimes people say hurtful things to make themselves feel better, or to be spiteful, or because they're just plain stupid.

    If you let their words stop your journey, then you let them hurt you. You let them win.
  • Dottie27
    Dottie27 Posts: 159 Member
    Stephanie, you look awesome! Anyone who has been overweight has experienced some type of bullying or rude comments. But you don't have to be overweight to experience bullying. Taylor Swift wrote about being bullied in her song Why'd You Have To Be So Mean? Lots of people related to the song and it became a hit. Might be a good time to listen to it!

    Who knows why these people are mean or make rude comments? To try to understand them would require getting into their heads a little more and who the heck wants to spend time doing THAT?

    An important point is that these people have no idea of what you have accomplished and what you are in the process of accomplishing. It's like you are some kind of superwoman about to be unleashed!

    I say go to that gym, open up a can of kick butt, and show anyone who cares to watch, gawk or stare what determination looks like!

    I would showcase, with class, the stupidity of statements like you are too fat to sit in a certain chair. All you have to do is, without emotion, is ask what is the exact weight limitation of the chair, because, after all you are losing weight and someday would like to sit in the chair. And, maybe, in the meantime for the courtesy of others, the maximum weight limitation could be posted on the chair?

    And you may want to have a gentle discussion with your friend about her fat friend comments. Let her know her comments are hurtful and that's not how you see yourself. More importantly, what is she going to do when you DO lose your weight? Because someday, in the not so far away future, no one will be able to say you are the fat friend. How is SHE going to deal with it? Invite her to join you in losing weight so she won't feel like she is left behind when it happens.

    You have obviously hit on a nerve with many MFPs and nothing would make us happier than to see you keep going. Return to the gym and speak with a manager if you are, yes, being harassed in any way. Switch gyms, if possible, but keep going! Don't let the mean people win! And when you do return, give encouragement to people you may see struggling in the gym. You will become an inspiration to them.
  • cindyhoney2
    cindyhoney2 Posts: 603 Member
    Kick the little b*tches *kitten*! People are cruel and hopefully the karma bus will not only catch them but run them the *kitten* over!
    You are beautiful and you are doing a FANTASTIC job! Don't stop now!
  • I know due to the amount of comments in this thread that you've heard this already... But this should give you more incentive to keep going. Just remember that you're doing it for you, nobody else.
  • CrazyC
    CrazyC Posts: 284 Member
    Woooooow!! You're AMAZING!! DO NOT LET those insecure, ignorant, judgmental and immature PUNK BULLIES rain on your parade, Sweetie. They are SO not worth it!! However, that said, I can totally relate to the hurt and sting that people can cause by looking at the outside "wrapper.". Bottom line, YOU are BEAUTIFUL before and after. You are the SAME person but only in a different healthier t "wrapper." Please be proud of yourself.

    When my Dad was alive, he use to tell me, wear your earrings, honey (it means in one ear, out the other) while giving the opinionated @ssholes the universal sign language of the bird with BOTH middle fingers in the air in your MIND. Trust me, think about it and see if you don't snicker. You will. :laugh:

    He also said before the saying was popular, (he has unfortunately has been deceased for almost 10 year from colon cancer), " Opinions are like @*kitten*, everyone has one!! ". And, lastly, he said this one will get the opinionated @ssholes EVERY time, just giggle and say "take your own inventory" and walk away!! MOST will have NO freakin' clue what you meant. (It's a nice but curt way of basically saying go f$&ck yourself and look in your own damn mirror.

    Feel free to also add me as I've been around the block for a few laps at my YOUNG at :heart: 41 years... :wink:

    Crazy C/Carmon
  • ShadeyC
    ShadeyC Posts: 315 Member
    WOW.
    Go back to that same gym.
    Tell those skanky ugly bully twigs you are building strong a body that will be revealed shortly, and you don't want to be a twig with limbs that will snap.
    THEN SNAP ALL OF HER LIMBS.
    Then use all the experience running on the treadmill to sprint out of there before the cops turn up :)
    OR.
    Hire a ninja to deal with them.
    PS. I am a ninja ;)
  • Hey everyone! I'm Stephanie. I'm 26, and just recently got back on MFP. I was doing a great job.. really kicking *kitten* at losing weight. I lost 65 lbs in about 6 months, and was not slowing down. I love exercising, I love eating well.. just love the way it makes me feel!
    So whats the problem you might ask? Well, shortly after I reached my 65 lb mark of my weight loss, I was at the gym running on the treadmill... was at about a mile and a half, when I looked over and seen a couple of girls looking at me and laughing. I tried to push it out of my mind, telling myself that they weren't laughing at me.. it was just my insecurities getting the best of me. Well, when I was done, I went to the trash to throw away something and they came up to me. the one girl said 'hey.. no offense, but we were wondering how you do it?' I asked do what? and the other girl (while the first one started to laugh) said 'well, you're really, really big... dont you wanna pass out or something?'
    I was devastated. I just turned around and walked out.. I never did go back.
    Since then (about 7 months ago), I have very slowly gained 10 lbs back. I have also had 2 people ask me when I was expecting, a child ask me why I was so fat, another child tell me nobody wants to see my fat body in a bathing suit (which is why i do not own one), and someone at work tell me not to sit in a chair in case it broke. My best friend also is big, and she always says shes happy she has a fat friend because all her other ones are skinny, pretty and perfect.
    I dont understand... I NEVER got anything said about my weight when I was 330+ lbs, now that I'm 275 I'm hearing it all the time. I know it should motivate me to keep going, but its like ok.. ive come so far, now what? NOW I get called fat? Its killing me.

    has anyone else experienced anything like this before? I dont know what to do... I feel like its pointless to continue.


    You are getting fit and healthy - working that treadmill ! They probably get winded running up and down the aisles of the shopping mall being all into themselves and starting drama. I believe that one day (perhaps years later) these people will regret saying things after they get a few more life lessons under their belt.

    Look at your face in your photos - do you see the happiness in the photo after you lost some weight? No need to say more - just keep on going for you! Good luck.
  • Whiskybelly
    Whiskybelly Posts: 197 Member
    There's only one thing that you should be focusing on, and that's the amazing progress you've made so far. Those two girls at the treadmill have no idea what you've achieved, and chances are they were feeling insecure about the fact that you were working it on the treadmill when, if they were in your position, they couldn't see themselves having the drive to do what you were doing.
  • sinistras
    sinistras Posts: 244 Member
    I look at your "before" and "now" pictures and am in AWE.

    KEEP IT UP!

    Also, nice reminder from the great book "Skinny B!tch" that there is nothing uglier than a skinny woman who is mean. That's exactly what those gym rats were.
  • GeminiDelight
    GeminiDelight Posts: 45 Member
    i think that you look great. you have a big confident grin on your face. nothing makes insecure people feel like being mean more than someone who is confident about themselves. they are trying to make themselves feel better by making you feel bad. you have nothing to feel bad about.