After 65 lb weight loss.. NOW being called fat?
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don't give up. You let them win by proving them right. Prove them wrong and get back on the treadmill and back down to an achievable goal. 250, 225, 200. Set it and do it.Hey everyone! I'm Stephanie. I'm 26, and just recently got back on MFP. I was doing a great job.. really kicking *kitten* at losing weight. I lost 65 lbs in about 6 months, and was not slowing down. I love exercising, I love eating well.. just love the way it makes me feel!
So whats the problem you might ask? Well, shortly after I reached my 65 lb mark of my weight loss, I was at the gym running on the treadmill... was at about a mile and a half, when I looked over and seen a couple of girls looking at me and laughing. I tried to push it out of my mind, telling myself that they weren't laughing at me.. it was just my insecurities getting the best of me. Well, when I was done, I went to the trash to throw away something and they came up to me. the one girl said 'hey.. no offense, but we were wondering how you do it?' I asked do what? and the other girl (while the first one started to laugh) said 'well, you're really, really big... dont you wanna pass out or something?'
I was devastated. I just turned around and walked out.. I never did go back.
Since then (about 7 months ago), I have very slowly gained 10 lbs back. I have also had 2 people ask me when I was expecting, a child ask me why I was so fat, another child tell me nobody wants to see my fat body in a bathing suit (which is why i do not own one), and someone at work tell me not to sit in a chair in case it broke. My best friend also is big, and she always says shes happy she has a fat friend because all her other ones are skinny, pretty and perfect.
I dont understand... I NEVER got anything said about my weight when I was 330+ lbs, now that I'm 275 I'm hearing it all the time. I know it should motivate me to keep going, but its like ok.. ive come so far, now what? NOW I get called fat? Its killing me.
has anyone else experienced anything like this before? I dont know what to do... I feel like its pointless to continue.
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Don't listen to what others have to say about you. I know that it is hard, but as long as you're losing weight for for yourself then those people shouldn't be much of a problem. You have done very well so far so I think that you should keep it up and feel proud of yourself no matter what anyone else says
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In an effort to feel better about themselves, some cretin will ALWAYS call you fat, stupid, ugly, etc. It's part of life. They are the person with the problem, not you. Go back to the gym, wear the bathing suit, be who you want to be. Learn to ignore the naysayers, and realize that for every rude person that says something there are an equal amount of immature little schmucks saying the same stuff behind your back, but it is still their problem. You're changing you for the better and they will probably maintain their stupidity, ignorance and crassness for life. Smile and hold your head up!0
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You are BEAUTIFUL! F_____ anyone who insults you. They are a bunch of insecure idiots. You are to be admired and your hard work and perseverance are an inspiration to those of us who read your story. You have a lot of intelligence and sensitivity, something those who insult others will NEVER have. Thank you for sharing what's going on in your life with us,0
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You cannot let a few negative people pull you down. You are doing great- your pictures prove it. Don't let a few negative comments stop your progress! Do this for you and your health!0
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Firstly you look great and are doing AWESOME!!
You asked why and here is why I think you are getting comments NOW (my opinion only):
At 330lbs you felt pretty bad about yourself and that would show in your attitude and demeanor (you just can't hide such strong feelings) I know they were strong as they motivated you to do change! Though you should love yourself regardless of where you are in life, it usually is harder when you feel unhealthy.
Now having achieved such brilliant results you are happy and that too shows in how you carry yourself, and therein lies the problem, at 330lbs there was no point kicking someone who was already down. But NOW you are still overweight but you have self-worth and pride which you should have had all along but the mean / petty people see this and don't like it as they don't have it. They feel jealous and you are an easy target as you are not at goal yet so they lash out at you. Try and bring you on their own sad insecure plane.
If you let it get to you, they win, and they are miserable so why should they win they don't deserve it. You deserve to look great and enjoy being fit so keep it up!!!0 -
I am so sorry that this has happened to you and it makes my heart hurt just thinking about how vicious people can be.. I myself have been subject to alot of harsh criticism and comments, not because of my weight but because I am kinda freaky tall. BUT, now you need to use that as fuel. You have done an amazing job so far and you owe it to yourself to keep going. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin and love yourselft but only YOU can make that happen. You stumbled and fell....now pick yourself back up, get back in there and kick some *kitten*!!! You should be so proud of how far you have come already. :flowerforyou:0
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Why are they noticing your weight now? I don't know...cause you're gorgeous< maybe?I think you are beautiful in both pictures but you are especially beautiful in the second! I know it hurts to have people make comments to you and about you...It's been done to me too. Please don't let it get in the way of your goals. People are so nasty it disgusts me but we can't do anything about it. You reacted so well by walking away, I can't say I would have done the same but that makes you a better person than I. Go back, take your life back. You have more courage, strength, and beauty than any of those trashy little b*tches. Good luck to you in everything you do.0
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Sounds like you let a couple of @ssholes get to you. Unfortunate really, as you said, you were doing great. Why was one comment able to derail all the hard work you had done? I would spend some time in introspection if not counseling to examine why. (And no, I am NOT being snarky, I am completely serious.) This is not on them honey, it's on you.
