"Don't lose any more weight!"

My mum recently said this to me. I replied that my weight was about 72kg, since I'm 5ft 2 that still made me about 8kg (18lbs) over the top end of a healthy BMI. Her response was oh well BMI is just a guide really you look fine now! I didn't really respond, what do you say to a comment like that, even after knowing exactly where I was at...

I was kind of miffed because it is a bit discouraging to hear when you need to keep the motivation going. But I really don't think she meant it in a mean way, more just trying to compliment all the work I had put in plus a bit of maternal concern. I think like others have responded it is just a bit of a shock for her to see how much I have changed. This last year I have lost almost 20kg (45lb) and gone from a total couch potato to a fitness nut! Whenever we speak on the phone my parents both are always checking how my running is going. Last time my mum said I must be super fit now with all the exercise. (I wish that were true, still a long way to go).

Last couple of weeks I've also started getting random comments at work. The latest was wow you have lost a ton of weight. My first thought was, what you only noticed now when I have been loosing steadily for 7 months! I actually blurted out - yeah since January I have!

I need to try to take these comments better. I guess it's always awkward trying to compliment someone who is getting to a healthy weight without either implying 1) you lost a load of weight, so you were pretty fat before or 2) you look great, so you must stop loosing weight now. Perhaps we need to issue some guidance on the best things to say if you want to compliment someone on their progress!

People can be so insensitive. Some think it is a complement when they say stuuf like "dont lose any more weight." It is a twisted complement i guess. I think its annoying though.

Well... Now I know I'm not alone in this!!!

I usually want to partially pull up my top and show them my big belly when they say something to me, but I just smile and say thank you, but I have a bit more to go. I mean, for real, I'm still considered overweight!!! UGH!!!

yep, i get that all the time! AND IM STILL 50 LBS OVERWEIGHT! i get very angry when anyone comments on my weight without me asking for an opinion or help, its incredibly rude and im pretty sure they'd be really offended if i started making comments about their weight. its really unnecessary, MY body and MY life i'll do what i please with it.

I get it pretty bad from my friends, probably because they don't really know how to respond to a major weight loss. People say that I look like a holocaust victim or that I have a disease, I just smile because I take it as a compliment. The average person in America is overweight, so if you are in the normal range of BMI you probably look very skinny comparatively, like I do.

It happened to me a few days ago. Almost had a fight because people kept insisting I'm way too skinny lately because I'm not eating anymore. The only way to prove I didn't lost any weight for months was to use the scale in front of them so they can see it's the same weight.
Frustrating...

This keeps happening to me. I've had family, friends and colleagues all say it on seperate occasions and I tend to just laugh it off. I've heard 'you're wasting away', 'don't lose any more, you'll look too skinny', 'if you lose any more you will look like a lollipop head on your wedding day', 'you're too skinny, put some weight on!' and 'keep losing and you won't have any bust left at all'. Amongst many others that I cannot recall.

As you can tell, the people in my life are very outspoken! I'm far from 'skinny' and still have 18lbs to go before I reach my ideal. I try to see it as a compliment that people have recognised my weight loss and feel compelled to comment on it but it does get a bit tedious at times.

Nobody has said that to me yet, but I suspect they will before I am done...

All that matters is that you are happy with who you are

I frequently get told I'm too bulk for a female

"obsessed is a word the lazy use to describe the motivated"

I think it's kind of crazy when people say things about certain body parts and weight loss. I haven't had any boobs comment, but people have said "Where is your butt?" and that is irritating to me because I still have a large bum and I actually like it, as does my fiance...but I guess because it is smaller than before, people say that.

I hate the comments like "Your arms look really thin now compared to the rest of you" or "The weight loss has made your shoulders look tiny", "I didn't remember your calves being so slim" and so on. It makes me more insecure about my changing body, and is a huge de-motivator! :-/

Also, it seems that women who are thin or average sized get into the habit of really talking a lot about their bodies and specific things they love/hate about their figures. I've noticed that for years especially among women who are the same or similar sizes. Always being overweight (which I still am) I am not used to those kinds of open comments and discussions! Usually people just comment on your face or something, when you're very heavy. So it's all new and that makes it even weirder and sometimes feels more "embarrassing"! It's like by losing weight I've opened myself up to that dialogue and I'd rather not...

Men aren't immune to this, AND it seems to go both ways.

My ex husband was very overweight and lost about 60 lb rapidly and w/o trying, due to poor health - it was right around the time he was diagnosed with a thyroid disease. He looked frail and bad, in my opinion, and I was worried about him because of that. Meanwhile, his friends and coworkers were saying, "WOW! You look amazing! You must really be taking care of yourself, good job man!" Disturbing.

My current fiance was over 100 lb heavier when he was in high school, and now he's at a healthy weight and very fit. The man is still built like a Viking/lumberjack but has a flat stomach and perfect runner's legs and so forth... He recently ran into some former friends who told him he looked really bad, pale and weak, and they tried to do an intervention over chicken wings (he stopped eating meat a decade ago).

RUDE!

I have encountered the exact same comments. I have successfully lost 50 pounds in 10+ months. For the last few months people have been telling me not to loose more weight. Really? thanks... I had not planned on it! But what business is it of yours? I feel great now and have left myself a couple pound wiggle room if I want it! Keep your chin up and be happy for the healthy changes you have made in your life!

Aww jees, I get this all the time. And I am a very healthy dieter. I do not look starved and neither do I want to. I'm in bloody great shape now. I eat well and work out with weights 4 times a week. My body is in good nick and its getting better all the time. I won't be stopping to feed the insecurities of anyone!! Needless to say, these comments always seem to come from women. Their partners......now thats a different story altogether

That comment drives me nuts. My mom is the worst offender. She's 5'1 and 110lbs and is constantly calling herself fat, yet when I was 5'3 and 140 she would tell me that I was looking too thin, eat more, etc. I've also seen this happen to friends on facebook when they post pictures of themselves after weight loss. There's always one or two people who try to tell the person that they're too thin and to stop losing weight, like it's any of their business. I think a lot of people are just ignorant, but there's also a ton of people out there that hate to see other people succeed where they have failed.

That comment drives me nuts. My mom is the worst offender. She's 5'1 and 110lbs and is constantly calling herself fat, yet when I was 5'3 and 140 she would tell me that I was looking too thin, eat more, etc. I've also seen this happen to friends on facebook when they post pictures of themselves after weight loss. There's always one or two people who try to tell the person that they're too thin and to stop losing weight, like it's any of their business. I think a lot of people are just ignorant, but there's also a ton of people out there that hate to see other people succeed where they have failed.

Absolutely. I am sure that most of the time these comments are born out of jealousy. If I go visit my family along with my husband and my Mother and sister comment that I have lost too much weight my husband will always say something like "well you must feel great now darlin, thats confirmation that you are smokin hot" when we are on the way home :P