"Don't lose any more weight!"

My old roommate told me this after I'd lost about 20 pounds (by eating clean and consistently working out, it dropped like mad in a month!), but I said that I still weighed over 200 lbs, which isn't healthy for me, she came back with some BS about how men don't like women too skinny. Insecure, much?

My old roommate told me this after I'd lost about 20 pounds (by eating clean and consistently working out, it dropped like mad in a month!), but I said that I still weighed over 200 lbs, which isn't healthy for me, she came back with some BS about how men don't like women too skinny. Insecure, much?

ding ding ding ding!!!!! Insecure indeed!!!!

I get this comment also, I try not let it bother me anymore and once your happy in your own skin why worry. When you get to your goal weight be happy and stand tall then over time your new look will be the norm.

GOOD WORK AND WELL DONE

My supervisor dropped that one at me about three weeks ago and surprised me. She said that I was starting to look waify in my clothes, but we wear scrubs! :laugh:

We (MFP) are all in this together. *high-five* to you, and keep doing what makes you happy as long as it keeps you healthy. :flowerforyou:

People say this to me all the time and I can honestly say it has never been out of concern. I've decided on a few reasons why....

1. This is their way of complementing you. They are actually really impressed with your weight loss and want you to know that you look fantastic just the way you are.

2. You're a lot smaller/skinner than you think. At 5'7 and 155 pounds, I still could lose a few pounds. However, when I looked at a photo of myself the other day I was so tall and skinny, it startled me. So I could understand why telling someone I want to lose an additional 10 pounds would be like..."whyyyyy?"

3. It's their way of acknowledging your weight loss. Believe it or not, talking about weight is very awkward for people. They want to give you praise for it, but sometimes just don't know how.

4. I usually get this compliment when I tell people how much I lost. Which makes me believe they don't understand how much 1 pound of fat looks like. When I say 101 pounds, some people could imagine a 101 pound child. That's a lot of weight and I understand when people say "you don't need to lose anymore." It's hard to comprehend. lol

I think you're reading too much into it. I usually smile and appreciate the fact that someone notices my hard work.

I like this comment. Especially number 2. One of my cousins lost about 90 lbs and I remember her saying that she weighed 125 and she's about 5'6. I never told her but I thought she looked ... too skinny, like sickly skinny. The reason I never said anything was because I thought everyone would say things about how I was jealous or something but it really wasn't that at all. I'm not sure what happened but she ended up gaining some weight and I guess reached a weight she's comfortable with and she looks really good now and just works on maintaining.

I think most likely it's because they are not used to you being that small and are possibly worried that you may not reach self satisfaction and end up hurting yourself so they are telling you that they think you look great. Though beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it's possible that they really do think you're too skinny like I did with my cousin but if so, they should keep their mouths shut.

I'm not very good with compliments but since I've been losing weight people at work are constantly telling me how much I'm losin and saying things like "You're getting so skinny!" and since I know it's not true, it comes off as sarcastic to me even though deep down I know it's not. I've been working with these ladies for a couple years now. But after talking to my brother who has lost 150lbs, I was told just say thank you and move on. I have been and I realize I'm becoming desensitized to the comments and instead of being awkard with it and just giving a smile and saying thank you, people are responding better and less. I feel like it was their way of encouraging me and since I seem more comfortable they are easing off.

So if someone says, "Don't lose anymore weight." Just smile and say thank you. If they want to discuss it say, "I've worked really hard to get where I'm at and the one thing that hasn't change with my weightloss is that I still don't like talking about it." If that doesn't stop them, just change the subject or turn away.

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What if you actually ARE too skinny? BMI doesn't work for everyone. In high school I weighed 200lbs +/- 5 all the way through except for the last couple months. I looked good. Solid but not really even chubby. In the last couple months I was so stressed that I dropped 20lbs in less than a month. For me, BMI says I shouldn't be over 165 to be "healthy". If I were there, I would probably be at less than 5% body fat and not be able to live. I was 15lbs more than that "healthy" 165 and I was too skinny.

Also, some people don't realize things about their bodies till it is mentioned. There are a good amount of people out there who don't know that they're fat till someone tells them. I would imagine it's the same for people who have eating disorders ect.

All in all, I would say if you ARE healthy, f em. If you aren't healthy, then take their words to heart.