I definitely understand what you are saying... but it wasnt just that. that was just the start of it. I broke up with my boyfriend of 11 years in that time also, so that was hard on me, had to move back into my parents with my almost 2 year old who is having a rough time adjusting, i found out my father has two types of cancer, plus he had a minor heart attack... its just on and on. that comment just started it all. I got back into being comfortable being miserable. I'm getting back into good thinking though. Just took some time to get back there.
:flowerforyou: Good for you on getting back into more positive thoughts. Sounds like you were having a real *kitten* time all around. It is not easy to retrain ourselves to think and eat and do differently than we have been, but it is so vitally important to our long term health to do so. It took years to get into poor habits, so it takes time to get back into good ones. And equally if not more important to really consider our missteps so we can learn and grow from them. Soon enough you will learn to be comfortable being HAPPY, and you will learn to shine.
S/N: I think I woulda knocked them b!tches out. I may be fat but I can diet. What's your excuse? :laugh:0 -
First off.. You inspire me.
2nd... Please comment back to anyone that tries to bring you down “you're an idiot", turn and say “I feel sorry for you” with a sigh of sympathy and walk away! Smile your beautiful girl!0 -
Stephanie,
They are jealous that you are doing it the smart way, without fad diets , or pills! Hold your head up high ! You look amazing ! I'm so sorry about the remarks , but try to push it aside and think of the positives that your journey has given you! Everyone here on MFP loves you and will encourage you every step of the way ! DON' T give up ! You can message any of us I'm sure if you need to talk !
Hang in there kiddo .0 -
You are so cute. You look really good. People are just stupid. One thing I've noticed is people are nicer since I lost weight. I know its ridiculous but its true. When I go out tp eat I am rarely charged for extras and a lot of the time I share with my hisband and they don't charge. Olive garden. I eat salad a bread stick and a couple bites of my husbands. They usually just chatge me for my drink. Awesome right. Well now I order even if I take it home because my husband doesn't want them to think we can't afford it. Before they would charge me for every morsel of food. I eat way more than I use to. And weird guys are nice to me and give me way too much unwanted attention. I just ignore it. You can get mean people no matter how you look. I prefer to be sweet inside so I reflect sweetness on the outside.0
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You have done amazingly well and look fantastic. Hold your head up high and take a good look at your progress. It's worth it because you have more energy, have reduced your risk of chronic illnesses and you look brilliant too. Perhaps you're getting comments now that you didn't get before because you look more confident and people think you can 'take it'. Whatever reason, the people that make comments are not worth your self destruction. You have so much to gain by keeping going and what will it prove if you give up? Believe in yourself (you've got every good reason to) and be proud of how far you've come.0
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Seriously? Because you look great!0
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First of all, you look FABULOUS! Don't let some silly idiot girls keep you from using a gym. And don't let ANYONE else make you feel bad. Easier said than done-I've been there many times and it hurts. Haters gonna hate. There is nothing you can do to take away the mean comments, and it stings to hear them, but please realize that such petty, ignorant, hurtful behavior is so much more a reflection on THEM, not you. Also, I bet you those girls couldn't do what you were doing.
Don't give up. Keep kicking butt and hold your head up high! 0 -
Don't let those kind of people ruin your determination. They were probably jealous you could workout harder than them. Congrats on the weight loss and keep going. There are People that try to break us and you need to break through them and find yourself. You can do it just take it one day at a time 0
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Bless your soul for having so much patience with those two rats! I would've given them a well deserved punch in the faces. Congrats on the weight loss you look AMAZING!!!! 0
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Tell them that what goes around comes around. Or ask how high their IQ is.
Funny I was thinking their future is "you want fries with that?" lol You should have told them next time I challenge you and lets see if you can run it without passing out...skinny doesn't mean they are in shape or have good cardio lungs...
Don't let mean people get you down girl..you look great. As for that kid who said that to you..girl I would have found his mother and gave her a what for..she is raising a bully already...but then again if he was nasty like that I am guessing she was also because he had to learn it from somewhere...
Go back to working out ..don't let anyone stop you...
