Why do girls like jerks? Why do they put up with them?
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why do men like b****s
The girls got a point! And sluts (I mean as a girl friend) When did the hard to get rule and the chase fly the f out the window!0 -
A lot of women don't want push-overs. We want a guy that can take control, keep us safe, is exiting, mysterious, etc.. It's what turns us on. Same reason a lot of guys like a sexy type of girl. High heels, long hair, *kitten*, boobs, girlie. Not saying it goes for all of them, just saying it goes both ways.
Unfortunately those types are often also hard to handle and a general pain in the butt
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If by jerk, we are talking about the strong, confident, arrogant bad boy kind of thing..... Then I believe it's an instinctual thing. In nature, the females are attracted to the Alpha wolves of the pack because of her survival instincts and the fact she wants her pups to have the strongest possible bloodlines. But, if we are talking about just plain jerks, well, then I'm as puzzled as you are.
I wouldn't define an Alpha personality as a "jerk". In the barbaric sense it is a dominance trait that is useful in a group as leadership. One can be an alpha and not abuse a woman mentally or physically. The typical "jerk" that does abuse women mentally or physically usually suffers from a lack of self confidence and many other issues.
Like others have said, the woman that stay with this are typically lacking in self confidence and feel that they can't do any better. While the jerk just continually feeds into this mentality.0 -
Girls always want what they can't have.
Jerks are unattainable - either because they're "players" or because they are just such idiots that you can't stand to be around them any longer.
Wait a minute........ Theres a place where you can go get one!
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maturity and self-esteem.
Thankyou!!!! All this bloody psycologic crap!!!! CONFIDENCE PEOPLE! I know I am pray to man *kitten*!!!! I LOVE THEM -_-....... I think I need help!!!0 -
responding to Maaike84 , "what? My boyfriend seriously is the nicest guy I know, so if opposites attract, am I then a *****? I guess I am from your standpoint - since I'm the type of girl you'd never marry, as I'm also "the career independent I don't need a man type" that you've been "stuck with" for years.
Sorry that you've had some bad experience with some women, but really - not all women only like jerks (though we all seem to have come across one or two dating-wise) and if you describe your relationship as being "stuck with someone" then maybe it's time to take a good look at your own relationships instead of making such sweeping generalisations."
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First of all, no one said all and said you. I dont think all women do but many do and many will admit it. I think that it is amazing that you dont like them but with many, opposites do attract. I know it is trendy to say words like generalizing but no one is here to offend anyone, we are just talking about how hard it is to find a good single woman who is like you. We are not trying to be disrespectful to anyone but it is hard to find. Sorry.0 -
Honest truth? Guys who are labeled "jerks" are usually good looking, exciting, dangerous and good in bed.
But on the flip side, there are guys who like psycho women. You know that term, "Hot- Crazy Scale"? As long as they are hot, they are allowed to be crazy.0 -
Because eventually someone has to eat the leftovers.Why do girls like jerks? Why do they put up with them?0 -
Everyone wants what they can't have.0
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I don't like jerks and I do not put up with jerks - never have. A-holes are the biggest turn-offs to me. I like a confident guy who stands up for himself and knows how to treat himself and others with respect. I always feel sorry for girls who pick jerk guys, the same way I feel sorry for guys who pick jerk girls. It's really sad, actually.
^She said it well. No jerks, jerk faces are mean! Throw rocks at them!
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Cause they can bang without hangups or insecurity and can just let go where it counts.why do men like b****s
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Sometimes it's rebellion, but I think a lot of the time it's because they've never felt worthy of anything better or don't believe anything better is out there (the 'all men are the same' thought process). I work with women on preparing for or strengthening their marriage and hear both of these things all the time. I know women who have met nice, good men and have sabotaged the relationship because they're just trying to get past what they think is a facade and uncover the 'real' guy underneath that will eventually treat them like crap. It takes a truly patient and loving man to get a woman past that kind of thinking.0
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I don't like jerks and I do not put up with jerks - never have. A-holes are the biggest turn-offs to me. I like a confident guy who stands up for himself and knows how to treat himself and others with respect. I always feel sorry for girls who pick jerk guys, the same way I feel sorry for guys who pick jerk girls. It's really sad, actually.
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The better question is, why do guys go after the girls who want jerks when they know they themselves are not a jerk?
I mean...girls who go after this kind of guy are in it for 1.) the drama (which often ensues) and 2.) the danger.
If you have neither of those to offer, don't waste your time-go after a girl who wants the nice guy that will be there for her.
I have many friends who go after the jerks. I don't understand them and I'm not one of them. I bagged a nice guy and I'm holding onto him.0 -
The better question is, why do guys go after the girls who want jerks when they know they themselves are not a jerk?
I mean...girls who go after this kind of guy are in it for 1.) the drama (which often ensues) and 2.) the danger.
If you have neither of those to offer, don't waste your time-go after a girl who wants the nice guy that will be there for her.
I have many friends who go after the jerks. I don't understand them and I'm not one of them. I bagged a nice guy and I'm holding onto him.