The only people that have said that to me are the ones that want to lose weight, but aren't trying to... could be a jealousy issue... make yourself happy and healthy and just don't worry about it.. :-)

You're probably right......I think it's just I get more comments on my weight now than I did when I was obese...not just compliments (eg. Where have your boobs gone?). But maybe you're right. It's a compliment more than anything. I don't want to lose any more weight. I'd like to lose some belly fat but you can't target fat loss and my shoulders/chest just keep getting smaller and smaller!

If you are proud of yourself and feel good, it SHOWS.. and some people just dont know how to deal with it... When i lost 20 lbs and started feeling good enough about myself to start posting about my progress and sharing my successes, i had friends say "Well DONT BE LIKE OTHER PEOPLE and post about it EVERY TIME you lose a pound!" and the like...
I dont underatand why some people feel the need to react that way.. its my "social outlet" and ill post whatever the hell i want!!

It's their own insecurities acting up is all. They're trying to cover for the fact that they feel uncomfortable with their own weight.

I totally agree with this. I hear this from friends that used to be skinnier than me, but now I am in better shape than. I also hear it from friends that were about the same size as me when I first started dieting. These are the same friends that I tried getting to go on this healthy journey with me but they came up with countless excuses as to why they can't diet (schedule, not enough time, their husband wont diet, etc, etc). I also hear it from those that work out, but do not see change because of their poor diet... the same ones that asked me what I have been doing to lose the weight. I told them my diet plan, but yet they still do nothing to change their diet and still complain about not being able to lose the weight. Gotta think about who this statement is coming from. It might very well be that they are a little bit jealous of your accomplishment and do not want you to succeed any more than them.

I try to take it as a compliment though because number one, they are noticing my progress and number two, they have been used to me being a certain size for so long that now I do look really skinny compared to what I was in the past. I think they are just not used to my new look even though I am no where near being "too skinny".

I also hear it from my husband... He calls me boring when I opt for water instead of alcohol at the bar or if I pass on fast food or junk food. He also rolls his eyes at the fact that I log everything I eat or look up how many calories are in what (I have one of those husbands that could stand to lose a couple pounds but wont diet. This has been challenging because we still have junk food in the house. It has definitely given me very strong will power). I just tell him that I did NOT lose this weight just to gain it all back. And that this is a lifestyle change. And I also tell him that I can tell he is enjoying the benefit of me losing weight just as much as I am and to not complain about it haha. That usually shuts him up. As far as the others go, I do not really respond to that statement and just change the subject.

cant help, never been told this... never will. sorry =<

I actually had my doctor say this to me, and this was BEFORE I got to my goal weight.....crazy, huh?

People say this to me all the time and I can honestly say it has never been out of concern. I've decided on a few reasons why....

1. This is their way of complementing you. They are actually really impressed with your weight loss and want you to know that you look fantastic just the way you are.

2. You're a lot smaller/skinner than you think. At 5'7 and 155 pounds, I still could lose a few pounds. However, when I looked at a photo of myself the other day I was so tall and skinny, it startled me. So I could understand why telling someone I want to lose an additional 10 pounds would be like..."whyyyyy?"

3. It's their way of acknowledging your weight loss. Believe it or not, talking about weight is very awkward for people. They want to give you praise for it, but sometimes just don't know how.

4. I usually get this compliment when I tell people how much I lost. Which makes me believe they don't understand how much 1 pound of fat looks like. When I say 101 pounds, some people could imagine a 101 pound child. That's a lot of weight and I understand when people say "you don't need to lose anymore." It's hard to comprehend. lol

I think you're reading too much into it. I usually smile and appreciate the fact that someone notices my hard work.

I AGREE with all of the above. I think that's definitely a way of complementing. Also, while it is indeed no one's else business how much you lose or not, I have had other friends that lost weight and keep going to the point of anorexia. It's euphoric and people enjoy the attention so they keep going not realizing it's too much. Sometimes, if you love someone, you have to step in and say "enough is enough" even if it ticks them off. I know that's not your case, but may be for others.

I have actually said, "Why? Do you keep finding it?"

I totally feel your pain! I get this from my parents, kids, boyfriend, you name it they've all said it, it is the most annoying thing in the world to me! I need support from these people while I struggle with weight loss. I guess the best thing to do is explain to them how much it bothers you and that you would appreciate their support. Good luck

I get this all.the.time. now. And my goal is still 10-15 lbs away. Its so rude and annoying. Yes, it may be compliment from some people but its absolutely jealousy and rude from most people I get it from. They say it every single time i see them. I got it, you think I should stop losing weight now. And i think you should start losing weight but I dont say that.