I went from 189 to 144 sent my mom a before and after pic she said to me nice but you still have more to lose..MY OWN MOTHER...basically I said to myself F her she is just a miserable old lady who likes to bring everyone down to her level..I didn't let it stop me...
GO WORKOUT>..you'll thank yourself..
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In my opinion you look great, honestly just ignore them. Get back in the game and use their stupidity to fuel your workouts, when you feel like giving up, just think of slamming your results in their ignorant faces. Please don't let others have an impact on you to the point you give up, your letting them win.0
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So you are letting those stupid girls scare you away from the gym? Prove them all wrong!!!0
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You've made amazing progress and you're going to let a few small-minded idiots keep you from doing even better?
Looking at the bright side, you've only gained back 10 lb. Compared to what you've lost, that's in the weeds. Get back with the program, back to the gym, and if people make remarks, strut your stuff with a little humor: "If you think I'm fat now, you shoulda seen me last year. I was as big as a HOUSE!" Being so open about it will probably put the haters off a bit, and for the genuinely curious (how can you do that?), it should inspire some admiration of them for you. You're doing something harder than they can even imagine. Know that, and take comfort in the fact that you've already accomplished a lot, and the best is yet to come.0 -
People are jerks. Im about 100 lbs lighter than u a size 10 ( I know Im not super skinny) I got jerks calling me fat it happens ignore it dont let them get u down and get in the way of ur goals.0
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Your pictures show such a wonderful change. Please do not let some ignorant comments derail you from achieving your goal. Young kids do not know better. Hopefully they will learn. If the girls are still at the gym, the next time I go I would probably approach them in a calm manner and tell the person that talked to you that her question was mean and hurt you, just in case she did not realize that. You hope, eventhough you are currently heavier than she is, that you are at least nicer to others, and when you reach your goal you hope to be even nicer to people. You hope then that she would have learned to be more sensitive and be nicer too. Smile and then just go on wih the workout....0
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Wow Stephanie. I am so sorry that you had to deal with these douche-bags. People can truly suck. I give you so much credit for walking away w/o punching them in the nose first. That is certainly what I would have wanted to do. I am so jealous of your before and after pictures. You are doing an amazing job. You have lost so much and you are able to run. I have so much to lose and I can barely walk up the stairs w/o being winded. Keep doing what you are doing, flash them a bird or 2 and know that you have true friends here who support you and want to be like you. Sometimes the best friends are ones you have never met. Take care and smile. 0
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It's really hard to read what you've had to deal with when I can't at least hug you or yell at some people, lol! In my opinion, you're never going to satisfy everyone... I've been underweight, healthy, overweight, and obese and for every person that thought I looked good, there was someone who disagreed. Now I don't worry about what anyone else thinks of my body and I work towards MY ideal body and what I feel most comfortable doing. It's made a world of difference. *hugs*0
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Stephanie, you're amazing! I commend you on your progress and how well you carry yourself. People will always try to degrade others to make themselves better, and those are the people who we should truly pity. They have their own issues and rather than facing them they would like to shift the focus to other people. I went from 5"4' 220lbs to 164 lbs so I have been there. Don't let them bring you down! You are beautiful!0
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Wow! It sounds like you're surrounded by crappy people! It's easy to say IGNORE THEM! But it's hard to do. I would suggest finding more positive people to surround you. You don't need that negativity in your life what you're making such wonderful progress!0
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holy crap girl, youve done fantastic!!! screw them all, they have no idea... they were probably born skinny, and never had to worry about weight a day in their life,, well karms is a *****, they will get theirs!! YOu on the other hand keep it up youve done SO GREAT!!!!0
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These girls were actually paying you a compliment in a really bad, ignorant, and politically incorrect way. I mean they were amazed at what you are doing because you don't see a lot of larger women putting their all into it. When I started my journey almost 60lbs ago I was the largest person in the gym most of the time when I went. I was very very self-conscious but knew I had to get over that to get over being obese. On the rare occasion I saw another larger person come into the gym it would generally be someone in a brand new workout outfit who would get on the treadmill/elliptical and go very slow for 15 minutes and then leave. Amazing that I never saw them there more then two or three times huh? So the question posed to you was actually a compliment to the fact that you give it your all and weren't giving up.
Don't let a few social morons discourage you. What worked best for me is finding a time that the gym is relatively empty. I found that after work the gym is full of ignorant gym bunnies but if I go during my lunch break there are only a few people there and they are all trying to get in and get out so they aren't hanging around socializing or paying attention to me.0 -
That is horrible, some people only feel better by making other feel awful. You look great, honestly you look lighter than you are. Don't let others take a way the amazing progress you have made.0
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