Hahaha! Really? You forgot sex. (which is before drama and danger) You are a 10/10 but now would not bang
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I think many confuse being a jerk as being sincere and confused being nice/polite as being untrustworthy. :sick:0
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The better question is, why do guys go after the girls who want jerks when they know they themselves are not a jerk?
I mean...girls who go after this kind of guy are in it for 1.) the drama (which often ensues) and 2.) the danger.
If you have neither of those to offer, don't waste your time-go after a girl who wants the nice guy that will be there for her.
I have many friends who go after the jerks. I don't understand them and I'm not one of them. I bagged a nice guy and I'm holding onto him.
I wish it was that easy but it is just not that simple. Many will try to date a nice guy and say they dont like jerks but later you find out that is not true and they are just trying to get away from that type. Many do eventually stop dating them but it is not easy for anyone.0 -
The better question is, why do guys go after the girls who want jerks when they know they themselves are not a jerk?
I mean...girls who go after this kind of guy are in it for 1.) the drama (which often ensues) and 2.) the danger.
If you have neither of those to offer, don't waste your time-go after a girl who wants the nice guy that will be there for her.
I have many friends who go after the jerks. I don't understand them and I'm not one of them. I bagged a nice guy and I'm holding onto him.
Exactly my thoughts. I've learnt that often the girls that are inscure or can't/don't want to speak for themselves are into "bad" boys.
Real men know how to treat a woman. There's no way I would settle with someone who doesn't respect me or treated me badly.0 -
Honest truth? Guys who are labeled "jerks" are usually good looking, exciting, dangerous and good in bed.
This. And there's something empowering about taming a bad boy. The former bad boys, who finally fall in love, are the best!0 -
Geez I'm really not sure.why do men like b****s
You seem like a real peach.
Men just adore women who call other women B*tches!0 -
Question is, why do guys only go after the tiny, blonde headed girls? Why do guys go for the girls that don't respect themselves?
What's wrong with me? I definitely don't like jerks but then again I don't even get looked at. When is the last time I was asked out on a date? About 7 years........ I am not skinny, but definitely not fat. I am not blonde by any means and I respect myself.
Answer me that!!!!0 -
I like to think of Tristan, from Legends of the Fall. We
those bad boyz! :glasses:
Because I'm a jerk, too. Actually, I'm probably a bigger jerk than my man. He puts up with me! Plus, it's a front. He has to appear to be macho, but he'll do ANYTHING for me.
He once threw a dog at me at a party. Obviously he liked me. Didn't hook up that time.
When he got out of jail looking all diesel... well, I just had to get with him, ya know.
Now he's my husband.0 -
So we have slut shaming, and women calling other womem B*tches.... nice.
Bitter, party of a few?0 -
The better question is, why do guys go after the girls who want jerks when they know they themselves are not a jerk?
I mean...girls who go after this kind of guy are in it for 1.) the drama (which often ensues) and 2.) the danger.
If you have neither of those to offer, don't waste your time-go after a girl who wants the nice guy that will be there for her.
I have many friends who go after the jerks. I don't understand them and I'm not one of them. I bagged a nice guy and I'm holding onto him.
Hahaha! Really? You forgot sex. (which is before drama and danger) You are a 10/10 but now would not bang
A little confused about what you're trying to say...
Only bad boys know how to have sex? Only bad boys know how to have good sex?
Are you saying guys go after girls that want bad boys even though they themselves are not bad boys because they want sex?
So confused. Plus in my personal (and perhaps old-fashioned opinion) sex is better with someone that respects you. I understand what you are saying...but...this is how I feel.0 -
This door totally swings both ways. there is a girl in my office, who is the most snotty, conceited, self absorbed, *****y human being I've ever met. Her ex boyfriend sent her flowers yesterday, and her response? "I don't like these flowers. Ew these are so ugly." But yet EVERY guy in our office is obsessed with her.0
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Question is, why do guys only go after the tiny, blonde headed girls? Why do guys go for the girls that don't respect themselves?
What's wrong with me? I definitely don't like jerks but then again I don't even get looked at. When is the last time I was asked out on a date? About 7 years........ I am not skinny, but definitely not fat. I am not blonde by any means and I respect myself.
Answer me that!!!!
Try dressing more feminine and smiling for no reason. I don't think, they think you're "available". Just another girls opinion based on your pics.0 -
This door totally swings both ways. there is a girl in my office, who is the most snotty, conceited, self absorbed, *****y human being I've ever met. Her ex boyfriend sent her flowers yesterday, and her response? "I don't like these flowers. Ew these are so ugly." But yet EVERY guy in our office is obsessed with her.
because she's unattainable. lol0 -
why do men like b****s
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I don't think girls like jerks, I think they like a guy who is confident and not a push over. The biggest problem is the guys who get friend zoned only hear the bad about the bfs after a fight or something like that so they assume the girl they want is dating a jerk because all they hear is the bad. Plus sometimes the so called nice guy is just as big of a jerk but just behind closed doors0
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