"Don't lose any more weight!"

People say this to me all the time and I can honestly say it has never been out of concern. I've decided on a few reasons why....

1. This is their way of complementing you. They are actually really impressed with your weight loss and want you to know that you look fantastic just the way you are.

2. You're a lot smaller/skinner than you think. At 5'7 and 155 pounds, I still could lose a few pounds. However, when I looked at a photo of myself the other day I was so tall and skinny, it startled me. So I could understand why telling someone I want to lose an additional 10 pounds would be like..."whyyyyy?"

3. It's their way of acknowledging your weight loss. Believe it or not, talking about weight is very awkward for people. They want to give you praise for it, but sometimes just don't know how.

4. I usually get this compliment when I tell people how much I lost. Which makes me believe they don't understand how much 1 pound of fat looks like. When I say 101 pounds, some people could imagine a 101 pound child. That's a lot of weight and I understand when people say "you don't need to lose anymore." It's hard to comprehend. lol

I think you're reading too much into it. I usually smile and appreciate the fact that someone notices my hard work.

^This.

I think if you are offended by it then you either 1) can't take a complement or 2) really do have body image issues.

As an anecdote, my sister has been losing weight as well, and she's petite (about 5'3) and weighs around 155. She thinks that's so high for her height and wants to lose like 15-20 more lbs at least. But I can tell you, in person, she looks absolutely skinny. She could lose maybe 5-10 lbs and be fine, but I try to tell her she looks great and shouldn't worry so much about the scale. She doesn't believe me though, and that's why when some people say "Don't lose weight" they really are a bit afraid that you have body image problems, at the very least that you have a hard time accepting how small you actually have gotten.

When my husband says "You don't need to lose any more weight" I know he means "You look perfect to me and I love you" so I don't mind when he says it - even when I know I have at least 20-30 lbs more to go. He knows this too, but just says it to make me feel good about myself. I don't see how that's a bad thing.

I know myself that it's really hard for me to judge my own looks and correct weight. Just because the BMI scale says you're ok at 120 doesn't mean you're actually ok at 120. I usually try to judge more by the size of clothes and what I see in pics more than what the scale says. Also what my doc says.

It's aggravating to me as well. I definitely know where you're coming from. I'm 5"7 and 166lbs. I'm not even to a healthy BMI yet and I get this remark all the time. I just smile and say "I'll stop when I reach my goals". You're so right!! No one EVER said stop gaining weight...lol...which would have been the time for someone to step in.

I am hearing this all the time now. I don't know if it is jealously or concern. I am 5'4 1/2", 127 pounds and have a very small frame. I am 60 years old and feel great.

I encounter this often still. Depending on the person, they attribute weight loss as being a symptom of something wrong, rather than something right. Such as my grandmother who comes from a time when "skinny" was used for people whom are now considered "overweight". Others I know make the comment mainly as a self-confidence issue in themselves. It used to be annoying but after a while of hearing it from the same people, I guess the thick-skin grew and I no longer get bothered by it.

i think they are jealous of you,, some people want u to lose weight even if u are skinny to look ugly and unhealthy,, and some people even if u are fat or overweight and want u to gain weight,, to look ugly and unhealthy,,

just listen to the right and positive people and ask some advice to the professional nurse,doctor,personal instructor or nutritionist.



hope this helps,,

I also do not understand why noone made a peep when i was at my heaviest... im 5'2 and was 204 pounds... and i WISH that someone would have shaken me and screamed "GIRL WTF, youre getting chubby!! stop it!"

Everyone bubbles now, on and on, about how crazy it is that i lost 30+ pounds or how good im looking... where were they when i needed a kick in the head??

YES!!! I too wonder why no one pulled me aside when I was continually gaining, but now I'm at a normal weight some people think that can say whatever they feel!

I wonder if I should feel insulted that no one has said this to me. :ohwell:

But seriously, I think "Don't lose any more weight," translates to, "Damn, you look fantastic!"

Would you rather hear, "Yeah, you have a lot more to go?"

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I KNOW! Someone just said that to me the other day. It was a little uncomfortable, but I think she meant well. I usually say "I'm where I should now be for my height, so I wasn't planning to" Sometimes I tell them my actual height and weight and tell them that's where I should be. I also hear alot that I look like I've lost more than 12 pounds. I don't know if that's because I'm short or what. Yesterday someone said "No, you've lost 15 or 20 pounds", as if I was lying! I'm a nurse and sometimes I think people react that way because they want reassurance that you aren't ill.

I've heard this and its close relative "Wow, you dropped a ton!" I've never fluctuated more than 20 pounds at a time, so I don't consider that a "ton". Makes me wonder if I really looked huge before and never realized it.

People don't know what a healthy weight is anymore because they are conditioned to see the overweight and lightly obese as the standard body type. It's understandable because over 60% of the public is considered to be over an ideal weight range.

A couple of people said that I was too skinny at 100 pounds. I was skinny, I admit that. I had lost over 50 pounds and could not put on much muscle while eating at a deficit. But I could squat 140% of my body weight, and nobody said that I was too thin when they saw me lifting.